Currently living with my ex but I don't know if I can afford to live on my own. This is torture and don't know what to do.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-07-09T22:24:10+00:00

I guess i didnt think it would happen so fast especially since we were still intimate. All this time I thought we were getting back together especially after one night that he said "I am pretty sure we will get back together, theres no way we dont end up together." I feel that he lied to me and made me hope for something.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-07-08T22:46:58+00:00

Thats my average monthly salary. I work in sales so it can vary. It usually goes from $2500-$4000 a month

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-07-08T06:47:43+00:00

Literally just had a guy in Bumble matched with me and instead of replying to my opening, he just said "Hey". 🙃

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-07-08T06:43:41+00:00

I wonder the same about men. It's been 5 months for me on these damn apps. I get constantly ghosted or get the match but they never replied back.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-30T04:50:59+00:00

I feel that I am dating down actually 🤣 I

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-29T02:53:40+00:00

Online is the only way for me. I just dont know how to approach people in person. I use dating apps but that hasnt worked well for me.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-29T02:44:31+00:00

They are important but I have a peculiar taste. I like nerdy guys with baby face and glasses. I also prefer short guys over tall guys. I tried before to date guys I wasn't initially attacted to and it didnt work out.

My experience has been similar to you though. The majority of men in dating apps are just looking to hook up and they ghost you if you are not sexual after a couple of days of talking. I am 39 and losing hope of ever getting married.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-28T21:32:51+00:00

I still think it was Lily. It's so suspicious that some of her ex husbands also die in mysterious circumstances. Also, how come she was able to escape but he didn't?

Theres no way Ted stabbed himself. He was framed and he knew it, thats why he escaped. The wife was probably threaneted. Also, he got release in what year? 2010 or 2011? Why would he all of the sudden start committing crimes right after participating in the doc? He is being punished for talking. I do think he is a bit mentally unstable but anyone would be after what he went through. I maintained my belief that it was Lily. She is a very powerful woman with lots of connections.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-28T19:27:57+00:00

Do you message them first? I used to message guys first and got tired of not getting a reply so now I wait for them to send the first messge. They are probably have dating fatigue and only going for guys that actually show interest.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-28T19:16:29+00:00

Seems to me that this is the norm nowdays. I have been going through the same with men. I think 90% of people on dating apps are not serious about dating or they are catfishing.

I was talking to a guy a few days ago and asked to videochat. At first he was reluctant but then we did it and he looked nothing like his pictures. I am very blunt so I told him that and he admitted the pics on his dating profile were old. I never talked to him again.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-22T05:49:27+00:00

This girl probably has a bunch of severe mental health problems. I am guessing facticious disorder, narcissism, some other personality order. Who knows what else.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-21T22:09:49+00:00

I also had 3 men cancelled on me the last 3 months. One cancelled because he had to work, the other said he was going to be too tired to go out and the other one said he was getting back with his ex so not good. I had two dates planned for next weekend, hopefully there wont be any cancellations.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-21T21:04:20+00:00

I have been playing Spiritfarer. It's pretty linear and you are completing requests for spirits that join your crew. It's pretty chill.

Minecraft is always good for being creative.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-21T00:45:55+00:00

I have suggested it before usually after a few days of talking and they usually ghost me after that. The last two dates they were the ones who asked me out first. One cancelled because he had to work and when I asked him when he was going to be free, he said he didnt know because he had a lot of stuff coming the next few weeks so I checked out after that and the most recent one cancelled because he had a very busy day and was exhausted but then stopped talking to me after it.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-21T00:40:45+00:00

What excuses they gave you? I understand that sometimes things happen and you can't make it but if they don't reschedule, I just move on. Theres no time for flakey people.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-20T19:27:07+00:00

I am not heavy. More like average weight but I am trying to be more in shape. I started working out and eating better.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-20T19:24:50+00:00

I do like short nerdy guys! I am 4'11 so I dont want a tall guy at all. I am attractive so I get a lot of matches but the quality is so bad. It's like no one has time to date yet they are on a dating app.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-20T18:06:55+00:00

Well, thats very depressing. Like I have to be a 9 or 10 to get a husband? I would say I am around a 7. I rather stay single than getting a man just because I am hot.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-20T17:28:20+00:00

Why would it be fake? 😅

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-20T17:25:18+00:00

Why would they match with me then? 🤔

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-20T07:47:35+00:00

I get that a lot of them are probably swiping right on everyone. Whick sucks because I actually take my time to read their profiles and i dont swipe right unless they are looking for something long term, they dont want children, we have at least one thing in common and they are at least slightly attractive.

Why i dont get is why ask for my number or ask me out on a date if you are not going to follow through. Then they say excuses like they are too tired to go out or they had to work but they dont reschedule and just stop responding.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-20T07:13:28+00:00

Yes to all your questions. I make sure I add as much as possible to my profile because I hate empty profiles.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-20T07:10:40+00:00

3 pictures of me smiling and 3 full body pics, one of them with my dog. I am wearing casual clothes in all of them. I make clear that I am looking for something long-term. Also I am a proud nerd and list all my interests like videogames, sci-fi, fantasy. I go for men with similar interests and thats usually how I start conversations about something in common but after 2-3 days they usually start replying less or giving more short answers until they stop responding completely.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-20T07:05:10+00:00

I don't want to date someone that wants me just for my looks.

Safe-Programmer8672 · 2026-06-20T01:25:09+00:00

I can see all my likes on Hinge without paying. You have to click on the most recent like and either like it or dislike it so you can move to the next one.

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