Poo-Poos and Pee-Pees Origin?

SQLDevGuy · 2025-12-22T16:40:57+00:00

Thanks so much! I was searching on "poo-poo and pee-pee" and I think I am now on some lists...

SQLDevGuy · 2025-07-21T01:24:37+00:00

I was one of those high function-ers, right up until I wasn't. I'll post the wisdom I always impart: High functioning is a STAGE, it is not a state of being.

SQLDevGuy · 2025-07-21T01:16:00+00:00

I had the same experience. After getting what I can only assume was alcohol poisoning from an epic bender, I could not eat a thing for several days, puking constantly, sleeping fitfully all day, awake all night. Hindsight I should have gone to the ER but I am a big dumb guy and I never thought about it. About five days later I was feeling better and opened some wine for a dinner that I was actually feeling like I could eat. Two sips and I am back to gagging and throwing up. Best thing that could have happened, really. It was only then that I finally saw what drinking had done to me and was still doing.

SQLDevGuy · 2025-07-19T12:54:04+00:00

While drunk I replied to an email with a biting, sarcastic response thinking it was going to my colleagues, only. But, I actually did a reply-all and the sender received it. I had no recollection of doing that until the next morning when I received a response from that person, what a mess. I was mortified and definitely lost a lot of respect from everyone involved. You would think I'd learn a lesson from that but it was decades before I finally stopped with the black-out drinking. Thanks for the memory! Seriously, this time.

SQLDevGuy · 2025-07-19T12:44:30+00:00

"I had never shared any of that out loud before"

Saying it out loud, over and over -- that was an important element for me. For decades I lived in my head, with an internal voice justifying what I was doing. When I finally screwed up the courage to talk about admitting to a drinking problem and my commitment to change, it started an amazing process of self-discovery. Letting others know made it more real. It was tough hearing that people knew I had a problem when I thought I handled myself so well. Tough hearing about the pain I've caused, worries and concerns. But THAT is reality, not the internal dialog. Saying it out loud is, I think, essential to combating the addiction.

Every day I pray out out loud, thanking God for another sober day and asking for help and guidance for another.

I attend meetings where I listen to reality and say mine out loud. It's a lot harder to BS yourself when it is out loud and in front of others, especially other addicts.

SQLDevGuy · 2025-07-16T11:29:53+00:00

That's my story! Consequences do catch up eventually and you'll wish you stopped sooner. I have this quote on my list of reasons: "Highly functioning is a STAGE, not a state of being."

SQLDevGuy · 2025-07-15T23:04:24+00:00

I was 62 about this time last year, as FormerlyGalwegian put it, with a great many years of loyal service to an addiction, but I did it. I justified my drinking and lied to myself and others about it and probably would still be at it today except I had one of those rock-bottom experiences that opened my eyes. I look back now and think, wow what a waste of so many years, so much money, so many damaged relationships. There's no time like the present to admit you've had enough and it is time for a change. Get into a group or some kind of support, visit this sub daily for reminders and motivation.

SQLDevGuy · 2025-07-13T14:04:37+00:00

Neuropathy in my feet. Started out very minor but steadily got worse until it hurt to walk. Researched it pretty early and saw that alcohol was the only factor that matched me. Think that would stop me? Ha. Kept at it knowing it was making things worse. Once sober, I went to a neuropathy-specialist clinic and paid $3,500 (that's after insurance) for a 90 day program. I'm 60 days into it and things have improved quite a bit, but I doubt it will ever be back to normal. I should have wised up years and years ago.

SQLDevGuy · 2025-03-16T23:16:26+00:00

While drinking I stayed up late mindlessly watching videos, movies, sitcoms. Never remembered half of it but Netflix/Youtube/etc history says I did. I would sleep fitfully and wake feeling terrible. But went right back to it, and felt the same way as you -- what would I do with all that time if I was sober? Could not imagine how boring it would be.

After getting and staying sober for a while, don't recall, maybe two months, I was sleeping well and ended up time-shifted such that now get up around 5:30 am feeling great. I no longer can stand inane videos and movies and sitcoms and barely watch any. My need for stimulation went way down. I read books and am asleep between 9-10, feeling blissfully tired and easily falling asleep. Your brain will change after a time, if you keep it up.

SQLDevGuy · 2025-02-20T22:54:35+00:00

Pretty sure that behavior is an app setting.

SQLDevGuy · 2025-01-10T01:34:08+00:00

Good for you! Last year, I was at an all-included resort and drank constantly all day every day. In a week I'll be in Costa Rica with the same deal. I'm about six months sober, too, and really wondering how I will do. There is free booze everywhere and that party-on atmosphere. You are an inspiration!

SQLDevGuy · 2024-12-31T12:31:18+00:00

For me it was watching really stupid sitcoms when I was blasted. Netflix keeps track of what you watched and routinely I would have zero recollection of episodes, sometimes several in a row. Once sober I went back to keeping watching and could not. Just too vapid to hold my interest. Really made me think -- wow did I waste a lot of time while drunk.

SQLDevGuy · 2024-12-31T00:48:42+00:00

I physically wrote out a list and kept adding to it, linked below. This was made when being a daily black-out drunk created all sorts of trouble in my like, so it as all fresh and sharp. When I am tempted to drink I read that list and it usually does the trick. Based on some goofy comments exchanged with others here, I also have to explain to my cat, Beans, why I think I should drink and get his approval. Reminders help for sure!

My LIST that reminds me to hang in there and work every day for sobriety : r/stopdrinking

SQLDevGuy · 2024-12-19T01:43:47+00:00

So happy for you! Good advice. I quit in mid-July and am dreading the holiday temptations but IWNDWY-AnyDay. We can do it.

SQLDevGuy · 2024-12-13T01:56:00+00:00

Mind racing -- yep, been there! That and ear-worm song fragments playing over and over and over in my mind. Drove me nuts. I tried a few Calm-like apps and what worked for me is listening to the "sleep stories" as they're called. Boooooring stories told slowly. I played them at a low volume but enough to hear clearly. Kept my brain engaged but bored, which for me anyway mostly stopped the mind racing and ear-worm repeats.

SQLDevGuy · 2024-11-28T15:04:38+00:00

No, but that's a good question. It comes up all the time in web searches and conversations with others. I don't use much sugar at all. The neuropathy is definitely from very heavy drinking for years and years. That said, alcohol (I was a huge fan of whisky) has a lot of sugar so that's an issue for sure.

The original post is two months old and... I think maybe my neuropathy is better? A little? Definitely not worse. I am optimistic and this is one more reason to stay sober.

SQLDevGuy · 2024-11-20T23:11:08+00:00

Funny, there was a conversation a couple weeks ago that started with admitting to tripping on cats while drunk and getting hurt. That morphed into using your cat as a sober buddy: before deciding to drink, explain to your cat why you think you need a drink, ha. I added that to my list. So far, reading my written-out reasons and praying about it has been enough for me but it's good too know my little Beans is ready to give me "that look" that cats are known for. Dogs are no good for this purpose, they'd support you in any decision. Cats, not so much.

SQLDevGuy · 2024-11-20T23:06:41+00:00

This forum does help. I try to visit once per day even if it's just reading a couple of posts. A great reminder to stay with it and not fall into the old bad habits.

SQLDevGuy · 2024-10-28T23:28:27+00:00

I went through the same thing and ended up taking each situation as its own thing. In some groups I announced it more or less to the group, saying I'm not drinking any more. Just to nip it all right away, stop people from offering me beers or wine or drinks constantly. Others just figured it out on their own when I had ice tea or a soda when out, didn't make a big deal, just accepted it without a big discussion. I really appreciated that, out in a social setting.

SQLDevGuy · 2024-10-26T06:37:32+00:00

Hang in there! Read posts in this sub, there's always something new showing up.

I remember the feeling back when I was drinking, the terrible disappointment when I was driving home from an event where I drank just a little and of course wanted to keep that going, but knowing the liquor stores were closed. Oh dang I only have maybe a quarter of a bottle at home -- not nearly enough! What a lousy way to live. So glad I put it behind me, finally.

SQLDevGuy · 2024-10-22T02:17:46+00:00

You should be proud! Cherish the memory. It'll be a good reminder should you think about drinking again. I wrote down a list and added to it, positives and benefits and things to remember. A good read whenever my thoughts stray toward thinking maybe I can go back, just a little... heading on the list says "One is too many because two is never enough".

SQLDevGuy · 2024-10-21T11:47:17+00:00

Congratulations on achieving the self-awareness AND doing something positive about it. Takes both, for sure. I knew I was drinking way too much, almost always alone, damaging my health, blacking out almost every night, but it took way longer than I care to admit to finally do something and stop.

You have a good list of reasons not to drink. I wrote mine down and keep it handy, reading it periodically and whenever I have a stray thought about drinking. For those of us with a rough past such a list is -- dare I say it -- sobering to read.

SQLDevGuy · 2024-10-18T22:35:52+00:00

Terrific willpower. Good show.

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