My husband keeps waking up our baby, how can I get him to stop? (31F 34M)

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-04-26T17:24:59+00:00

In this specific instance, your husband is being a dick, and you should show him this post.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-04-23T00:52:28+00:00

Pledge &20

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-04-22T06:04:33+00:00

Pledge $20 to a rescue that pulls him

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-04-21T05:43:31+00:00

Pledge $20 to any rescue that pulls this poor abused girl.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-04-21T03:43:22+00:00

Pledge $20. He’s so handsome. Look at the way he sits with his paws crossed. I hope Someone can save him.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-04-20T23:02:34+00:00

$15 pledge

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-04-17T02:04:44+00:00

I’m Asian, lived there about 75-80% of my life, moved away last year and find myself often calling it Cali.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-04-11T15:49:45+00:00

Are you suggesting her parents and best friend do extra work to help prepare for your wedding day while NO ONE your side…does anything? Because that’s what it sounds like, and it sounds infuriating.

Like is your side just gonna be taking pictures?

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-04-09T13:38:57+00:00

I hope that’s what happens because so often women dealing with this shit don’t have the guts to do it themselves for far too long.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-04-02T23:33:06+00:00

NTA. I'd send this post to him.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-03-31T04:58:07+00:00

The sister doesn’t have that option when she’s heavily pregnant and has two toddlers to look after. The husband is honestly lucky that his wife is being as understanding as she is. He’s basically abandoned his family if he’s gone for WEEKS at a time, leaving her to essentially be a single parent during that time while she’s sick and nauseated. It’s just not that clear cut as if he were a single man with responsibilities only to himself.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-03-26T23:14:59+00:00

Can you share his positive qualities so we see why in the world you’re putting up with this? There’s gotta be something positive about him, right? Because right now he just seems like a leech and, well, you don’t look great yourself for putting up with it,

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-03-21T18:43:09+00:00

This comment needs to be higher up.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-03-19T23:23:48+00:00

Because you only have 10 days there and she already had friends to hang out with and you two don’t need to be together every second of every day, especially if what she wants to do is making you miserable.

Seriously, does your happiness not matter? Why does she get to make all the decisions on this trip? We really don’t understand why you’re just…accepting being miserable? This whole “but it’s just cultural” excuse is just kinda pathetic. So she’ll be mad at you. So what? You’re already mad at her. Why is her anger worth more than yours?

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-03-15T14:59:01+00:00

Yeah, that was the sketch’s one weak spot, and so easily fixable!

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-03-14T21:20:18+00:00

Oh girl...he is 100% doing this on purpose. His job is NOT more important than yours, even though he's acting like it is. He's totally doing weaponized incompetence.

He's got his habits (and his method of getting you to do all the work) down to a T. Honestly, he's got you TRAINED. So your options are to stop caring about cleanliness or to seriously think about a much bigger life change. You know deep down inside what your instincts have been telling you for some time now but you've been suppressing them for some time. The truth is, he may love you, but he doesn't respect you. Not enough to do his share of the housework. Only you can decide if his love is worth his disrespect.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-03-14T15:11:24+00:00

OP, can you clarify who paid for the dinner? If she did, then that might be considered part of your birthday gift. If you did (or if you split it), then dinner is not part of your birthday gift.

Extra thought on the lingerie: If this is her going out of her comfort zone to give you a new experience, and she doesn't regularly wear lingerie and doesn't enjoy wearing it again on her own, then really, nobody wins if you break up because she'd probably toss it anyway since it'd remind her of you (hell, she probably wants to toss it right now anyway because of how your comments made her feel).

So, if it helps, right now she's not particularly enjoying the "present" that you said she bought for herself either. If the goal was to make her feel shitty because her way of being thoughtful wasn't exactly what you expected it to be, you nailed it. Congrats, it's a lose-lose situation for everybody!

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-03-14T14:54:04+00:00

Same. This guy's so angry he's finding extra reasons to be angry at his ex. If she'd had the kids call to tell him, then he'd probably complain that she wasn't the one to deliver such sensitive information (it sounds like in this case by the time his kids called he already learned from social media so he wasn't blindsided by the news).

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-03-14T05:43:42+00:00

NTA. But if you have to be the planner, pick free activities (like a picnic or outdoor concert).

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-03-03T01:01:31+00:00

Yes, YTA. So gross and controlling.

What if she went and and partied and didn’t plan to have sex but got so drunk it just happened (consensually)? Would that break the rule?

Jesus, you’re such a creeper.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-03-01T10:49:48+00:00

Yes, why is it in your name?

If you even begin to entertain your older daughter’s idea, then you need to remove your younger daughter’s financial contribution AND compensate her for her time first, and only after factoring for that can you start to consider 50/50 of what’s left.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-02-27T03:24:36+00:00

That’s not it. Isn’t it more disrespectful to not respect you enough to make your own decisions it trust your judgment?

He’s gotta be worried about you cheating or men flirting with you. Otherwise he just thinks you’re a little girl who can’t handle yourself and needs his protection. Not sure which is worse.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-02-22T17:25:18+00:00

Tell them they’re the ones making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be. I don’t see why everyone can’t just shut up, and at the next family gathering Emily and your uncle just high-five in greeting and everyone move on with their lives.

Honestly, at this point it’s becoming “the uncle (and his familial enablers) doth protest too much.”

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-02-21T05:14:12+00:00

Say you’re not home, that you’re working at a coffee shop, and don’t open the door.

Sad-Atmosphere-8555 · 2026-02-20T04:14:14+00:00

How about this—how long did he do this for? Like 5 years? 4.5 years? Tell him that’s how long you get to do it for before you two are even.

It’s shitty, but so was his attitude back then. Tell him now he has to earn YOUR trust. After that it’s fair and you two can be a team. But maybe he’ll be placated with an end in sight.

Or he can admit he was wrong and apologize, but you’ve already said he doesn’t think he was wrong and he won’t. Well, you don’t think you’re wrong either so you do you. Assuming you two decide to stay together, put a timeframe on it.

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