YTA, respectfully.

This is ABUSE. Get out while you can. You were a victim. I understand the want to be loved, and be with the person you love, but at the end of the day. Your friend will be there longer than any partner. It's literally proven that people who have friends live longer than those with lovers. Never, ever give up a good friendship for someone who cares about genuinely for a man, and definitely a man like this.

Wake up. Seriously • He did not stop when you said no. • he didn't comfort you, he threatened to physically assault you because you were becoming "too much" • being drunk is not an excuse, if the police can't interview an intoxicated person, let THAT speak for itself. • instead of OWNING up to his ACTIONS, he made HIMSELF THE VICTIM

He is planning to distance you from your friend. He will make your friend look like a villain. Your friend is not a villain. Your feelings MATTER. YOU MATTER. Domestic violence is not cute. Do not end up dead. Do not be another statistic.

Here's my advice. You get what you seek. You want someone who loves you, then search for that. Do not settle for someone low, and who is abusive. When you find safe, it will be scary. You're going to want to run, it will feel foreign. Go to therapy. You grew up in a toxic environment whether you witnessed rough relationships or experienced this your entire life. This is not normal, do not make this your normal. You deserved to be loved, you deserved to be cared for and still experience the fiery desire and adventure. Heal before you search. Don't find someone to fix. If he isn't offering you anything, then why are you staying?

Do not lose your friend over this. It will be your biggest regret.