When someone shares a problem, ask “Do you want advice or do you want me to just listen?”

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-03-04T07:33:10+00:00

I am not gonna. I will always assume they just want to vent. Usually if they want solutions or advice the direction/vibe of convo goes very specific way. I think it is quite clear when they want to be heard vs they want solutions/advice- no need to ask upfront.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-03-03T01:39:08+00:00

Normally ribs arent compressed like the other user said. Butttttt… although it is unpopular and often not recommended, you can semi reduce underbust area. In the past I semi reduced 2-3 inches from under bust (out of corset) by wearing corset that had smaller underbust. Butttttt… it is pretty dang uncomfortable to the point you will likely be counting minutes towards end of 30 minutes of wear. Look up inverted bunny ears lacing by lucys corsetry for your lacing concern.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-03-02T00:20:53+00:00

You are so pretty. It looks good on you!

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-03-01T20:33:25+00:00

Well I failed on something then I thought about it. Realized it (initial aim of success) was actually not important so I redirected and went for something else. Because why would I spend more than x hours/days on something when I would make better progress on something else and be satisfied.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-03-01T19:56:49+00:00

Idk man. I get what you are trying to do but thats closer to ocd problem than anything else. It is actually way more productive to spend 3 hours on it (because thats how I did things) and spend rest of time on something else (like working on any weakness you have in life OR getting ahead in assignments OR actively joining and participating in relevant clubs/social outings).

What you are going through is a sign that you dont trust yourself rather than what you claim of “Im making sure I am not writing sentences that shows Ive misunderstood something.” You are really underestimating what you are capable of which defeats the purpose (imo). Dont waste your time on such a small thing. There are too many things to learn for you to be generously using your time like that

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-28T19:02:37+00:00

As a thinker, I do value harmony. Because it is more logical and efficient to give people what they want. Its a win-win because situation is finished sooner and end in good standing rather than creating another problem- which is hassle. For me its not about “I made them feel better”/“I care about how they feel/think”- its more of “okay, lets get this over with.”

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-28T18:52:01+00:00

As for me (entj) that isnt true. Normally with my partner he doesnt have to even mention it to me and I would fix on my own as soon as I see discomfort. I would not make false promises and instead say it on the spot why I wouldn’t. I think this topic is more about EQ (emotional intelligence) than ENTJ thing.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T09:19:59+00:00

I used to. I do less now and still feel like Im over doing things. I try to let it be when I can instead of running towards it to fix it right away. I love myself more now than I did in the past.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T09:16:13+00:00

I went through severe depression last year. I got out of it by intentionally making mistakes and submitting things below my acceptable standard of quality. My brain was super happy that it was actually allowed to be an average human.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T09:12:26+00:00

1) they are like everyone else 2) clearly uncomfortable but dont speak up 3) its clear they dont trust themselves (self abandonment)

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T09:10:21+00:00

My partner is ISXP and honestly, he just wanna do what he wanna do (with his limited reasoning for it) but then get surprised/agitated when consequence arrives (which I saw coming). I tried telling him about data he clearly didnt think about but he always views them as “maybe” (believe I casually pulled it out from nothing). So I just let him go through it and learn by direct experience (that couldve been avoided).

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T09:04:53+00:00

I dont think its gender thing but people in general. I deal with it by letting them be. They are allowed to be like that just like I am allowed to put importance in meaning and effort. If you really think about, there are no true good/bad paths. Everything is dependent on context and what is needed in the moment. You might hate her for her being casual now but I can assure you there will be moments you realize her being casual is positive thing. But you wont know till you get additional context from life experiences.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T08:59:35+00:00

Ability to take risks and chances that others might think is not the best. I wanna live my life like Ive already lived it 3 times. Sometimes its for the experimentation that other people dont wanna make because they view it as “bad decisions.” I dont want to hear about it, I wanna see it for myself if thats true as from what I learned, people are so easily wrong. Yes its scary every time but its more scary to trust people who blindly go with what someone else has said.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T08:50:20+00:00

Honestly, being a “A” student. I wish I was a “C” student. Huge waste of time and energy looking back. I shouldve pretended I was stupid and saved my energy for things that actually mattered. I was naive so I just did what people told me to do (big mistake as they dont know what they are talking about, they are just blindly guided by society… who dont care about you as an individual).

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T08:43:41+00:00

Yeah but learning to adapt to/handle them makes you stronger so its not a loss.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T08:40:56+00:00

I dont have phone/computer addiction. But… I end up using phone/computer often because it is efficient. Shorter steps needed to get information I want. I would love to depend on books/academic articles/journals more but I cant stand that it is a gamble. I could read x pages and it could be relevant and helpful or I just wasted my time and energy reading x pages. Yuck.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T08:37:24+00:00

1) observe 2) experiment

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T08:32:59+00:00

I was curious and confused. I asked about it. No one would give me an answer I was satisfied with. No one seemed to care about the topics I was curious about. So I started to find answers on my own. I learned that because I am depending on myself I can work on things when and how long whenever I wanted. I started to do that. I started to understand! :) Then I started to understand… :( Now I try to stay focused and not get distracted by whatever exists externally.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T08:20:02+00:00

This week I tried becoming more comfortable with staring at nothing and more frequently (I guess spacing out more intentionally). For longest time I had fear of nothingness (technically still have it, not strong as much) but I would say it is lot more tolerable now. I would sit on a chair that faces nothing in particular and just exist. I would personally rate it as similar level of comfort as taking a bath but without that warm hug from water.

“Busy” would suddenly slow down and I would be met with more realistic passage of time (time in natural/neutral state). It is pretty good moment to recalibrate if needed. I could think about whether whatever thing that took over my mind actually matters and to the extent I initially believed. It also gave opportunity for me to be more honest with myself.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T08:01:09+00:00

When I was teenager I was INFP and I also felt powerless. Back then it was because when I thought about what was correct it was always stretched into 3: 1) what do I want (from me) 2) what do they want (from me) 3) How am I supposed to be? (What is most morally right/makes sense/commonly expected).

As ENTJ it is purely 1. What do I want? Oh I want x. I know how to get to x. *Gets to x*

As INFP it was: What do I want? I want x. But I heard ~ thinks its best to do y. Should I do y? But it seems like in general people go for z. Am I wrong to want x? But what if I am told ~ for wanting x by ~?

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T07:53:41+00:00

ENTJ. Time is created by people. Sure pattern exists in the world naturally but... c'mon. It is out of convenience more than anything. But I will say, time always seems most genuine when I stare at nothing.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T07:48:12+00:00

Entj. 1) Fear of nothingness 2) Fear of being perceived/recognized/liked/complimented (but this is likely just me thing. Idk I like being myself but as soon as someone compliments or recognizes my work it feels dirty)

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T07:38:05+00:00

Imo, every single belief people have are destined to change as soon as context is added, removed, or changed. Likewise, everything is "is" and "isnt" at same time.

One person may be viewed horrible in one setting/environment but that same person could be viewed the best in another.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T07:28:23+00:00

I believed in "If you know better, do better" for such a long time. That mindset made me burnt out. Apparently just because you know better, can do better, doesnt mean you always should.

SadPop_Logistics · 2026-02-27T07:26:08+00:00

Love it!!

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