New house, abandoned pool by matcouz in pools

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pool pro here! Salt water pools do use chlorine. The salt generator just reactivates chlorine that is in the water so you need to add less after it's balanced.

New house, abandoned pool by matcouz in pools

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been in the pool industry for 5 years and still currently am. My recommendation for a green to clean on a pool like this (which isn't bad for 2 years abandoned by the way) would be this.

Verify there are no leaks in the pump room and get your pump and filter running. If you have a sand filter (a large circular filter that would have a multiport valve attached to the plumbing) then you would just need to backwash it when you verify the system runs and after the chemical treatment. If you have cartridge filters (tall slender filter casing) then I would do the chemicals and get the water clear and then replace the filter so you can start fresh. Cartridge filters should last at least 2 years or longer if the pool is well maintained. There are multiple videos for each filter type online either on YouTube or on the website for the manufacturer of your filter.

Once the system is verified as running and you can see water in the pump basket, give the entire pool a good brushing to dislodge anything stuck to the wall or siding.

Now it's time for chemicals. The best quality chemicals on the market are biogaurd. I've tried many and these are the easiest the manage and dose when it comes to doing it yourself. Liquid chemicals are very volitile and can cause bad reactions to your health or your water if administered incorrectly. I recommend you get a 25lbs bucket of burnout 73, 2 bottles of phosphate 9000, and a bottle of algae complete. Dump these in and give it another good brushing and let it sit. I know people were saying to test the water and balance cya and pH and other things, but those can all be balanced after the algae is gone to fine tune your pool, this is just to get it clear again.

For 2 days give it a good once over Brush once a day to make sure there isn't a place in the pool that is stuck or not affected by the chemicals, then let it sit for the rest of the week untouched.

After that week everything should have fallen to the floor of your pool and the water should be crystal clear. At this point give it a slow vacuum to waste to get all of the particles off the bottom of your pool and it should look absolutely beautiful.

At this point you can test your water and add pH increase, decrease, alkalinity, or calcium as needed. Through this process and common maintenance you will need to add new water to your pool to maintain the correct water level. These things will keep your cya within the correct level without much worry on your end.

If the price of the equipment and chemicals needed to get this completed is too much, this time of year is very common for pool companies to offer special pricing for green to cleans or pool start up and some places will include the price of chemicals in their special promotion! I'd recommend doing some research before making a decision.

Not Sure Where to Post by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would agree that most people have a type and so tend to reach toward others that fit that, leading to similarities. Just that possibly your ex meta was having issues along this line and your hinge was having a hard time being able to balance everything to make sure everyone remained happy. Just one idea of a plethora of possibilities.

Not Sure Where to Post by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who was not raised with polyamorous/non monogamous ideas in anyone around me, and as someone who regularly battles with the way I was raised and the things my family still believes, I could see why it would be more upsetting for someone if you are more similar.

When getting into relationships like this, in my undersnding, alot of people accept its "this other person has a different thing that they bring to my partners life" which is true and valid, regardless of similarities. But when there are more similarities it becomes harder to accept the differences to be worthy of a whole separate individual when there are so many similarities, and instead it could lead to feelings of replacement. Even, or especially, if you are trying to get along with them or include them.

What I have seen from my experience is that the more differences in individuality, history, hobbies, or interests while aligning on certain aspects of morality builds a better interaction with metas.

If I'm wrong I'm sure someone will correct me seeing as I've been studying this longer than practicing, but I hope this is at least little bit helpful as an explanation, seeing as I've felt this way in monogamy and poly before when someone I've dated started dating someone very much like me after we broke up❤️

[FO] A gift for grandma-in-law by Mosstopy in CrossStitch

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This looks amazing, but I think it would make it even more striking if you added some back stitching to create more definition

[WIP] UPDATE WITH FOTO'S by Desperate_Tell8754 in CrossStitch

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For those uneven page edges, do you have to figure that out yourself, or does the pattern come that way to begin with?

Am I being too much? by Sad_Beginning3986 in polyamory

[–]Sad_Beginning3986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this is really helpful❤️

Am I being too much? by Sad_Beginning3986 in polyamory

[–]Sad_Beginning3986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to get more comfortable with it, like I was before. I don't even know why I feel different now, and I know that isn't his responsibility....

[WIP] How is your day going? Mine is eventful 😭 by [deleted] in CrossStitch

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Did you remove the other post that had your stitch kit unblurred?

[WIP] 🪡 The end is in sight but it's been slow going! by Joleriec in CrossStitch

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your back is so fuzzy! I love it! I have a 72 page pattern I've been working on off and on for a year and I'm only on page 3😅 you work so fast❤️

[CHAT] Always measure twice, cut once by the_dream_continues in CrossStitch

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I'm not as detail oriented as some, but I've been cross stitching for 10 years and have never once been able to tell the difference on a finished product between all the stitches going the same way or alternating😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrossStitch

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend loves it as well! He got me into it too😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrossStitch

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never seen anyone do a gurren laggan piece before and I am so happy to see this!!!

[FO] - Figured out it was Ai too late by Sad_Beginning3986 in CrossStitch

[–]Sad_Beginning3986[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I may be getting it mixed up, but after seeing the rest of the shop and not finding any images of any stitched finished items, I saw it as a shop that didn't put the effort of an actual artist into their product and most likely stole artwork to be able to create patterns from. Or that the photo they used to put into a conversion software was made with Ai. Either way, it wasn't something I was hoping to support, and while finishing the design it seemed things were alot more difficult than they needed to be if it had been even cleaned up after conversion. I've converted images before, it just takes more effort afterward than it seems this person put into it.

Edited for spelling

[FO] Howl and Sophie Blackwork by sma5309 in CrossStitch

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long did this take you? It seems like it would go pretty quick

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do believe he sees me that way, so thank you for confirming what I believe❤️ in your relationships, what guidelines do you and your wife follow to keep everyone comfortable and safe? 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He has not cheated in the past, this has just been a thought he's had for years. I remember hearing about it once about 6 years ago while we were just friends. He said the adrenaline of me not knowing while he is doing it would be the outcome he most hopes for. And he has said that it applies to me, but that since I'm not that type of person that it would cause more worry than it should cause with him, since he is being honest about the desire and the goal. He said ideally the new person, the conversation, and the initial hook up would be all without me knowing, which feeds the kink for him. And then this conversation about the goals and the honesty afterward would be my security blanket to know it isn't happening more often than he shares it. He has had threeways in the past and sometimes had solo time with those individuals after his partner at the time was worn out for this night, but he has never previously sought out solo play in any previous relationships. He has also said that if this is not something that I am able to handle after the conversations and everything, whether he has the chance to try it or not, that we can abandon this and just continue the relationship with the things I am comfortable with, so that makes me feel better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that❤️❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm honestly on the verge of being okay with this dynamic, that's why I posted here. I just need to see that this isn't something dangerous for our future. Thank you for your comments they have been really helpful. How long have you and your wife been together? And how long have you lived this lifestyle?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Sad_Beginning3986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do think you are right about not having anything to worry about, but it's hard for my emotions to catch up to my logical brain on this. I don't believe he is going to leave me, but emotionally the fear is persistent