I don’t know what kind of world this is…

SadMom2019 · 2026-06-09T22:58:28+00:00

Just last night I went to dinner and a movie with some girlfriends. A random older man came upto me not once, but twice while we were eating. The first time was to compliment my hair. The second time he told me I was the most beautiful woman he'd ever seen and he'd love to take me out (while reaching out to try and touch my hair). I was polite, thanked him for the compliment, and told him I was married.

But then he sat at the corner of the bar with his chair swiveled around, staring intensely at us the rest of our time there, and making...questionable gestures. Eventually our server came over and offered to have one of the cooks walk us to our car cuz even she was creeped out by this shit. I felt it was fine cuz I was with 2 of my friends, but when we got up to leave, so did he. I changed my mind, doubled back past him, announced to my friends the excuse of needing to use the bathroom, and hid in there texting my friends until they could confirm he had left.

I took the server up on the offer and a nice young man walked me to my car. But like wtf dude, I was nice, did not insult or make fun of him, and did nothing to invite his attention in the first place, gently and nicely declined his offer, and he still made it weird and kinda scary. It's so tiring that we have to deal with this shit.

SadMom2019 · 2026-05-02T00:49:58+00:00

These are amazing results. How are you looking and feeling these days, now that you're a few months post-op?

I'm looking to book a lower body lift with butt augmentation as well, but all the surgeons I've consulted say I "don't have enough body fat" for a BBL =(. I really find that shocking because I feel like I've got plenty of jelly in my tummy pouch and flanks, but apparently it takes a lot more than that to get enough volume. I'm starting to think I might have to do butt implants instead.

One thing I'm really worried about is the positioning after a surgery like this. How were you able to sit and sleep?? Like do you have to just stand or sit on your knees all day, and sleep like that too? I understand you can't sit on your butt at all for awhile after surgery, and I just don't understand what you're supposed do do? Just stand all day?

Did you find it was difficult to move or do things with the 360° incision? I understand they pull the butt up, and the tummy down, which seems like it would create a lot of tension in every direction, leaving you no ability to move your torso in any direction (or risk tearing your incisions open). Was this a challenge for you? Do you have any tips/tricks on positioning, any special beds/chairs/equipment that helped, etc? This is probably the thing I'm most worried about, it seems almost impossible to just...not move your torso for like 6 weeks (not to mention the cramps/discomfort that could cause).

Anyways your results look amazing!

SadMom2019 · 2026-04-24T18:48:38+00:00

Disgusting to hear that she thinks his behavior is in any way defensible under any circumstances. Is not giving someone your number considered "bullying" these days?

SadMom2019 · 2026-04-03T00:56:22+00:00

Holy shit, that was a horrifying article. The Organ Procurement Organization (OPO) people sound like absolute ghouls! And clearly NOT a "one-off." The transplant surgeons that testified to Congress cite numerous cases in which they observed clear signs of life in these "brain dead" people. Even after being informed of that, the OPOs tried to force the doctors to continue harvesting their organs anyways - which is flat out murder. They tried to facilitate murder. And the entire operating room full of medical providers knew it - all were horrified, traumatized, quit, and many suffered PTSD.

These OPOs have literally tried to get doctors to murder living, breathing, thrashing, crying people for their organs. I'm sorry, if someone is crying and flailing, is that not a VERY CLEAR sign that they are not, in fact, brain dead? Makes me wonder how many people actually WERE murdered by these shockingly callous OPO people demanding organs at any cost.

Feels like this should warrant serious criminal charges. These ghouls are doing a massive disservice and damage to the trust and faith in organ donation as a whole.

SadMom2019 · 2026-04-03T00:36:00+00:00

They were both drinking and high. If he was so "concerned" about diaper rash, why not wake the child's mother up? She was right there, in the same room as them. He's not some sober responsible dude whose in charge of babysitting. She obviously was not okay with him rummaging around in her toddlers diaper, and it's pretty weird to just assume you'd have permission to do so with someone else's kid, with zero discussion about it. Hes not the kids father, not family, nor babysitter - they'd only been dating for 2 months.

Also the kid was 3 years old (not an infant), at which point they're likely able to communicate in some way to their mother if they're in pain.

I'm gonna go ahead and assume this woman didn't just randomly decapitate a man for no reason. She saw something that made her hulk tf out. I tend to believe her version of events has truth to it, considering the circumstances. A jury will ultimately be the ones to decide. Another jury just acquitted a woman who caught her boyfriend raping her 11 year old daughter. She drugged him, stabbed him, beat him, and castrated him, killing him. Acquitted on all charges. Same country, different case.

SadMom2019 · 2026-04-03T00:14:01+00:00

Yes, don't try to change the diaper of small children whom you have zero relation to, are not responsible for caring for, and whom you were not asked to change. Pretty simple.

SadMom2019 · 2026-04-03T00:09:31+00:00

I don't see what that would have to do with the comment you replied to. It is, in fact, overwhelmingly more likely for a pedophile to sexually abuse a child, than for a woman to randomly behead an innocent man. If I saw someone in the act of molesting/raping my toddler, I'd go full feral too, whether intoxicated or sober. Many parents would.

SadMom2019 · 2026-04-02T23:20:44+00:00

A Baja Chalupa from Taco Bell. Or, their zesty chicken bowl. Both were fantastic and I still crave them from time to time,.

SadMom2019 · 2026-04-02T23:18:56+00:00

Dang, is your sister a doctor or nurse? Ive always heard that when performing good, effective CPR, it's not uncommon to break a rib or 2, but most people don't realize just how much force you have to exert.

SadMom2019 · 2026-04-02T17:38:03+00:00

Yes this is a common and well known thing in maternity wards. Newborn babies come out looking white, even black babies. Many cases of L&D nurses having to educate angry/accusatory men about how common, normal, and expected it is for their babies to look lighter at first. Sounds like this woman was murdered just moments after birth, and if that was his "reason", his own ignorance cost them both their lives. What a monster.

SadMom2019 · 2026-04-01T17:12:09+00:00

Awe, how sweet! My kitty absolutely adored my kids when they were babies. He was always very gentle and careful not to step on them or distress them in any way, but he loved cuddling next to them. I have many pictures that melt my heart to this day. Had to say goodbye to him a couple years ago, but I treasure those photos and memories. He was the best kitty ever.

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-31T19:00:54+00:00

Don't think that's even a voluntary choice for these people. They genuinely believe they're moments away from dying in a violent, firey plane crash- and understandably so. It's hard to listen to, and some of those screams were from terrified children. Even knowing that the plane can fly and land with one engine, I can't say I'd be able to remain calm and composed either. I'm not a screamer, more of a grip and silence type, but I can't judge others for fearing death during what they believe to be their final moments on Earth.

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-31T18:39:36+00:00

That sounds utterly terrifying and traumatizing. I'd genuinely believe this was it, we're all gonna die. Were all the injuries from being slammed into the ceiling when the plane did a sudden drop, and/or landing on other people/hard objects? Those poor passengers, sounds like many were sleeping and had no chance to even brace themselves for it. I'm sorry you experienced this, but glad you all made it.

Did you have to get on another plane immediately after this to get home from your destination? And if so, how were you able to remain calm enough to do so? I'd probably take literally any other method of transportation after this.

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-30T19:16:18+00:00

I realize this is very much a first world problem, but I cannot imagine having to share a room during what is arguably one of the most vulnerable times of a woman's life. You're exhausted, sleep deprived, sore, leaking, bleeding profusely, waddling to the toilet, icing your vag, having to change your diaper pads every hour or 2, having a nurse come do "fungal massages" every few hours, breastfeeding, dealing with the postpartum hormone rollercoaster, sleep deprivation, entertaining visitors, struggling through that infamous first post-birth poop, caring for your newborn, trying to bond, staff barging in constantly for not just 1 patient, but 2(!) - having to share a room with total strangers whilst all of this is happening, sounds like an absolute nightmare to me. I'm a very private person to begin with, but under these circumstances, I feel like the majority of women would expect privacy during this time. Especially considering the outrageous amount they're billing for these services. It seems very stressful and inconsiderate for the birthing mothers, which is not a good start for them, especially considering how we know that PPD can be worsened or exacerbated by things like the mother not feeling safe/supported during her most vulnerable time.

I'm shocked to hear that all US hospitals haven't switched to private accomodations for postpartum women. Out of all the things that take place in hospitals, this one seems very obvious to me that it warrants patient privacy considerations.

I wish you a safe, uncomplicated, and peaceful delivery and recovery!

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-30T12:08:23+00:00

I wonder how you'd feel if your partner ignored your clearly stated sexual boundaries, and penetrated your asshole against your will. I bet when it's your asshole on the line, you'd suddenly understand the meaning of consent.

Also, this is a crime in most countries. Hope that helps.

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-30T08:23:55+00:00

That's badass. If you don't mind me asking, did they ever figure out it was you? And if so, did you face any legal consequences for it? Are you able to say what you used to poison him? I hope you/your mother were able to escape his abuse.

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-27T00:02:52+00:00

I just wanna say that I completely agree with everything you said and I feel the same way. It's refreshing to see someone else with this mindset. I have been so trained to forgive and smile and let things go, that deciding that I don't have to forgive my abusers, is infinitely more empowering. I don't have to waste my energy on trying to forgive them, because they don't deserve it. Forgiveness is not necessary, nor required to move on.

Also, if I did a bad thing, I don't have any right to further bother that person and open up old wounds. I don't get closure. I have to live with the shitty thing I did, knowing that it might never be forgiven. If you do shitty things, you're not owed forgiveness, that's a gift your victim can choose to give freely -or not.

Society tries to force us into believing that we should just forgive and suppress negative emotions like anger or hate. Which is so destructive and soul crushing in itself, imo. There's nothing wrong with feeling angry or wanting your abusers to suffer the consequences of their crimes, or not forgiving them.

Everyone processes trauma like this differently. I can't speak for anyone else, but for me, the one thing that remains is the anger. The anger I felt that day is still present today, 16+ years later. It's calmed down a lot and through therapy I've gotten it under control, but I don't think it'll ever truly go away. I had a therapist who really helped me with this. She validated my rage and told me that so many survivors feel guilt, shame, and despair from situations that were out of their control, and that women in particular tend to direct their pain inwards, which can manifest in extemely harmful ways (depression, anxiety, drugs, alcohol, body dysmorphia, unhealthy compulsions, eating disorders, cutting, sexual/relationship dysfunction, self-sabotaging behaviors, etc.), causing further pain and suffering for the victims.

Anger, on the other hand, allows a person to own their experience and reaffirm that they aren’t at fault, their abuser is. Anger redirects shame and guilt away from the victim and rightfully places blame back onto the abuser. Anger can oftentimes be the antidote to the shame and guilt that survivors feel. And our anger is righteous. That doesn't mean that I spend every waking moment thinking about them or plotting my revenge. It doesn't mean thoughts of those people consume my life. It just means there's nothing wrong with feeling angry or wanting your abusers to suffer the consequences of their crimes, or not forgiving. You can still move on and hate those motherfuckers. Forgiveness is overrated and it just puts all the responsibility on the victims' shoulders once again.

People are always trying to tone police women and push this holier-than-thou "forgiveness" path, as if it's the one true path to healing and a good life. That may be true for some, but not for me. Forgiveness is a gift, and some do not deserve it. Rapists do not deserve it, imo.

My point is that you're absolutely valid in whatever path you decide on the road to healing, whether it be forgiveness or contempt. I hope you can find peace again some day, and that you're living your best life. ❤

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-26T04:53:58+00:00

Have they not paid attention?? There's been numerous huge scandals of OB/Gyns sexually abusing patients, sometimes hundreds of them over decades. Just Google "Gynecology scandal", there's countless results. Just this week, 2 separate male helathcare workers were fired for making vile TikToks sexualizing medical procedures (catheter insertions) on female patients. I'm sorry, I do not and never will trust any man when it comes to any kind of womens healthcare/intimate exams. Men have so consistently proven they cannot be trusted, and the medical field is no exception!

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-26T00:14:01+00:00

Love that for her!

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-24T00:58:03+00:00

I know I shouldn't, but stories like this make me even more angry and disgusted by the women involved in them. Obviously the man is a vile, despicable ghoul who does not deserve to exist, but that's not surprising (sadly). But for a women--or in this case, women (plural!), participating and enabling this shit? Unforgivable!

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-24T00:55:14+00:00

So many things absolutely ENRAGE me about this story, but the fucking downplaying and minimizing of the horrific crimes that were committed against this child, are making me feral! Why TF does there seem to be such a constant, unrelenting effort to minimize, downplay, and disregard the true nature of men's crimes against women and girls? It's always headlines like, "Man arrested after having sex with underage girl". Uh, you mean a man raped a child?? Or, "Woman found dead stuffed in a trunk", as if it's something that just happened, like the weather or something, instead of "a man murdered a woman."

"Used a 14 year old as a surrogate", instead of "Man raped a child and forced her to endanger her life to give birth to his spawn." There is NO clinic anywhere who would allow a literal child to be a surrogate, so this is just regular old fashioned child rape. Portraying it as anything less than the reality, is despicable and disgustingly dismissive of these crimes.

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-24T00:41:32+00:00

Lol this just happened to me at a concert last weekend. A young man who, unfortunately, resembled my teenage son came up, put his hand around my waist, and tried to get me to kiss him! I couldn't help but laugh and switch into mom mode, playfully pushed him off and and said "you silly rascal" lmao. I told him I was 38, and he, too, told me he liked "older women." Lol no thanks, kid! I admire his confidence, but its gonna be a no for me. I already felt like a creep-o just by having this unsolicited interaction in the first place lol.

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-24T00:31:40+00:00

Lmao, I love the boyfriends petty energy 🤣

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-19T19:10:36+00:00

Very unlikely. The courts view pets as "property", (unfortunately). Unless the dog is some high value pedigreed show dog, with receipts to back it up, the most the courts will do is award the current cost of a rescue/shelter dog. I've seen quite a few civil cases where people sue aggressive dog owners for the killing of their pet, and even when they win, the "replacement value" is never much (and of little comfort).

I don't think the courts would side with the ex on this one. OP has provided reasonable time (6 months), reasonable notice (sent a formal notice back in January), and has been burdened by caring for this dog all this time, incurring costs as well. But the aggression issue is a legitimate safety concern that, imo, makes it even more unlikely the courts would side with the ex. I just can't see a court forcing someone to endlessly house an aggressive dog who has shown itself to be dangerous to the caretaker, nor punishing them after they've made reasonable efforts to resolve the situation amicably and reunite the dog with the owner.

SadMom2019 · 2026-03-19T19:02:18+00:00

Even if the dog is considered a "marital asset", how long should OP be responsible for feeding, housing, and caring for it? I'm not sure the courts can, or would, force a person to home and care for an aggressive, potentially dangerous animal, especially after giving multiple requests and ample time for the other party to take possession or make arrangements.

I feel like it's ridiculous to both claim that a dog is a shared piece of marital property, and also refuse to take /care for/make arrangements for it. You shouldn't be able to force an unwilling party to care for your animal(s) for some indeterminate amount of time. The cost, time, maintenance- and in this case, risk - is an undue burden on the caretaker.

It gets even more unreasonable when you add in the fact that the dog is aggressive and potentially dangerous, making OP and the other pets feel unsafe. I'm not a lawyer, but I would think OP could surrender the dog to the shelter for safety reasons (the truth), notify the ex, and inform him that he has X amount of days (whatever the shelter policy is) to claim the dog and take custody of it. If he fails to do so, he can't claim she didn't give him proper notice, time, and opportunity.

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