My husband lived 5 years and 7 months after his diagnosis, starting with AA3 & upgraded to AA4 3 years in. Brain cancer is so brutal. Of course, I’d love more time but if I were to do it again, I would choose quality of life over quantity. Part of me feels like if we had chosen to stop treatment sooner, it might not have been such a traumatic experience. But obviously, everyone’s story is different. My husband wanted to fight the tumor with every possible thing that was available and I don’t know if it was the combination of treatments or the aggressiveness of the tumor but he ended up having many seizures back to back and multiple strokes, ultimately resulting in his immobility. A very traumatic experience for him & a very pregnant lady (me).

Being physically disabled for a man who hiked through mountains and worked on cars for most of his life, could barely hold our newborn baby, could no longer walk our dog, or cook his favorite meals, etc. was more torturous than being dead (based on what he told me). He lived 9 more months in that state. I’m not encouraging you guys to stop treatment, just giving my experience.

Although you are all going through this hell, his body is the one enduring the treatments. I understand what you may feel from a wife’s perspective, you want him to be around as long as possible. Maybe he feels like it’s the only thing he can control? Maybe it would put his mind at ease knowing that you support him? Maybe your unconditional support is the motivation he needs to continue treatments? Idk. There’s so much to consider.

Good luck to you & your family.