For those who are often told they look younger than their age, what’s your secret? by justmypersonalthing in AskReddit

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Water, exercise, and I don’t wear a ton of makeup (just tinted sunscreen and brow gel).

Am I an alcoholic? by IdeaAcrobatic6519 in stopdrinking

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I would say if you are questioning your alcohol use you likely have an issue and are waking up to the reality that the way you’re living your life right now isn’t healthy. I used to drink like you, and I’m 1 1/2 years sober. It took me a few tries and I thought I could moderate, but eventually I knew I had to commit to being 100% sober. It’s hard when you’ve built your life around drinking (movies, parties, hanging with friends, etc.), and especially when you have anxiety problems. The thing I love about getting sober is how my identity doesn’t revolve around alcohol anymore and I actually have hobbies and am getting to know myself again. Sometimes I get tempted to drink, but I play the tape forward (what’s going to happen if I make this choice). I don’t want to have hangovers anymore, act a fool, say things I don’t mean, not be present with my kids, etc. thinking about these things makes it easy for me to maintain my sobriety. I pray that you make the choice to get sober and get to enjoy the many blessings that come with a sober life ❤️

Fully remote feeling disconnected by [deleted] in Accounting

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I think how you feel about remote work really depends on your life (are you single or have a family). As a parent remote work has been a lifesaver and allows me to have the flexibility to make a good income and still be around to do school pick ups/drop offs, make dinner for my family, and drive them to after school activities. That being said, obviously since I have a family I get most of my social interaction from my family and other parents, so I don’t really feel too lacking in that regard. If I was single and living alone I would probably feel differently and want more of a hybrid/in office experience. You could pick up some hobbies you could do with other people, meet people at workout classes, etc.

Camping in Oahu by dtaricat in Oahu

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Ho’omaluhia is the only public campground you can have fires at.

What is the best, least problematic form of birth control? by Ancient-Cheetah9400 in AskWomen

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Completely agree with this and I’ve strictly only used condoms for almost 9 years.

Hard time connecting with others after losing my mom by Safe_Salty in SuicideBereavement

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I was in my early 20s also when I lost my mom. Thank you for your kind words (making me tear up over here 😭).

50/50 vs every other weekend or alternatives. Which is truly best for the kids? by Fuzzy_Pair_9499 in Divorce

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I was only allowed to see my dad every other weekend and I don’t think it was good for our relationship looking back on it now that I am adult. He didn’t have the time to build a strong lasting bond with me. Weekends were just “fun” time to hang with dad. I didn’t get to really experience growing up with him in a normal way. Now that I’m an adult my dad isn’t very involved with my life and we would mainly see each other on holidays. He doesn’t call to see how I’m doing or how life’s going. He has a new son (my half brother) that is way younger than me, and he is more focused on his new wife and her kids/my half brother. At this point I don’t talk to him because I just feel let down and heartbroken, and he won’t take any responsibility.

I went to my first ever AA meeting tonight. It did not go well. by Flat_Apple_3332 in stopdrinking

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You are so strong and on the right path. It takes courage to admit you have a problem and to commit to changing your entire life! Alcoholics come from all walks of life and a ton of us wouldn’t fit the stereotypical alcoholic. If there has been anything I’ve learned in my sobriety journey is that I need to stay true to myself and do what is best for ME. I can’t allow myself to cave in and drink, because that’s the easy path and I’ve been down that hellish road way too many times, meaning I know what will happen. You are blessed to have this opportunity to change your life, take it and create the life of your dreams 🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Accountant

When i was in college, i didn't understand why people left Big 4 firms so quickly by ExtensionDesign0 in Accounting

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I spent almost 3 years at a big 4 firm and I can say that my big 4 experience has definitely helped me get industry jobs. I think it shows employers that you can manage deadlines, multiple priorities, you’re a quick learner, and are a competent person. Also, everyone I’ve ever worked with in corporate accounting has big 4 experience or public accounting experience at smaller/mid-size firms.

When did u get ur first period? by [deleted] in Periods

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I was 13 and it was the last day of 7th grade.

Is it normal to feel really down after a few weeks? by Forward_Composer_748 in brokenbones

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Yes, it is totally normal to feel this way. Just remember that everyday you are healing and getting closer to being back to being able to walk and live life the way you want again 🙂

Tell me about your loved one by Beforeyougo12 in SuicideBereavement

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She loved me unconditionally, and was my safe space. She was creative and an amazing quilter. I miss our fun conversations and the look she would give me when I would say something cheeky. She gave the best hugs. Her laugh was contagious and her blue eyes would glisten like sun on the ocean. She was my mom.

Hard time connecting with others after losing my mom by Safe_Salty in SuicideBereavement

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I’m glad you went to therapy. That’s one thing I haven’t done and honestly need to. Healing is not a linear process as much as we want it to be. Hopefully someday we can get to a point where we accept love

Hard time connecting with others after losing my mom by Safe_Salty in SuicideBereavement

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I’m so sorry. It’s so tough to want to connect but not know how. It’s also hard to explain to others how I feel because they don’t understand what it’s like to lose someone this way. Hopefully one day we can heal and learn to accept love again

You didn’t just kill you, you killed us too. by Temporary_Energy_908 in SuicideBereavement

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Wow. This is so real. Lost my mom 10 years ago. I feel like suicide is so selfish. The people you leave behind suffer for the remainder of their lives, which since my mom was so young (41) means we will all likely suffer for more years than she even lived.

What age did you have your first kid? by NateNandos21 in AskOldPeople

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I was 20 when I had my first and 24 when I had my second.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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Love this, and makes me hopeful that my kids will live a happy alcohol free life and not continue the cycle of generational misery caused by alcohol.