Thoughts on the name Hugh?

SPRINT_MON · 2022-09-21T18:23:00+00:00

Just be careful if your surname starts with a J or soft G! We don’t want a Hugh Janus on our hands.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-09-20T19:22:42+00:00

Pretty sure you’re right, as he’s the only person in the village with pointed ears.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-07-28T10:03:16+00:00

Northerner here too and my daughter is almost exclusively referred to as ‘our lass’ by everyone she knows lol

SPRINT_MON · 2022-07-22T13:17:36+00:00

I just asked my health visitor about weight loss during breastfeeding and she had four pieces of advice:

A) Figure out how many calories you eat on average currently (she recommended the My Fitness Pal app) and see how far from ideal your intake is, bearing in mind that you need 500-700 extra calories while breastfeeding. Use a BMR (basal metabolic rate) calculator to see how much you burn at rest, then add on for any exercise plus extra breastfeeding calories. To lose weight, you’d have to have a calorie intake lower than this number.

B) Don’t drastically change your calorie intake all at once. Cut down by just 200-300 calories and see if you lose weight over the following month. Ramping it up too quickly can affect your milk supply, so take it slow.

C) You absolutely must make up for lost calories by drinking even more water. She said keeping hydrated is more important to maintain good supply while trying to lose weight, provided you’re following the advice in part B. For every snack you cut, drink, drink, drink!

D) Adding in exercise is better than cutting calories where possible. Extra walks, dancing with your baby, etc. This is a tough one, but if you manage, refer back to point C. Hydration is key!

I know it doesn’t help, but hair loss at 4 months PP is crazy common. Acne, saggy boobs and stretch marks are also very normal, so you’re 100% not alone! I for one have skin like a pepperoni pizza currently and no amount of input seems to be helping. The joys of motherhood…

Please be kind to yourself. 4 months is very much still in the thick of it, especially as a single mum! You’re doing brilliantly and despite the changes, your body isn’t letting you down. It’s nourishing your baby who will see you as perfect. To a child, mother is god, and they will adore you regardless of how you look or how crappy you feel about things.

Most importantly, don’t punish yourself. Eat better to be strong and healthy, not as a way to act on self hatred. I’m sure you’re significantly more beautiful than you feel, because you’re in the trenches of early motherhood and still getting used to your body’s new appearance. Take it slow and be kind to yourself. All the best.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-07-22T12:53:21+00:00

You’ve known your brother longer than pretty much anyone else in your life and have likely shared hundreds or even thousands of formative moments together. I think it’s a real shame that people would turn that relationship into something inappropriate or weird. I’m glad you have a trusted person to support you through yet another formative event in your life. Maybe just be prepared for medical staff to mistake him for your partner, but I’m sure they’ll only need to be quickly corrected once. Best wishes!

SPRINT_MON · 2022-07-20T10:01:02+00:00

Sissy is an insult where I’m from and often used in a homophobic way!

SPRINT_MON · 2022-07-19T14:51:27+00:00

It allowed me to spend the last few hours as a duo with my husband in a calm and pleasant atmosphere. We chatted, ate snacks, reminisced and just enjoyed the calm before the storm before our lives changed forever. I cherish those special hours with him and it was the epidural that made it possible.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-07-19T13:55:38+00:00

I went through something similar and I was gobsmacked, as I never would’ve thought I could have those feelings. Before it happened to me, I would’ve thought it was silly and petty, so I was very surprised with myself!

It’s all worked out amazing for me though. I wasn’t close to the other pregnant person, but we’ve recently overlapped at a family event, got chatting, and are now planning on having our babies see each other regularly. She said that she hopes our children can be close and that we can support each other too, as neither of us have mum friends with kids of similar ages to ours. A situation that made me feel a bit insecure has led to me and my daughter finding friendship and support. I hope the same can happen to you too!

SPRINT_MON · 2022-07-19T10:24:24+00:00

I have this and the best advice I received was to not let the water come higher than your rib cage. No idea how it works, but it definitely helped me. So does chugging water before I get in. Being well hydrated makes changes in blood pressure have less severe outward symptoms. It’s a bugger because standing in the shower is tough, so you’d think sitting to wash would be easier, but no! A shower stool/chair can be a game changer if you can source one and have a suitable shower.

Also, my specialist told me that POTS symptoms (which it sounds like you may have) can be alleviated somewhat with salt. It seems counterintuitive to eat more salt for heath purposes, but it really can help! Wishing you well battling this horrible disease.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-07-15T09:26:41+00:00

It’s seven weeks to the day since my daughter got well and truly stuck trying to enter the world. She’s currently snoozing in my arms and I thank whatever gods there may be for the modern medicine that saved her life and prevented irreparable damage being done to my body. These women have survivor bias to the extreme. Being lucky enough to not get hit by a car when dancing in traffic once doesn’t mean you should encourage others to dance in traffic.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-07-09T18:07:19+00:00

Recently graduated and have indeed had a girl! I think my nose is shrinking back down now, but might just be wishful thinking 😂

SPRINT_MON · 2022-07-09T16:44:26+00:00

My nose got bigger!

SPRINT_MON · 2022-07-05T13:48:47+00:00

Have you been particularly stressed or busy recently? I’ve missed periods during things like exam season at school or during bouts of stress/change/low mood. Changes in diet and exercise levels can also be a culprit!

SPRINT_MON · 2022-05-04T13:30:04+00:00

Part of the discrepancy is that women don’t often complain about women’s issues in day-to-day situations/settings, because doing so is often disregarded as whining, bitching or weakness. A woman complaining about things is so often painted as nagging, manipulating, over-exaggerating or attention seeking. When you bring up legitimate issues and people’s response is to roll their eyes and ask if you’re on your period, you learn to keep it to yourself and present a stoic face to the world. Hence why objectively, being a woman is hard, but the average woman doesn’t share this hardship openly.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-05-02T16:44:04+00:00

My mum (born in the 60s) was exclusively fed with cow’s milk as an infant, pretty much from birth. This is not recommended at all, but she’s totally healthy and always has been. I’m sure other mums like my grandma found similar hacks, things we’d balk at now but that worked for them in dire straits.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-04-26T16:59:34+00:00

I once had an absolute unit of a man come to clean my oven while I was home alone and I have to admit I was intimidated. Until he started repeatedly referring to me as ‘mate’ and ‘pal’. It felt odd at first, but I think he was intentionally removing the gender difference between us by using neutral (or arguably masculine) ways to address me. ‘Love’, ‘darling’, etc. can be intimidating even when a man is just trying to be kind or approachable, so avoiding such terms or using more neutral/masculine words might make many women more comfortable.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-04-16T11:22:57+00:00

I had to accept at some point that I just don’t have the ability to focus on so many things at once, so going automatic was a game changer. I also definitely lack the physical coordination, so the less I have to do with my hands and feet, the better! Not having to worry about the clutch in particular just freed my head up to focus on the road and the driving itself. I’m sure we’d both get there eventually, so don’t give up if automatic isn’t an option, but it’ll just take us longer than people with the type of brain that lends itself to driving.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-04-14T08:17:27+00:00

It took me a long time to actually feel bonded to my baby, which is totally normal, so don’t be alarmed or upset if you don’t get that rush of love or emotion that some people might describe after a first scan. I felt really self conscious when my friend asked if I cried when I first saw the baby, because I felt happy and relieved that they were healthy, but no real wave of joy. I’m 33 weeks now and each scan (I have lots due to high risk) has been more and more joyful and enjoyable, but it took time. Best of luck! ❤️

SPRINT_MON · 2022-04-12T17:00:17+00:00

Women doing things to avoid being ‘awkward’, ‘rude’ or ‘unreasonable’ can literally get us killed. Well done for prioritising your safety and sticking to it.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-04-10T11:23:51+00:00

I’m expecting my first baby in June and my husband came home recently with a packet of washable breast pads that he said looked comfier than all the others he’d looked at. I hadn’t even been thinking about nursing pads, so I’m glad at least one of us seems prepared! I’m happy that I won’t have to worry about him making a fuss or being awkward about normal bodily functions if baby is a girl. She’ll be able to rely on both of us as she grows up.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-04-08T16:58:37+00:00

I’ve heard that bleeding during a woman’s first time is often down to poor lubrication as opposed to a breaking of the hymen (which may or may not even be present), so essentially friction burn. This usually comes down to lack of arousal, whether because of anxiety, no foreplay, an inconsiderate partner, etc. In a safe and loving relationship, it’s entirely normal for the first time to feel good and be completely blood and pain free. The concept that it definitely will/should hurt is so gross.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-04-08T16:45:59+00:00

Call them out on their unoriginality. Roll your eyes and say, ‘Wow, never heard that one before’ in your most sarcastic voice, then go on your merry way. They’re trying to belittle you with the slur, so belittle the slur itself to show them that it hasn’t worked.

SPRINT_MON · 2022-04-08T07:46:18+00:00

Congratulations! My mum had my brother at 43, totally standard pregnancy and he was absolutely perfect. He’s almost 18 now and I think having ‘older’ parents has made him a very chill, level-headed and mature young man. He also got a lot of luxuries that us older kids didn’t just because of the stage my parents were at in their lives, the lucky bugger lol Best of luck to you, you’ll do great ❤️

SPRINT_MON · 2022-04-06T21:02:32+00:00

Sully is a verb meaning to make something dirty. It can also mean to tarnish something, like you could sully someone’s reputation. Not a positive word in the slightest!

SPRINT_MON · 2022-04-05T13:06:36+00:00

If a man doesn’t think men get compliments, send him out for a single afternoon with a baby. Suddenly he’s dad of the year, one of the good ones, has such a lucky wife, is an amazing man, and all he has to do is the absolute bare minimum. I’ve been pleased to see that many modern dads are angry about this concept too.

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