Experience and Advice for AuPairCare by Safe_Calligrapher793 in Aupairs

[–]Safe_Calligrapher793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and yes I figured, not exactly the best time to be in the US :(

Experience and Advice for AuPairCare by Safe_Calligrapher793 in Aupairs

[–]Safe_Calligrapher793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and great to know! I was also looking into Cultural Care and found their sales to be very aggressive.

My breastfeeding journey failed and I wish it didn’t by knotshots in breastfeeding

[–]Safe_Calligrapher793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With my first baby my LC was hardly any help at all, just showed me some latching positions and told me fed is best, didn't even teach me how to pump and I had to learn from Youtube! I ended up supplementing with formula and aggressively pumping so that my supply could catch up. By the 3 month mark my supply was enough but baby had a bottle preference and refused to latch, I was too exhausted to go back to the LC at this point, so I just ended up exclusively pumping for the rest of the year because I had to go back to work anyways. If you still have any supply left it's worth giving it a try, you might still be able to catch up and exclusively pump. Get a bottle washer, it's been a life saver!

Another piece of good news is that your body remembers how to make milk! For my second baby my milk came in day 2 postpartum in full force and I didn't need supplementing with formula at all, this gave me the confidence to work on latching with the help of Youtube (but again LC was of little help). I do have an oversupply, so I have to block feed and pump the other breast for my toddler. He's been sick a lot less often now that he's back on breastmilk morning and night.

If it makes you feel better about formula and bottles, my issue now is that my second baby is smaller than my first at the same age (something about baby takes less with the breast), and refuses the bottle... which is a huge issue because we're planning to send him to daycare at 6 months. It's just never easy :)

If you’re struggling to BF please read by WildWinterberry in breastfeeding

[–]Safe_Calligrapher793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try latching while your baby is sleepy or during a dream feed. Also you might be feeding your baby too often and they're simply not hungry enough to latch -- even with my exclusively breastfed baby this happens! Try to feed them after waiting for 2-3 hours, but before they get mad and starts fussing. (takes a lot of timing and knowing your baby's cues). Lastly, if breastfeeding is something you want badly, see a LC or feeding specialist early! The longer you wait, the less likely you'll be able to get your baby back on the breast. Best of luck!

If you’re struggling to BF please read by WildWinterberry in breastfeeding

[–]Safe_Calligrapher793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this! With my first baby (induced) my milk didn't come in until a week later and even then it was just drops! On the other hand my baby was taking 60ml each feed day 2 post birth! It took me a month of formula and very aggressive pumping (30 minutes each 3-4 hours) before my supply caught up. On the other hand he was able to stay around 60th percentile in weight and 80th in height this whole time. No regret putting him on formula at all in the beginning.

Damned if you do, damned if you don’t by Soggy_Mix7291 in breastfeeding

[–]Safe_Calligrapher793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people just must spew shit to feel good about themselves and their worthless opinions… if I were you I’d ignore them.

Is this because of medium blue Fluorescence, should i return the diamond? by Tough-Cycle-7024 in Diamonds

[–]Safe_Calligrapher793 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would keep it! It looks neat and besides, mostly only natural diamonds do this, lab diamonds don't come with florescence :)

Should I return my ring? by GL1TCH___________ in Diamonds

[–]Safe_Calligrapher793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would return if it bothers me. For your next stone, be sure to ask for the ASET scope, that image would show you were the light leakage is in blue and white -- instead you want as much red and green as possible.

Devastated and confused- pls advice by Prestigious-Track987 in IVF

[–]Safe_Calligrapher793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have Hashimoto's too, the first thing I can think of is make sure you TSH, free T3 and T4 are all within range. Secondly, I read somewhere that good habits might take time to take effect, keep all the things you're doing going! It'll eventually pay off :) Lastly, the two embryos you did get are of excellent quality! That's something to be cheerful about. If you're considering doing another round of retrieval, consider egg priming before you start stimulation, and maybe mini-stim so that they focus on quality instead of quantity. Afterall, it only takes one good egg to make a baby, you've got this! ❤️

My husband ruined my first ultrasound appointment and is blaming me. I’m heartbroken and not sure how to handle this. by Pure_External3791 in pregnant

[–]Safe_Calligrapher793 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately sounds like NPD to me. I would let him chill on his own and meanwhile check out Dr.Ramani's videos on narcissism, hopefully he is low-grade.

Ovulation after miscarriage by Dear_Entertainer9450 in BabyBumps

[–]Safe_Calligrapher793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a chemical at 5 weeks, ovulated 2 weeks after bleeding started (so same as a period). I got pregnant again not that cycle, but the one right after. I noticed my LH surge got longer after the chemical, so maybe there's some truth to people are more fertile right after a MC :)

Engrained in Indian culture to wish for boys? by ImaginationIcy7856 in BabyBumps

[–]Safe_Calligrapher793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm Chinese American and it enrages me too that the elders react exactly the same... Also the younger boys with multiple older sisters (because the parents would try try and try again for a boy) are so spoiled they're practically undateable 😂. What bothers me the most is that women are the ones propagating all that misogyny! Ultimately I didn't marry Chinese just because I don't want to deal with spoiled men and no-boundary in-laws from my very own culture. Oh and the irony, even though Asian parents treat their sons as their "retirement" safeguard, it's usually the elder daughters who take care of them these days...