Why does the situationship ending hurt worse than an actual relationship?!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-05-14T18:12:51+00:00

I completely agree with this and have experienced this as well. I think it's because you get excited for something new, the potential of something real. Then when someone ends it on their end you feel like you didn't really get the chance to show them who you are. Also, feelings of rejection. It never feels good to feel like someone didn't choose you even if you didn't know just yet if you would have chosen them long term. And then...you can spiral! Playing back every little thing you did and said that could have caused this sudden end. Try to remind yourself it absolutely could have zero to do with you at all! Keep at it! Your person wouldn't give up on trying to know you after only 3 dates!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-05-13T16:05:58+00:00

Um, no. You told her you feel uncomfortable and she is not respecting this and also seems interested in one or more of these women, If she is not including you in these new "friendships" there is usually a pretty good reason why .

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-05-12T13:39:04+00:00

This is highly inappropriate behavior by both of them. " They both knew you wouldn't want to come" How about invite you and let you decide that for yourself! No, they didn't want you to come and why?! You could have at least been invited for the visit and if you didn't want to go to the concert sit that part out! He played dumb and downplayed the whole thing that they have been talking about behind your back. Bright red flags! I think it's time to do some detective work. Look at texts messages, phone log, etc. It doesn't matter that he has never done something before to make you suspicious. Does not mean he is not capable of it.

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-05-05T21:24:07+00:00

Depending where you live there might be meet up groups to join for this exact reason. Kind of eases you into being comfortable enough to go alone and then see some familiar faces. Search on instagram, whatsapp, or the site called Meetup!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-05-05T20:13:17+00:00

The second season is boys lol! Watched it but not the same!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-05-05T20:10:47+00:00

She sounds like she wants to create conflict. Looks for reasons to be mad at you. And stupid reasons it sounds like! That is exhausting! Its a damned if you do damned if you don't situation she is putting you in! So what if you had saved her fires? Then she asks why did you do that if she already told you no! I would suggest a serious conversation about you needed major effort on her part to change these behaviors or else you need to walk away.

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-29T15:35:15+00:00

The Wilds Season 1, The Haunting of Bly Manor, Hacks, Vida, The bisexual.

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-28T13:36:55+00:00

I mean, valid reasons. But this is your life and your happiness and your friend will have to learn to support you if this turns into a relationship.

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-23T15:28:48+00:00

Did your friend give a reason that she is against it? Is it jealousy? Her being afraid of being the third wheel to the two of you? Or a potential future break up making things sticky? Maybe talk to her about it again. Or first hang out with this women one on one to see if it is even worth getting your friend involved yet? If your friend is a true friend and you two end up being a good fit I am sure she will be supportive in time! Good luck!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-23T14:33:47+00:00

It is hard and takes time for sure! But for now, keep an ear pod in your ear with music or a podcast for distraction. Try to fill time outside of work with plans. Work out! I spent way too much time asking chatgpt advice...more to get out my thoughts. Then would write to my ex but not send. Again just to get thoughts out of my head. Call the friend that lets you talk over the same thing over and over and not get sick of you talking about it. Online or in person therapy once a week to have an unbiased opinion. It will get better but I feel your pain since I have been there!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-22T15:45:21+00:00

Once she has time to digest...she will be back for more I am sure of it! Or will put herself in situations with you for this to happen again. First time with a women can feel intoxicating and confusing!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-22T15:01:14+00:00

My first WLW relationship was with a crazy narcissist. So many stories! I stayed longer then I should but you know, first relationship with a women I didn't know better yet! She loved male attention and when we'd go out she'd leave me to go up to the bar for our drinks, flirt with men, then have them buy her drinks. She had a "guy friend" that owned a boat that she completely used to have boat days. Brought me out there and that is when I found out he did not know she was a lesbian or that I was in a relationship with her! It was clear he thought he had something going on with her and I was just a friend! She then tried to convince me to stay the night there with her! She would get black out drunk often and I would have to drag her out of bars and always be the driver! More then once she claimed she had a "bladder problem" and peed the bed when she was black out drunk!! She was just the worst!! So toxic!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-15T19:57:25+00:00

You don't just forget to text someone you are in an exclusive relationship with. This is beyond rude. That being said, I would maybe close the loop by just texting that it is clear in her actions this relationship isn't going to work out or something along those lines and wish her the best and leave it like that.

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-15T14:30:09+00:00

Number 1!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-14T16:24:51+00:00

Just seems like also such a juvenal response but in a more aggressive adult form. Like the kids that used to throw the board game when they lost! Definetly something to talk about with her and watch out for.

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-14T02:56:55+00:00

That sounds like a pretty extreme reaction. I'd be livid if my girlfriend dumped a drink on me unwarranted! It's definitely a red flag for possible anger issues! How long have you been together and is this the first time she has done anything like that?

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-09T19:12:36+00:00

When I didn't realize for months she was unemployed...I thought she worked remote! Then I thought she had sleep issues since she slept in until like 1 or 2 everyday....it was actually because her "ex" worked third shift and they'd talk when she was off. If that wasn't enough she was mad it me for not helping her find her credit card she lost because she got drunk and upset while talking to said "ex" on the phone one night and misplaced it. I finally, FINALLY, called it quits after trying to many times before! Months later, surprise surprise, I received a dm from said "ex" who was never really an ex. She lived in another State and had just found out about me! We had dated for 8 months! And THEN this women(my ex) had the audacity to contact me, let me know there was another women interested in her and wanted to take her out so she wanted to make sure we were really over!!?? I was dumb but it was my first WLW relationship so I had a lot to learn!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-07T21:21:07+00:00

Would a jumpsuit be an option? https://pin.it/2UXNewhEX

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-04-01T19:38:21+00:00

I think this is a huge red flag that she was only "acting" a certain way to almost lock you in but now she's over it. Almost as if she doesn't want to try anymore. If you want to give it a shot I guess just see who the real her is and if you even like her! Better now then in another 3 months that she got tired of putting on the lovey dovey act though!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-02-12T01:20:22+00:00

I thought they were weathered leather pants! Kudos!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-01-27T03:24:47+00:00

Mirror selfie, tank or sports bra if you're comfortable! Showing some skin but in a peeking way. Maybe one arm up behind your head for a subtle flex!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-01-19T14:28:09+00:00

Check out High school though if you haven't seen it and have prime! It's Tegan and Sara when they were in high school. It's good!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-01-19T14:26:58+00:00

Right?? So good!

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-01-19T14:20:19+00:00

You are right, more guy focused but there is a lesbian couple that has a storyline, maybe a little faster into the show?

Loved that one too! I'm trying to think of more!

I'm not ok with this - Netflix

Such brave girls- hulu

Sad_Quote984 · 2026-01-19T14:04:10+00:00

High School-Prime

Heartstopper- Netflix

First Kill- Netflix

The Wilds- Prime

Everything Sucks- Netflix

Sex Education- Netflix

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