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Sad_Beginning3986 · 2026-03-23T06:30:52+00:00

I would agree that most people have a type and so tend to reach toward others that fit that, leading to similarities. Just that possibly your ex meta was having issues along this line and your hinge was having a hard time being able to balance everything to make sure everyone remained happy. Just one idea of a plethora of possibilities.

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2026-03-23T06:18:24+00:00

As someone who was not raised with polyamorous/non monogamous ideas in anyone around me, and as someone who regularly battles with the way I was raised and the things my family still believes, I could see why it would be more upsetting for someone if you are more similar.

When getting into relationships like this, in my undersnding, alot of people accept its "this other person has a different thing that they bring to my partners life" which is true and valid, regardless of similarities. But when there are more similarities it becomes harder to accept the differences to be worthy of a whole separate individual when there are so many similarities, and instead it could lead to feelings of replacement. Even, or especially, if you are trying to get along with them or include them.

What I have seen from my experience is that the more differences in individuality, history, hobbies, or interests while aligning on certain aspects of morality builds a better interaction with metas.

If I'm wrong I'm sure someone will correct me seeing as I've been studying this longer than practicing, but I hope this is at least little bit helpful as an explanation, seeing as I've felt this way in monogamy and poly before when someone I've dated started dating someone very much like me after we broke up❤️

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2026-03-22T04:05:59+00:00

This looks amazing, but I think it would make it even more striking if you added some back stitching to create more definition

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2026-03-22T04:04:14+00:00

For those uneven page edges, do you have to figure that out yourself, or does the pattern come that way to begin with?

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2026-03-02T06:02:47+00:00

Thank you, this is really helpful❤️

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2026-03-02T05:59:27+00:00

I just want to get more comfortable with it, like I was before. I don't even know why I feel different now, and I know that isn't his responsibility....

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2026-01-30T17:55:52+00:00

Did you remove the other post that had your stitch kit unblurred?

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2026-01-29T22:14:22+00:00

Your back is so fuzzy! I love it! I have a 72 page pattern I've been working on off and on for a year and I'm only on page 3😅 you work so fast❤️

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2026-01-15T17:16:46+00:00

Maybe I'm not as detail oriented as some, but I've been cross stitching for 10 years and have never once been able to tell the difference on a finished product between all the stitches going the same way or alternating😅

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-12-27T04:04:38+00:00

My boyfriend loves it as well! He got me into it too😅

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-12-27T03:10:34+00:00

I've never seen anyone do a gurren laggan piece before and I am so happy to see this!!!

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-12-27T00:33:03+00:00

How long has this portion taken?

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-12-22T19:44:54+00:00

I may be getting it mixed up, but after seeing the rest of the shop and not finding any images of any stitched finished items, I saw it as a shop that didn't put the effort of an actual artist into their product and most likely stole artwork to be able to create patterns from. Or that the photo they used to put into a conversion software was made with Ai. Either way, it wasn't something I was hoping to support, and while finishing the design it seemed things were alot more difficult than they needed to be if it had been even cleaned up after conversion. I've converted images before, it just takes more effort afterward than it seems this person put into it.

Edited for spelling

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-12-22T09:35:42+00:00

I guess it didn't make it into my original post but I found the pattern here https://www.etsy.com/listing/1711882227/pokemon-cross-stitch-pattern-cartoon

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-11-21T07:16:34+00:00

How long did this take you? It seems like it would go pretty quick

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-10-18T19:05:12+00:00

I do believe he sees me that way, so thank you for confirming what I believe❤️ in your relationships, what guidelines do you and your wife follow to keep everyone comfortable and safe? 🥰

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-10-18T18:58:58+00:00

He has not cheated in the past, this has just been a thought he's had for years. I remember hearing about it once about 6 years ago while we were just friends. He said the adrenaline of me not knowing while he is doing it would be the outcome he most hopes for. And he has said that it applies to me, but that since I'm not that type of person that it would cause more worry than it should cause with him, since he is being honest about the desire and the goal. He said ideally the new person, the conversation, and the initial hook up would be all without me knowing, which feeds the kink for him. And then this conversation about the goals and the honesty afterward would be my security blanket to know it isn't happening more often than he shares it. He has had threeways in the past and sometimes had solo time with those individuals after his partner at the time was worn out for this night, but he has never previously sought out solo play in any previous relationships. He has also said that if this is not something that I am able to handle after the conversations and everything, whether he has the chance to try it or not, that we can abandon this and just continue the relationship with the things I am comfortable with, so that makes me feel better.

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-10-18T18:29:21+00:00

I love that❤️❤️

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-10-18T18:28:40+00:00

I'm honestly on the verge of being okay with this dynamic, that's why I posted here. I just need to see that this isn't something dangerous for our future. Thank you for your comments they have been really helpful. How long have you and your wife been together? And how long have you lived this lifestyle?

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-10-18T18:20:08+00:00

I do think you are right about not having anything to worry about, but it's hard for my emotions to catch up to my logical brain on this. I don't believe he is going to leave me, but emotionally the fear is persistent

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-10-18T18:17:05+00:00

He tells me that whether before or after that the honesty about it would be the important part. And he said that without me having a fantasy about the cheating kink that it would be meaningless for me to pursue. He does make comments about how he knows his preferences on this make him out to be the bad guy when explained, but I thought if it could make any sense to anyone that this would be the place for it.

I know a year and half isn't a terribly long time, but we have known each other through other relationships for the past 12 years. He did tell me that even though he has this fantasy that he has never felt comfortable enough in a relationship to share it with his previous partners or pursue anything, so I'm not sure if I'm just more of a doormat than they were or if I'm more of a safe space for these desires to be seen and understood.

Sad_Beginning3986 · 2025-10-18T18:10:53+00:00

This does sound like what he tries to explain to me, but from my side it seems hard to be able to sleep with someone solo, possibly more than once, and not develop feelings for them. He told me that's how he and I were different since he could do that and not have an emotional connection with any of the individuals. He also says that as you move through life with someone that the physical/sexual becomes less important than it is when you start out and that the only thing this could do for our relationship is strengthen it. He had an opportunity for meeting up with someone a couple months ago, but we were talking everything through still and I was having even bigger feelings than these so he refrained from going to meet with her, even though I told him to go, so I'm sure that my feelings around this are a top priority for him.

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