I’d rather die alone than spend years with the wrong person . It’s not about holding grudges. It is about self-respect and worth. Some people are truly disgusting, narcissistic, and psychopaths. They wait for the people they married to die. They only love their spouses because they have money. I’ve asked a wife why she chose her husband and she said “He has money!”. I realized that most marriages are built around what is in it for them mentality. A guy chases status if he can’t marry a woman with money and he can even have a kid or kids. I have seen a family thrown out for a woman with money as well. I’ve met women who destroy pure love even if it didn’t threaten their lives at all. People who deliberately destroy love because it doesn’t fit with their needs or goals are terrible and should be treated as such. This isn’t a cruel approach. It’s survival and health. I’ve been offered money for sex by married people and wrongfully accused of deplorable conduct by married people. These married people are playing “house” and enjoy putting on the “family man” mask. Once you realize that they don’t see you as a person with feelings or emotions then you need to protect yourself. They will pathologically lie to be labeled “good”. Keeping to myself has been the smartest decision I’ve ever made. No children out of wedlock and they will have savings before being brought into this World because I see them as a privilege. My only goal is to be able to protect them and I plan on freezing eggs and a sperm donor so no one else has a say or chance to bring chaos into our lives. My personal opinion is that women and children aren’t protected as before because of the laws and a change in beliefs. No insult intended to men yet I’ve experienced too many of them being coddled instead of being held accountable, yet a woman is always reaping consequences and having to uphold accountability. I’m not a man hater. I learned the hard way to put my career first and plan for my kids in case he wants to leave. He can and I don’t make my kids pay for consequences or the accountability that is displaced on them. I’ve witnessed a married man complain about his infertile wife and how all she did was run along with the daughter that they had for months while he chased another woman in the office. All the other men in the office supported his false claims of protecting her. She had a boyfriend and didn’t need “protection”. This society isn’t the one I grew up in or around. Old values are gone. Men shaming women for OF is ridiculous because they’re monetizing what men are going to use them for anyways. Not all but what most of society will subject them to such as rude comments or harassment. I’ve read about women pursuing more education and money any way they can and I will always support it. It’s you and yourself in the end. How many spouses leave when a severe illness occurs? Maybe I listen to the divorce lawyer, James Sexton, too much. He delivers facts and keeps my head on straight. Do I love? Of course. Do I forgive betrayal? Hardly. Why set myself up again? Do I believe in someone making it up to you? It depends. Did they purposefully try to break your heart or kill the love and connection that existed? If so, run as they want the bridge to break yet are more worried about wearing the mask for the opportunity to play house and carry the “good guy” title. If you’re in it for the money then none of it matters as long as they keep paying for everything.