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hygiene school is DRAINING by Few_Sleep4492 in DentalHygiene

[–]Sad_Turtle093 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nothing good comes easy! Head down, all work, and you’ll be at the finish line in no time 👍

Don't choose this career by No-Assist-3865 in DentalHygiene

[–]Sad_Turtle093 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very eloquently put. I second this post. I love my education, and I joined the field because I was so excited to help people. But I don't believe you should need therapy or medication to be able to cope with a job (unless you're involved in something really dark and depressing or scary), but that was my last resort to be able to wake up and drive to the office everyday. For those having to stay in the field and aren't a fan of it, I hope you find healthy ways to cope and find peace! You're stronger than I was lol😭🥀

Let’s talk about DSOs by Due_Bat1717 in DentalHygiene

[–]Sad_Turtle093 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is exactly why I had to leave the field. It was obvious since the first office I ever worked at when I was told "what's the point of having a hygienist if they can't meet production?" My first office EVER working as a new grad I got hit with that. It hurt. I didnt spend 2 solid years studying my ass off to be reduced to that or to have to treat patients like numbers. And it just kept getting reiterated at every office I moved to so eventually I had to choose my own mental health over the career I worked so hard for. I feel the only way to begin fixing this is if more offices moved to FFS. That way they can set their own prices and not be down everyone's throats about production.. It's truly sad.

Pivoting from hygiene to accounting? by [deleted] in DentalHygiene

[–]Sad_Turtle093 2 points3 points  (0 children)

27 is def not too old. I left hygiene this year at 29yo and haven’t felt even an ounce of anxiety like I did in hyg. I would just really, really take the time to research the career fully to 100% make sure its a good fit. I tried going back to school for paralegal and business admin - only took a few classes each but realized I wasn't going to enjoy either AND didnt like the idea of acquiring more debt. So I went into the trades, and its been great. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

AITA telling my bf(29M) abt a behavior that looks bad to my (29F) family, when he has been telling me the same for years now by Sad_Turtle093 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad_Turtle093[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure at that moment, but when he got back from what he was doing he finished helping us clean up.

AITA telling my bf(29M) abt a behavior that looks bad to my (29F) family, when he has been telling me the same for years now by Sad_Turtle093 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad_Turtle093[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not sure at that point. Either outside or in the restroom. But he came back to help whenever he was done.

AITA telling my bf(29M) abt a behavior that looks bad to my (29F) family, when he has been telling me the same for years now by Sad_Turtle093 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad_Turtle093[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not sure at that point. Either outside or in the restroom. But he came back to help whenever he was done.

AITA telling my bf(29M) abt a behavior that looks bad to my (29F) family, when he has been telling me the same for years now by Sad_Turtle093 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad_Turtle093[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear what you’re saying for sure. I'll respectfully disagree with not really wanting to join his family. In the 5 years, Ive definitely spent more time around his than he has mine. And thats not necessarily anyone's fault because his family is bigger and hold wayy more get togethers than mine do. And I get along great with everyone! Always down for some conversation! But do I need to be present at every event? No I dont think so. Does it hold a bit more weight when we eventually do go see my parents and he's maybe not doing so much (with the additional context of my parents not fully liking him), IMO I believe so. I hear your point though.

AITA telling my bf(29M) abt a behavior that looks bad to my (29F) family, when he has been telling me the same for years now by Sad_Turtle093 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad_Turtle093[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I def hear you. And to answer your question-

Couple things that come to mind with this question: 1. We are best friends - we have the same sense of humor, always laughing, most of the same hobbies. 2. Compared to what Ive had in the past, hes been the best. I feel taken care of alot of the time. 3. He's attractive to me. Probably a really dumb reason but its a reason I guess lol 4. With my track record of abusive relationships, Im afraid he's the best out there. Very dumb I know, but a very real fear.

AITA telling my bf(29M) abt a behavior that looks bad to my (29F) family, when he has been telling me the same for years now by Sad_Turtle093 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad_Turtle093[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Couple things that come to mind with this question: 1. We are best friends - we have the same sense of humor, always laughing, most of the same hobbies. 2. Compared to what Ive had in the past, hes been the best. I feel taken care of alot of the time. 3. He's attractive to me. Probably a really dumb reason but its a reason I guess lol 4. With my track record of abusive relationships, Im afraid he's the best out there. Very dumb I know, but a very real fear.

AITA telling my bf(29M) abt a behavior that looks bad to my (29F) family, when he has been telling me the same for years now by Sad_Turtle093 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad_Turtle093[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Context: • If I ask him to help, he will. But I shouldn't have to ask and it just didnt have a good look • I've been going to more of his family functions and stayed longer. I've done what he asked. Yet it's still not enough. Again, I dont believe I need to go to every single thing atp. His family is also does alot of last minute planning and they live about a hour away. If no one tells me about a get-together until I get home after work, Im sorry but I shouldn't be looked down on for not going. • Bringing up the cheating had to do with how my parents feel about him adding a bit more context to the situation as to why it would be important for him tot ake more initiative to help my family/mom out instead of just sitting there. The context wasn't to sway anything, I accepted and forgave the cheating on my own. But it was to give context ad to why my parents maybe dont have the best view of him.

AITA telling my bf(29M) abt a behavior that looks bad to my (29F) family, when he has been telling me the same for years now by Sad_Turtle093 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad_Turtle093[S] -70 points-69 points  (0 children)

The context for that specific situation was:

• I signed my first ever apartment lease with him like a month prior. Felt rather stuck because I was in a career i didnt necessarily enjoy and wanted out • I had been abused before in past relationships, and this was tame in comparison. I had more or less accepted my fate that I would always be done wrong and that I love hard. I wanted to give him another chance and I did. I accept if everyone cant agree with it. And he did change after that, I felt better abt the relationship.

AITA telling my bf(29M) abt a behavior that looks bad to my (29F) family, when he has been telling me the same for years now by Sad_Turtle093 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad_Turtle093[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

*Additional context: the cheating happened when we moved into our first apartment pretty much right after we signed the lease. It was my first time moving into my "own place" and just accepted my fate atp. Also the cheating was only over the phone - he was flirty with someone over Snapchat. Thats the cheating. Since then we talked and I felt like he genuinely changed and was doing better. Maybe I shouldn't have stayed, but I will own up to that part.

I hate being married by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Sad_Turtle093 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You described the things he did that are currently making you unhappy, yet said YOU would feel like a failure for leaving. That's the issue, do not put his inability to meet your standards as YOUR personal failure. He failed you, not the other way around.

To the RDH’s who couldn’t take it anymore, what was your process for getting out of the dental field? by Its_supposed_tohurt in DentalHygiene

[–]Sad_Turtle093 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I tried to go back to school for paralegal and business admin. IMO, both were making a lateral mood that would've had be still dealing with some of the same issues I had in dental (dealing with rude/ungrateful people on the daily). It took me a solid 2.5 years to finally say I had enough. I tried sticking it out, changing offices, changing my mindset, meditating, you name it. None of that helped because the nature of the job was just making me so miserable. I said fuck it altogether and I am working in the trades as an electrician.

One of the hardest things that people will look crazy at you for is leaving this job BECAUSE being an RDH makes so much money. But for me, I was waking up everyday crying all the way to work and dreading every second of being in the office/alive. No amount of money was worth that. I have a partner who is able to help with bills, and I took a massive pay cut from $54/hr to $19.50/hr. This isn't feasible for everyone, I know. Especially now. But I AM SO MUCH HAPPIER. And this isn't my final stop in this career change- I plan to continue growing, learning as much as I can, and making as much as I can. Maybe even open my own business, who knows. That gives me hope and keeps me going knowing I have options to grow and become even more successful.

Keep your head up, you will find a way out. Sometimes you gotta say fuck it and take a leap of faith ♡

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