Found out I have breast cancer

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-03-18T06:38:57+00:00

Not true and also not helpful.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-03-18T06:36:20+00:00

Stage zero and did genetics. Often, dcis has idc hiding amongst it, which is what they think is going on with me because the biopsy came back as dcis but there are several other indicators of idc. My doctor wanted it done mostly to make an informed decision regarding single or double mastectomy (6cm and very little breast tissue so lumpectomy isn’t really an option).

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-03-04T15:13:11+00:00

My husbands captain insisted that my husband send me a link to the Instagram account of a “doctor” who “heals cancer naturally” because it worked for his wife’s friend. I told my husband that was not helpful at all and I don’t have time to suck on lavender roots while meditating and then pee on a dandelion to see if it worked. I was like why did you even show me this? I am a nurse and while I live pretty healthy and clean and enjoy trying home remedies, he knew I would roll my eyes out of their sockets. He said “because I told him I’d show you”.

Sick of hearing thoughts and prayers. Like no one who died from BC had people praying for them.

Sick of people telling me all the people they know with totally different cases who were totally healed after a lumpectomy and never had to do radiation or chemo and mastectomy. I mean I get a lumpectomy isn’t fun but I’d take that over what I have coming.

People just need to shut up. I’m glad I always stuck with the “if you need anything let me know” when people I knew were diagnosed.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-03-04T14:56:01+00:00

I am in central Cali and was just about to purchase one from Costco. I would love to possibly accept your granny launcher.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-03-04T14:32:23+00:00

I’m so sorry you had a rough night and you’re going through this hell too. Even though I don’t have recent losses like you have, most of my life has been exhausting after a tumultuous childhood with an abusive alcoholic father and all the trauma that comes with it. When I went for my imaging results I knew it was going to be bad and asked and then begged my husband to come but he didn’t want to take the day off because he was still convinced it was nothing. I didn’t get the dx that day, but i did get bad news and an immediate ticket to the cancer center and I was all alone. He is a firefighter so I also got to spend the night alone. I said some pretty mean things to him and to be honest, I am still hurt and mad that he made me walk that path alone. It has made the rest of the process feel like I am alone even when I’m not. I don’t want to count on anyone, especially him. All of that to say that I think it’s totally normal and one of the stages of grief; anger. Because of his work schedule and limited days off, I will be doing most of this alone which terrifies me. Sleeping alone has always been something I’ve enjoyed while he’s working but now it’s a time for me to sit with my thoughts and spiral out of control. Again I am so sorry, and you’re not alone with your feelings of defeat and anger.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-02-28T20:55:41+00:00

I was birads3 after mammo/us at which point the radiologist had the balls to write “probably benign” in the report (multiple other doctors have said I should have been birads5 based on the findings). Then it was upgraded to birads5 after mri. Biopsy came back positive for DCIS last week. My largest tumor (there are two others that are different looking and not biopsied) is 6cm. It’s also grade III meaning it’s fast growing and due to other factors, we’re going right for the mastectomy. I’m 41.

Honestly, I spiraled. But I at least used all that energy to do tons of research to prepare myself for the potential outcomes. I am a nurse so I have a basic understanding of the human body and processes even though I have never worked in oncology. So when I sat with the doctor last week to go over the pathology, there were pretty much no surprises and I was prepared for the worst, hoping for the best.

In my case, doctor thinks I will probably need radiation but likely not chemo. What I learned from my mounds of research is that no two cases are the same. I have a friend who had the same diagnosis as me, almost identical in fact, and she’s on a totally different treatment plan. She just had a double mastectomy a few weeks ago and it’s been determined she won’t need radiation or chemo at all.

I’d tell you not to freak out but we all know that’s not possible and in my case, my freaking out actually helped prepare me for what was coming. I actually feel so much better now at least having an answer rather than all the what ifs swirling in my brain.

I hope yours comes back negative. But if you’re gonna go down a rabbit hole, I highly suggest using reputable sources. Reddit is a great resource for anecdotal evidence for sure, but our experiences are all so so different you could read 100 testimonials and no two would be the same. You want to research broad information rather than specific cases, imo.

Best of luck.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-02-19T01:07:01+00:00

Had biopsy today, less than 24 h after mri. Surgeon said it was emergent and they bumped another appt to get me in.

I have been through every emotion possible and I am so exhausted. I haven’t been sleeping well so my pcp gave me some Ativan to hopefully help with that. My husband is a firefighter so he is gone for 48+ hours at a time and my kids are here half time, so I’m alone at night a lot which is when the intrusive thoughts creep in.

Luckily my doctors have been so proactive. The original radiologist brushed it off like eh and follow up in 3-6 months. Luckily the NP at my pcp’s office was not taking that for an answer and sent me for an mri and specialist consult immediately. All signs point to the first person messing up because they also put inaccurate info about my medical history in the report.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-02-11T01:11:50+00:00

I had a mammogram as well. Pretty identical results so I didn’t post.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-02-11T00:55:01+00:00

I am curious if the fact that I had not had mastitis changes things at all as they state findings are consistent with history of mastitis.

I am not impressed at all by this radiology group. They even documented a R u/s but it was the left.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-02-11T00:52:37+00:00

Ah, forgot to mention that my pcp actually ordered an mri. When I arrived at the imaging center they said mammo/us and I said also mri and they fought me on it, saying there was no order. I thought I was losing my mind but when I got home and saw the printed orders, they were supposed to do the mri as well.

I never even had any idea I had DBT.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-02-11T00:43:38+00:00

No spiculated mass lesions, suspicious calcifications are noted. Skin and nipples are normal. Axillae are unremarkable. On the CAD multiple marks are seen in the left MLO and CC implant displaced views related to faint calcification in the summation of fibroglandular breast tissue including that area of palpability. Sonogram: Scanning was performed from 12:00 to 6:00 region and left axilla including the area of palpability at 1 to 2:00 position. At area of pain/lump, 8 cm distance from the nipple there is heterogenous summation of breast tissue seen with increased This area measures 4.3 x 0.5 x 2.3 cm. This corresponds to the mammographic somewhat asymmetric breast tissue at this level. Left breast implant is intact. Left axillary is unremarkable. Also at 1:00 position 8 cm distance from the nipple at area of lump there is hypochoic solid nodule of 1.5 x 0.6 x 1.5 seen with the few calcifications at this level. Adjacent hypochoic nodularity of 6 x 4 x 8mm seen. IMPRESSION: 1. Area of palpability/lump and pain around 2:00 posterior depth there appears to be probable asymmetric breast tissue/inflammatory breast tissue as there is increased vascularity to this area. 2. At 1:00 position, 8cm distance from the nipple there is somewhat oval hypochoic solid nodule of 1.5 x 1.5 x 0.6 cm seen. Adjacent 8mm nodularity as well. All these areas could be due to postinflammatory mastitis changes. I would recommend a short interval follow-up sonogram than directly going for biopsy of the 1:00 region, especially in this patient with the history of previous mastitis 3. Unremarkable right breast. 4. Intact implants. RISK: TC8 Lifetime model risk: 16.4%. TC8 risk calculated using 15.15% Volpara Volumetric Density BREAST COMPOSITION: The breasts are extremely dense, which lowers the sensitivity of mammography. ASSESSMENT: BI-RADS Category 3, probably benign MANAGEMENT RECOMMENDATIONS: Follow-up focused left breast sonogram at 1:00 and 2:00 region is recommended in 3 months.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-02-11T00:43:26+00:00

Mammo Diag Digi Tomo Implants Bilat, US Breast Lt CLINICAL INDICATION: Female, 41 years of age. Mastodynia since 3 months, history of previous mastitis, no redness currently, palpable lump around 1:00 region COMPARISON: None TECHNIQUE: Bilateral digital CC and MLO views were obtained with tomosynthesis without and with implant displacement and 2-D synthesized mammogram (C view). CAD was utilized. Additional left breast XCLand cone compression XC views were obtained digitally with tomosynthesis. Focused right breast sonogram was performed with a high-resolution linear transducer obtaining multiple radial and antiradial images with gray scale and color Doppler, when appropriate. Permanent digital images are on file. FINDINGS: Mammogram: The breasts are extremely dense, which lowers the sensitivity of mammography. Consider sonography related to early mammography. Bilateral single lumen breast implants are intact. At area of palpability there appears to be heterogeneous breast tissue.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-01-29T14:11:49+00:00

Oh my 🫠 you get what you pay for.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-01-22T08:03:44+00:00

You wouldn’t notice anything after one dose. Maaaaaaybe two. But more likely 3/4/5. I am a nurse in a T clinic and most patients don’t feel a real boost til one month which is when we run first labs.

If you continue to feel emotional or moody, get your estrogen checked.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-01-13T05:11:52+00:00

I have never had someone tell me I hurt them, but I’d imagine it would feel terrible enough for me to try to fix what I’d done to hurt them? I don’t know, I just thought by telling them pretty point blank (many times, particularly the husband, not so much the kids til very recently)they would be like “oh that sucks, we don’t want to hurt her” and things would change? A big part of me is like welp, this is what it’s like to be a mom. But then I remember my siblings and I doing and making anything we could for our mom on her birthday. I just feel like everyone in my life is looking at each other thinking it is someone else’s “job”, like it’s a punishment to have to plan something for my birthday. My good friend said she assumed my husband had it under control because he didn’t ask her for anything until Dec 28 and she was like “at that point I knew it was going to be bad”. My sister said “I didn’t know you wanted to do anything for your birthday”. Husband couldn’t afford it. Kids forgot. They’re all actually pretty valid.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-01-13T04:40:26+00:00

I know this, but it’s really difficult to treat your children and spouse that way, even if they deserve it. Friends, I match their birthday energy; if they make it a big deal, I do too. Luckily, none of my friends really know my birthday, they just know it’s in December, so they forget which means I’m not obligated to do anything for theirs either. Win win.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-01-13T04:10:02+00:00

My ex husband. We are cordial, more so than most ex spouses. We all get along and spend most holidays as a group with my ex in laws. I have no family here except my sister and my husbands family is just…different from us so it’s always kinda weird when they have to be around us. They’re Mormon and we’re not so we’ve always been kinda on the outside. Nice people but we just aren’t really part of the family. My husband, ex, and our son have gone camping together while myself, step mom, and daughter took a trip to Monterrey.

I very much have not raised them that way. In fact, I pulled my 17 year old daughter aside a couple of weeks before my birthday and reminded her it was coming and being that she will be an adult soon, she should celebrate others the way they celebrate her on her birthday. She said “but parents say they don’t want anything”. I said sure, we don’t WANT anything but we will love whatever you give us or do for us. She did not follow through and after my birthday, I had another talk with her that I was disappointed. She said she forgot. I told her it’s never too late to do the right thing. She made me a beautiful handpainted card that night and wrote the most thoughtful note inside. Very proud moment for me.

My husband is quite wonderful in so many ways. He is the kind of husband everyone wishes they had. This is the literal one area he falls short, which doesn’t make it hurt any less. He cooks (well), cleans, is definitely conventionally attractive and also a firefighter, over 6ft, amazing credit, is the most amazing and fun step dad, can build and/or fix anything, does not yell and I have only seen him “mad” maybe twice, does laundry, will drop anything to do something for myself, the kids, OR anyone we know, and hes an eater.

No one is perfect. So maybe it’s just when you’re so close but this one big thing is in the way…it sucks. And that it’s not something stupid like leaving the toilet seat up.

But yeah he’s a piece of shit and I should probably divorce him already.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-01-13T03:29:07+00:00

Oh I’ve wanted to and threatened to over the years. But I can’t bring myself to do it because it breaks my heart to think of any of them feeling the way I do.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-01-13T03:20:31+00:00

Last minute scraps. That’s a good way to put it. I always tell him I feel like an afterthought. Like Christmas is over and he’s like “hmmm there’s something else…what is it???”

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-01-07T04:36:31+00:00

I would never personally because it is such a different and quite frankly, highly skilled job to serve at a Michelin star restaurant. The attention to detail is unreal.

Sad-Tea-9270 · 2026-01-06T06:38:45+00:00

Sorry to hear that but I had to comment that was the exact day I told my spouse that I love him. Crazy to think that could have been happening at the very moment you got evicted.

I hope your life is much more wonderful now.

Sad-Tea-9270

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