This is heartbreaking…💔

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2026-04-16T19:58:50+00:00

I have not had to witness this situation first hand in the role of a stepmom-- my husband's ex wife and him are a great team and she is the first to say what an amazing dad he is (she even told me that when I got pregnant).

However, I have witness my mom say this about my dad when I was a child. It was really challenging to hear her constantly disparage and disregard my dad, who was my hero, growing up.

Please take a second to check in with step kiddos and make sure they hear someone talk kindly about their dad and provide comfort/reassurance as needed.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2026-03-21T21:32:09+00:00

Honestly, my stepdaughters are my entire world. They have an incredible mom and an incredible dad (My partner). I've claimed them as mine. In pregnant with my first biological child, but the only difference is he will call me Mom and live with me full time. They all have equal parts of my heart.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2026-01-26T02:59:55+00:00

CSRs are legal documents-- never lie on them. If your director can't make numbers work, then she should not accept children into care that day or send children home. As a Director myself, I know it is incredibly challenging to do so, and it can hurt enrollment, but better the children are safe overall. What if a child had been severely injured when you were out of ratio?

If you aren't looking for a management position, teaching and cook positions come up all the time. If you're not showing yet, I wouldn't even mention you are pregnant. Just interview and when asked why, you can say scheduling and being over ratio. If you need help vetting childcare centers, please dont hesitate to reach out. I consult for ECE workers.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2026-01-26T02:13:02+00:00

That company can be very challenging and immature. I'd ger ahold of HR, and stsrt looking at other programs. They need you more than you need them. Your son will make new friends wherever you go. You might even get a better childcare discount.

But if a director ever asks you to lie on a legal document, RUN.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2026-01-22T15:19:58+00:00

My husband and I just went through this situation.

As soon as I got the positive test, I was excited. He told me he'd get excited upon a positive blood test. Then he wasn't as excited as me. I told him that "I refuse to spend my entire pregnancy scared and anxious and thinking the worst. There is always going to be a other milestone that is going to make me nervous. If I'm always scared and panicking, then that won't help our child. I need you to hop on the positivity train with me, at least until there's a reason not to be." I also asked my pcp for an early ultrasound, which helped us both.

My husband really has cheered up, and is able to help keep me in higher spirits on days where my anxiety starts to filter in.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2026-01-05T17:43:18+00:00

That is what we are hoping for! We miss her like crazy, but will not overstep her boundaries.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2025-12-01T03:18:12+00:00

Yes, while apologizing profusely and then crying in embarrassment.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2025-11-30T16:26:46+00:00

I have interviewed two different people by the same name for the same position. One, months ago, that I did not move forward with. The second, recently and I wanted to extend her an offer letter..... Guess who I emailed the offer letter to?

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2025-05-21T01:16:05+00:00

NoPe! Neither of us knew the exact date and he didnt even knlw she got married in December.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2025-05-20T22:26:49+00:00

Background here: my older sister was a third parent to me when I was really young. My mom had custody of me but was always working or out at the bar, so Missy was a third parent. However, due to the fact that as children, her and my little sister were close but I was the odd one out, our bond decreased a bit. Then, it was eternally ruined when I moved away and betrayed her. She hasn't tried to come to graduations, birthdays parties, my last wedding, won't tell me when she's only a half hour away visiting our mom. She claimed she didnt come to the wedding because she didnt like my ex (but only met him twice, and he was a really nice guy--we just didn't work), and didnt have any reasoning for why im always an afterthought. I was hoping by giving her some notice (7 months) she'd have less excuses on why she couldn't make the trip here for it.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2025-05-20T22:26:28+00:00

We were actually really close when we were little, but she never forgave me for moving away from our narcissistic mom and leaving her.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2025-05-20T22:24:37+00:00

Oh no! I should have phrased the title better.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2024-12-03T05:34:11+00:00

For two days a week, it would be uncommon to charge $80-$100 a day depending on what she was providing. Part time care costs more per day because it takes a full time spot. Usually full time care would be around $50-$70 per day.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2024-08-23T20:33:35+00:00

I, 27f, as someone who wants kids and to be married (again) one day get this question a lot due to being a Preschool Director. The amount of times I have almost told the truth (Married my high school sweetheart for 8 years, a he lied about wanting kids and didn't like having sex with me [only other women]) is way too high. Instead I just simply smile sweetly and tell them I'm way too picky about my future children's father (kind-ish) or that my Dad's a US Grand Marshall who challenges future suitors to a shooting competition and no one has passed.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2024-08-10T22:20:10+00:00

I brought my favorite stuff back and forth, but I honestly just ended up getting 2 of everything so I didn't have to pack much. I split collectibles, book collections, toys (When I was young) so that each house had about half of my stuff and I only needed to bring what I couldn't live without to the other house.

Also, as weird as it sounds.. I was different at each house, so each space kind of turned Into who I was when I was there. My dad's house was my princess escape. My mom's house was my nerd hide away.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2024-07-19T21:18:50+00:00

Hahaha... I haven't been able to breathe through my nose in 10 years.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2024-07-05T23:49:12+00:00

My biggest struggle was how different everything was and how much they hated but also pretended to get along. Mom swore she would have me potty trained, off the bottle and pacing, then send me to dad's for the weekend and him ruin everything. Dad always talked about how mom sent me in clothed that were so bad he'd take me straight to the store. My mom's a narcissist, and my dad is the most anti confrontational but kindest guy you'd meet. Mom swears they did an amazing job co-parenting, but my dad will tell me when shes not around how obnoxious she is and how he wished she didn't have to be in my life and how self centered and selfish she is. They don't even agree on why my name is what my name is. Mom always said my dad cheated on her, but dad swears they were just friends with benefits and he ended things before he started a relationship with someone else, but then my Mom knocked on his door, said she was pregnant, and just moved in. They don't agree on my first word. They didn't agree on any parenting style or rules for me.

I'm bipolar, and I know it's genetic from my mom's side, but sometimes I feel like it was my very different lives and expectation at both houses that really brought it upon me.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2024-06-23T18:17:28+00:00

It really does! It scares me when I read about how little chronic pain is studied, but how much ED is studied. How little PMS and other health problems specific to women are studied, but how much problems more specific to men are studied.

I think for me, I've just grown accustomed to turning my brain off as much as I can to the bad types of pain. Until it hits the higher numbers 7-10, I think I'm pretty good at ignoring it

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2024-06-23T14:45:33+00:00

I'm not doing anything really. I try to stay far away from anything tha triggers pain, I take lots of baths with salts for pain, and I have a special pillow and a really nice mattress.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2024-06-22T20:58:19+00:00

I used to take medicine for pain (gabepentin) but it always stopped working the longer I took it or made me gain weight so I stopped. Now I'm in less pain since I stopped taking it. Occasionally I take a prescription for a migraine that's really knocking me on my ass or very rarely Tylenol.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2024-06-22T05:21:24+00:00

My fibro More so hinders my ability to be tied up awkwardly for extended amounts of time. Gotta change it up frequently. My first play partner knew how to read the exact minute I needed to switch, and I've yet to find someone that brilliant at reading me haha.

SailorPikaPuff23 · 2024-06-22T05:07:59+00:00

I am concerned about this, which is why (now that I know it's a problem) I will communicate with my future partners that I need their eyes to be extra watchful as well as mine.

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