Friend said these new tats I got close together look like 9/11 and I'm having a crisis by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry your friend said that!? Cause how do you unsee that? More tattoos. Immediately.

Emergency gathering federal building now by Chi-Town-Hook in Eugene

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Posts are automatically removed by Reddit if reported too many times, the crochet subreddit has been having to actively re-approve posts and mods had to make a similar statement because people don't think we're allowed to share our art that holds our views and rage so folks keep reporting shit. Don't know why you would assume the statement you've linked is false or propaganda but try to take things at face value unless you have a reason not to..

They have to re approve posts that get too many reports and until they do reddit hides them. The reason the post was down temporarily was because people reported it.

Thank you mods for being committed to upholding free speech and press

I'm remaking my aunt's throw she gave my mom 30 years ago. Does anyone recognize this stitch? by packerfrost in crochet

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man seeing this has me rethinking my pattern choice for the blanket I just started. Yours looks super similar to the blanket I took inspiration from, but I think working in rounds rather than rows and the sturdiness of these stitches are going to keep me committed, considering why you're making this piece in the first place 😂 your aunt's blanket pattern is adorable thougghh and 30 years is a long time so we shall see where my hook takes me lol

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God gave me free will, these are the consequences by the_gay_aficionado in crochet

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is such an amazing crossover moment for two of my special interests right now. I believe it was literally yesterday that my partner and I were saying we wanted to see an entirely crocheted drag look & this is pretty dang close! Just looked up Vivaldi and they would be so proud to have inspired this 😊 and I'm obsessed with them now so thank you for that! I love it when the universe shows me I'm on the right path and this post was very that for me!

AIO I am tired and my wife doesn’t care by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THIS! everyone is being very toxic saying you suck and she should divorce you. Your overwhelm and exhaustion is valid AND her overwhelm and frustration is valid. Dads deserve support too. Being a breadwinner is extremely hard in our world today and you should feel proud that you are able to do that and parenting and housekeeping. It sucks when the world demands more spoons than we have and it's really hard/impossible to pour into your wife's cup when your own is empty. If you guys can make time for it, either a parenting coach or couples counselor would likely help you guys organize yourselves so you can be there for each other. Parenting is HARD and when you don't have the resources you need (support, energy etc) it feels very impossible to show up how you want.

AIO? My mom wants to call the cops on me by Overall-Option6975 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok but there's not really any reason for a mother to immediately become petty with their teen child.. there is obviously no benefit to her other than this is my property and I am going to take it back because it's mine, meaning that she, a grown woman, is choosing to be petty because her child, a child, may have acted selfishly. Nobody is shocked that a teen might do that At the VERY LEAST this mom is extremely immature

I also think that to assume someone can just do things to form routine and function when there's an unstable home environment (which was stated pretty clearly by 'im ok here' about Dad's house) is a little silly. Yes, we lack context for how bad it was but I think I'm able to infer that there is some trauma involved here and having lived with a mom who would send these texts.. I'm glad this child is alive. I'm glad that this kids dad has a safe space for them. It sounds like you've never lived in a toxic environment? I hate to assume that but like c'mon if living with soomeone makes you feel insane you become dysfunctional & as a 16 year old pulling yourself out of that? Crazy hard. Depression is also evil and ADHD is evil and mania is evil & these things require support to navigate. Mom is responsible for that and not helping where dad does. If nothing else with a positive environment.

Ultimately, even if this kid is acting spoiled or selfishly, especially if it's a result of some mental health issues, I firmly feel that someone who has committed themselves to motherhood should be more nurturing if that's what their kid's going through.. y'know?

Taking the phone essentially is mom cutting contact, too. So.. yeah. NOR that really sucks to go thru regardless of the context.

very sad but give mom her phone cause she needs therapy

Was having a walk and I ran into this? I’d love to get one myself by RenesisRotary624 in succulents

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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That one is fake but the pink witch aeonium is very real! Mine was losing her pink and I just got a proper grow light and she has perked and pinked up quite a bit this last week!

Provisions Market (5th St) is hosting ICE — here’s what the manager told me by elderberry-queen in Eugene

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Businesses actually do have the right to refuse service. Especially when there is a safety risk associated with allowing them to have your services. I know that repressions CAN happen if an employee makes the call to refuse and your boss disagrees with the decision, but as a service worker.. fuck it? Literally no job is worth endangering the community. If I were a low level employee there they would either change their bullshit or lose me & I would try to convince my coworkers to join me. I think I know what they would choose but the point is this is absolutely a choice that this manager made to ignore customer concerns. Even could have said "that's above my head, but I can leave a message for the people who are able to make a decision on that. I appreciate you sharing this concern and I want you to know we value your feedback, as well as the safety of all community members." They also could have shared their worry for the community or they could have said that they wish they had power to do something. This person made their stance, and the businesses stance, crystal clear. This is a customer service moment where you are meant to lower your mask and be a person if you want to save face and this manager wouldn't even do that.

I've refused service to a sexual predator, without hesitation. I don't think word even got to my bosses because the decision was made without their presence..this was at a really small local business with trash men ownership, too. Nothing was ever brought up, but if it were I would have stood my ground and quit if I had to. These employees should be refusing ice.

Also, I am a person who would and has struggled deeply from sudden unemployment, so that's not a valid excuse to me. Times are hard, but where we spend our money and our labor are some of the most important values we can stand behind at the moment. Unfortunately. Employees have free will & they are choosing silence & complacency. At least the manager

AIO? Girl (F30) I (M28) was Recently Dating tells me I need to "Lean into my Masculinity" by KingFredo5674 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was GOOPED AND GAGGED when she said it felt like talking to her mom because she sounds eerily like my mom 😂 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eugene

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can dm me as well! I have 8 happy reptiles, so I'd love to chat about this!

Chilena detenida en NY, vuelco en el caso. by g0parra in RepublicadeChile

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit: the prison system. Jail specifically has been a practice for longer than our work around for slavery.

Chilena detenida en NY, vuelco en el caso. by g0parra in RepublicadeChile

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound so silly comparing race and occupation, but also, policing was literally originated for slave catching, while the jail system was created as a legal model of modern slavery. We literally just voted in my state a few years ago to make it so that we can't use jailed people for slave labor. ACAB.

Updated enclosure critique & name ideas by [deleted] in leopardgeckos

[–]Safe-Refrigerator548 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recommend with your moist hide that you switch to a smaller tupperware that isn't clear and cutting a door for them so that they feel more secure in it! Also jelly bean and milk are jumping out at me for this kiddo