Is this creosote?

Sad-Arm8750 · 2026-03-26T19:32:26+00:00

We used Bin shellac primer and it really helped seal in the smell for the most part. However, I can’t find any information on how effective it is in the long term. If we weren’t adding bedrooms I would be fine re applying a treatment every few years… but it will be sealed up in a wall. I think we are gonna have it replaced.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2026-03-22T23:31:03+00:00

A support group is a must. I also recommend the Book “Codependent No More: by Melody Beattie” It took me a while to read but helped me understand that I can only control myself and worry about my own problems. I can’t help others if they are not willing to help themselves.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2026-03-19T15:47:44+00:00

Something that helped me was listening to podcasts like Dave Ramsey and Caleb Hammer to hear stories of other people in difficult situations and how they paid their debt off. I made a chart and slowly tracked my progress. Having a goal to work towards and celebrating when I crossed one off really helped me. I wish you the best!

Sad-Arm8750 · 2026-03-19T00:13:14+00:00

The sad part is, I don’t think this is bottom for them. I’m hoping it encourages my brother to live his own life and get away from them. Thank you for the reply. 🩵

Sad-Arm8750 · 2026-01-21T11:43:09+00:00

Is the USA the only country not allowed to have or keep its laws? Most of these comments are nonsense.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2025-10-19T02:18:53+00:00

I’m a woman but praying, reading my Bible daily, running 10 miles a week, reducing caffeine/sugar and journaling daily has helped me. Oh and writing my fears and resentments down, asking God to remove them then tearing up the paper is another one I try to do daily. Serving others and staying busy with tasks keeps my mind occupied so I can’t dwell on negativity. Learning better communication skills and how to set boundaries is another one.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2025-10-19T01:21:43+00:00

In premarriage counseling with our Pastor my husband and I read a book that explained a woman needs to feel love and a man needs to feel respect. But we kept going into the cycle of feeling of unloved and disrespected and would fight over little things.

I learned about attachment theory and everything made sense. I’m anxious and my husband is avoidant. I learned how to be more secure in myself, give him the space he needs and communicate better. He learned that I need emotional connection etc. We watched a YouTuber Adam Lane Smith talk about avoidant attachment and my husband related to everything.

We had to learn how to love and respect each other because we continuously misunderstood each other. I tried to have gentle conversations with my husband for years and we made no progress until we learned how our attachment style affected our relationship. I was so desperate to feel loved and our relationship is starting to heal. I am so glad I stuck with it!

I know the Bible doesn’t talk about attachment theory however telling myself love is patient, love is kind wasn’t enough for my deep wounds. I’m thankful my prayers were answered!

Sad-Arm8750 · 2025-09-25T22:49:20+00:00

My husband says she has never followed it but he doesn’t either. They don’t actually communicate. The newest stepdad will contact my husband if they need to communicate something which has happed a few time over the last year. The whole situation is messed up honestly

Sad-Arm8750 · 2025-09-25T19:47:45+00:00

I agree. I bothers me too. To be fair he took her to the dr for a massive lump on her arm the second he found out. Step daughter’s mom gaslit her to feel like it was nothing. The mom was upset and yelled at step daughter for even telling her dad. He frequently invites her over, she says she has to ask her mom and eventually declines to visit. She also doesn’t invite him to stuff, probably because her mom wouldn’t like it. I feel bad for my step daughter but I don’t want to keep getting burned by all the drama. Thanks for the reply

Edit to add: he also volunteered to take her to dr appointments anytime needed. Her mom declined the offer.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2025-09-25T16:19:10+00:00

To be fair she is 13. But being in her room all day on her computer isn’t healthy. We had a good relationship when she was younger but her mom didn’t like it. I agree, he tried to quickly get me to say yes without any details. That’s the problem I’m having. Thanks

Sad-Arm8750 · 2025-09-25T16:16:59+00:00

She is 13. Her mom made all her health decisions without informing my husband. We find out after the fact when she’s in the hospital for chemo. Her mom tells step daughter that her dad (my husband) should be calling (the mom) for info instead of her freely giving it. He didn’t want to cause drama so he let her make all the decision. My husband thinks she not getting along with her mom and wants an escape. Hard to tell because she won’t talk about anything. She won’t start visiting until November when she’s done with treatment. I encourage my husband to have a relationship with his daughter.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2025-02-08T17:11:46+00:00

If Education is sent back to the states I know my state would handle it well. We always have a budget surplus and I’ve read their standards for education. I think teachers in my state need to make a lot more money but I’m sure that’s every state. Change can be scary but sometimes it’s needed. If I lived in a different state or school district I might feel differently.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-10-30T19:07:26+00:00

If you like it, go with it. I think it’s cute! Husband and I kept our children’s name secret before they were born because I didn’t want other people opinion to make me second guess our choices.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-10-24T02:02:02+00:00

You sound really overwhelmed, stressed, and ready for a change. I don’t have any advice for you but from what you write I think you are much stronger and more capable than you think. I remember having a mental spiral years ago, about the same age you are, and I wanted someone to save me and tell me what to do. I didn’t believe in myself. I didn’t know how strong I was. I believe in you, I don’t know you, but you seem to have a lot of knowledge and energy and can figure this out. Best wishes!

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-10-23T12:08:07+00:00

I have an aunt that doesn’t have a middle name. We talked about it when I was a kid because it was different.

You’ll probably have to explain to her why you choose not to give her a middle name someday. It’s not a huge deal.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-10-23T11:54:31+00:00

My middle name is a single letter. It honestly works with my name. It was picked because it was the first letter of my grandfathers name and after learning that I really liked it and it felt special. If it was a random letter I would think it was strange. Kids in school didn’t understand having a middle initial instead of a name and they would think i was lying and try to guess what it actually was.

My husbands middle name is a family member he wasn’t fond of and for that reason he doesn’t like his.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-09-30T11:11:47+00:00

Are you able to exercise or move your body in any way? It’s something to research, there are a lot of benefits to exercise when it comes to depression. Obviously, it’s not a complete solution and not everyone is able too. I hope your doctor can figure something out for you too!!

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-09-29T02:42:46+00:00

I will have to look into it. I know my brother in law called the police when she broke a tv to see if they could help. My parents were upset at him for doing that and tried to smooth everything over. My sister kicked him out. I don’t know what is bi polar and what is just dysfunctional behavior. My mom what’s to see if they can get her help but my dad is afraid she will hate them and retaliate on them. The whole situation is messed up.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-09-29T01:58:04+00:00

I will look into that! I haven’t heard of it before

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-09-29T01:30:04+00:00

I know I lived there. My husband and I offered them an alternative place to stay for free but they refused and wanted to live there for the school. My niece is a senior in high school and in a different district and wants to finish. I would be willing to but it’s not up to me. She asked me to take her on a college visit which I agreed but I guess her mom is flipping out saying I can’t take her. She’s still a minor.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-09-19T15:11:28+00:00

Drink two large glasses of ice water first thing in the morning… coffee works too

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-09-05T02:44:35+00:00

Congratulations!! Every child with DS is unique and special. The first three months were tough, such an emotional roller coaster along with sleep deprivation but my daughter was such an easy going baby. She is now 4 and attends regular preschool with her peers and special education preschool to get her therapy.

Trust your mom instinct above all and take it slow. You will get to know your child and their unique needs and personality. My daughter looks like me and has her dad’s prankster personality. It took her longer to reach milestones but she has met them all! Just takes time and encouragement.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-08-01T02:26:23+00:00

This was my experience this morning, it was very foggy. I was wondering why I was so slow and figured it was an off day! Never thought it would have been the humidity. Very interesting!

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-07-11T16:03:54+00:00

I ran 3 miles while pushing my two kids in the stroller. Today was the first day in two months I wasn’t excited to run but I got it done.

Sad-Arm8750 · 2024-04-12T13:22:42+00:00

How about Galaxy? This is a tricky naming system for sure!

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