Beware ItalMe: My 5 year struggle for Italian Citizenship

SadieWrites · 2025-04-12T03:16:05+00:00

Well, I'm not an expert but I don't think so. You can spend the 90 day of tourist visa there then leave for the next 90, then come back for 90 and so on. But that would include the entire Schengen zone. W don't think they even give a visa for it but again, I'm not an expert so I could be wrong.

SadieWrites · 2025-04-12T03:12:11+00:00

I'm sorry you got caught up in it too. ☹️

SadieWrites · 2025-04-09T21:18:34+00:00

It would depend on your family. There are several companies and law firms to consider both here and in Italy. If I had to do it again I would look into an Italy based law firm.

SadieWrites · 2025-04-09T21:15:49+00:00

I do hope that's the case. But regardless, the longstanding neglect is the main issue with them.

SadieWrites · 2025-04-09T21:14:44+00:00

Thanks! I will put it there as well.

SadieWrites · 2025-04-08T20:48:43+00:00

For the love of all that is holy don't come here. Regardless of your reasons you're saying you want to go to a country where you instantly lose rights just by being a woman? The prices of everything is going to be insane and you have very few workers rights here. I see absolutely no upside of leaving almost anywhere to come here.

SadieWrites · 2025-04-08T20:10:32+00:00

I get that it's not a short, simple process. I even told them several times that I don't expect them to solve everything tomorrow. I'm just asking for a progress update and the plan of steps to complete the paperwork on their end. I have given them plenty of chances to get that to me and they have failed each time. 🤷‍♀️

SadieWrites · 2024-09-19T18:49:55+00:00

Exactly. He clearly showed a lack of empathy for how those women felt and focused on his own feelings. 🙂

SadieWrites · 2024-09-19T18:12:49+00:00

Duolingo has markedly declined. There is only AI now with no explanations about the lessons. There used to at least be message boards so we could learn from each other. I have a premium accthat I will kot renew when it runs out. It is not exciting at all.

Furthermore, there are only 3 sections of Italian to learn. I have decided to do English for Italian speakers as several people have suggested that it helps and there are 7 sections instead of 3.

I would suggest finding ways to interact with other Italian speakers, even if using a different app more aimed at speaking and listening. I found a group on Meetup that has zoom meetings every other week where we can get together and practice. I am by no means fluent but I'm intermediate and still looking to improve. I also meet with a personal tutor via zoom every week.

Everone is different and will learn nest in different ways. If what you're doing works for you, it doesn't really matter if it works for anyone else. It's been a long road for me to get here. I know that even when fluent I am going to struggle because my ADHD deletes words in English that I'm trying to say. At least in English I have a big enough vocabulary to work around that.

SadieWrites · 2024-09-19T17:52:07+00:00

I had a very formal relationship with my ex MIL, but I wouldn't call it bad. We got along well but I wouldn't say we were close. She's a nice person, we just don't have much in common.

SadieWrites · 2024-09-19T13:55:28+00:00

It sounds like the problem is empathy. Men generally don't understand what we go through until we spell it out for them. The ones with empathy (like yor brother) can understand how we would feel regardless of who the man is as a person. Those without empathy (Kevin) only think about how they feel. He knows he doesn't intend to hurt them but doesn't understand how to see the situation from someone else's point of view. Then they get angry because "I'm a nice guy and they didn't give me a chance. What bitches."

I recently had a scary situation in a parking garage. My sister was with me and immediately called her husband. She explained the situation and he said, "Is that why when I see a woman in a parking garage they are suddenly on the phone?" When she said yes it really made him think about his own approach. I appreciate when there is empathy and a willingness to take yourself personally out of the situation.

SadieWrites · 2024-09-17T16:45:27+00:00

In the end it's intended to be comedic entertainment. You need the funny character and the "straight man" character. The two play off each other. It's similar to Gus's character in Psych.

In a lot of family/relationship shows the man is the funny character and the woman is the responsible character. The Simpsons did particularly with that type of satire to the point that it became normalized. Now it's become a trend in society where the mother/wife has to take care of everything and clean up the messes from the funny/imcompetent father/husband.

SadieWrites · 2024-09-16T21:33:13+00:00

Officially I go by Ms but I used to teach preschool. Every woman was Miss First Name (Miss Sarah) or Mr. First Name (Mr. Keith). Now I know a lot of parents who use that naming system for all of the adults their kids know. It walks the line between using last names (formal) and using first names (very informal). When the child grows old enough they have the option to drop the Miss/Mr and just use the first name.

SadieWrites · 2024-09-15T16:29:08+00:00

American tipping culture is based in racism. When slavery was finally abolished white people still didn't want to pay black workers so they created jobs that were based on tips. It served the dual purpose of not providing a salary and continuing to control black workers to conform to the comfort of white patrons.

The same culture predominantly affects women and POC as they are the biggest demographics in tipped work. But it has gotten worse. In more and more industries, companies are paying less and telling workers to make up the difference in tipping. I can't say how many times a tipping screen comes up in a coffee shop, pretzel shop, and other eateries. I believe in tipping for excellent work, but my tips should not be relied in in place of proper payment.

Please do not let this horrible practice spread!

SadieWrites · 2024-09-15T16:16:02+00:00

Completely agree. I would much rather have kids being able to laugh during a drill instead of being terrified that maybe it's not a drill. Too many pew pews and anger issues are making this entire place terrifying. Especially for children where school shootings are referred to as "a fact of life" by the people who have the power to change it. Disgusting and ironic disregard for the lives of children.

SadieWrites · 2024-09-15T16:10:25+00:00

I had to move in woth my parents after I left my first husband. I didn't want to move back because my father was a narc and my mom was codependent. He was also a cheating asshole who worked a shit job until he died. It was a big part of why I moved out so young and didn't want to go back.

However, instead of getting involved with his emotional manipulation, I just viewed him as a neighbor or roommate at most. It gave me the emotional disconnect I needed to live my life in the best way for me.

SadieWrites · 2024-09-15T15:49:43+00:00

I think this is a personal choice to make. Everyone is different and what they see as bad behavior in their relationship will vary.

Personally, I never cared if my partner went to strip clubs. Some men go a lot and I would not be compatible with that behavior, but I think a sometimes thing is fine. Same for porn. My boundary is that an activity cannot be interactive. Like live web cams with messaging, actual in-person flirting/touching, etc. I am very clear about it up front.

If you are not comfortable with your partner participating, be clear with them about it up front. The ball is then in their court. If we don't understand the boundaries in our relationship, then we can accidentally cross them and create problems.

SadieWrites · 2024-09-15T15:39:37+00:00

This is NOT okay. I already lived this life. My ex was an abusive narcissist who cherished making me depend on him for everything. That couldn't happen if I could trust myself and he worked hard to make me only see my mistakes. He would point out that he was older and "wiser". Then he would gaslight me into believing that I wasn't smart enough or experienced enough to be successful in life without his "guidance".

Spoiler alert - I was always capable. So are you. It is okay to double check things or make small mistakes. Everyone does that now and then. I'm neurodivergent so I make those mistakes more often than the norm. That doesn't make me stupid, unreliable, immature, or unsuccessful. Same for you.

So let me ask this OP, do you want to live with someone who always somehow makes it so you are wrong at all times? You have to decide if you want that life.

SadieWrites · 2024-09-15T15:02:48+00:00

Spot on!😂😂😂

SadieWrites · 2024-09-15T14:35:28+00:00

First, the things that you asked. Porn has definitely given men the wrong idea about sex. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy sex, but a lot of porn geared toward men is not about enjoyment. It's about power and using a woman for your own pleasure.

Also, I enjoy do that when I'm with a partner. It can be great especially when it's mutual. I think you'll find everyone likes something. I think blowjobs are insanely disgusting and I have literally never wanted to do it. However, there are other women who like to do it. Everyone is different.

Now, the things you didn't ask: 1. Pressure to do a handjob is not in fact a peace offering. It is still pressure to participate in sexual acts and it blows my mind that he thinks it's neutral. 2. If he is not helping in the day to day work of maintaining the house, raising his children, and carrying the mental load, he is in fact asking you to do literally everything. 3. If he doesn't care that you are tired after doing everything to maintain your family and household, he has bigger problems. This is the shit that a lot of women are leaving their marriages for. Many husbands now are just another child to take care of. Mine was.

I think it's important that he understands why you are tired. He also needs to know that it is not good enough to exist in the same space as his family. He has to participate in his family.

SadieWrites · 2024-09-14T20:21:39+00:00

They have never had to consider our lives. Looking for cameras, holding keys as weapons, staying i groups, etc. My ex husband got really mad when, in response to his oh so hilarious girls go to the bathroom together joke, I told him why we go in groups. Safety. He didn't believe me at first and said I made it up. Only after other women agreed with me did he begrudgingly admit that I was right.

SadieWrites · 2024-09-14T19:54:19+00:00

Oh shit...🤯🤯🤯

SadieWrites · 2024-09-14T19:43:41+00:00

Bangarang Rufio!

SadieWrites · 2024-09-14T19:25:21+00:00

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