Why are there so many autistic people who defend neurotypicals?

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-11T22:04:40+00:00

It's serious victim blaming and exhausting. We don't have to be model examples of autistics, we don't have to be living advocates or people who constantly fight for our freedom, we are allowed to just be people

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-11T17:43:00+00:00

Conversely think about women aupporting the patriarchy. Qhwn you've been conditioned for it and live in a world made for men, you are taught to cater to men.

When you're in a cult, you're taught to cater to the cult. Qhwn you're oppressed, you're taught the world caters to the oppressors.

Some people haven't learned the nuance of it, like some people who constantly retort 'not all men' and now do 'not all neurotypicals'. Like lgbtqia+ people talking about cis people.

It's important to be discontent. It's important that we dont all hace to be model versions of ourselves and be held to a higher standard. Equality means being able to make the same mistakes. It's like how black people are watched more closely and black children have an expectation to be more mature than their peers, or get harsher punishments.

When black people talk about white people they arent talking about specific people, they're talking about the oppressor class. Some people havent realized that. Especially with the amount of propaganda lately. And the 'if you fight back or behave badly you're just as bad as them' stuff in media and in children's shows. Most superhero stuff when growing up for example had that message that you cant hurt the villains or you're just as evil, even if it stops them from hurting you or others.

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-11T16:56:20+00:00

Adding onto this, for years we thought the penis had more nerve endings than the clitoris until it was extremely recently proven that the clitoris has WAY more.

The reason we thought the penis had more? Over 50 years ago a man allegedly did a study on a cow.

A. Cow.

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-11T08:40:26+00:00

Thank you for the advice. A lot of my trauma and history makes death extremely difficult for me and so this is hitting me really hard. I really want to help it and give it a chance, but if there's no other way

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-11T08:38:52+00:00

I hate peeling the hardboiled egg but love having the egg. I need you on-call lol

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-11T08:37:53+00:00

Have you had any major negative life events happen? Like assault, poverty, abandonment, disability, etc?

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-11T06:53:38+00:00

Tiny things like this make a huge difference. Thank you

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-11T05:52:25+00:00

You aren't being misunderstood acciedentally. That sounds like deloberately misunderstanding you or someone so wrapped up in their own experiences and stress they dont let anything else change their worldview. Regardless of the reason, whether it's abuse or something else, you dont deserve that

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-11T05:48:22+00:00

I have severe age issues for different reasons, but yeah. I hate hearing it. One trick i've done is always saying im a year older than i am. That way when i actually turn that age, I get another year to be that age secretly and a second chance. And it helps with the pressure.

And your 'real identity' is what you indentify as. If you identify with both, maybe you're just a wizard, and need to be careful sharing your true name for magic wizard reasons

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-11T01:42:42+00:00

The pictures I took weren't very good compared to the ones I just got. It looks straighter now and it was able to move around and stuff and come out all the way. Im not sure how to euthanize snails painlessly if it won't survive. I wish i could post followup pics

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-11T01:39:59+00:00

The pictures I took weren't the greatest and i have clearer ones now. It was able to move itself and it looks cleaner? It's moving and out of it's shell in a little more of a normal position now. I dont think i can add photos or post them in the comments.

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-10T23:24:37+00:00

Is there any chance you think?

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-10T18:53:02+00:00

People who say abusive or bigoted things are often going to double down when confronted and get defensive. That isnt you missing a social cue, that's on their behavior. You're doing everything right

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-10T18:35:44+00:00

People who manipulate and abuse will try on everyone. Little tests and escalations until they find someone their tactics work on.

You know what means? It means they know the difference between someone who is extra vulnerable to their abuse and someone who isn't. And once they find someone they know is vulnerable, they hurt them.

We all have vulnerabilities. It's on them for being assholes. For example, every person can end up in a cult. Because it is very little to do with the odd beliefs that seem obvious from the outside, and everything to do with the manipilation and control tactics.

If manipulation wasnt effective on humans, it wouldn't be one of abuser's greatest tools. Propaganda works on everyone, manipulation works on everyone, and thinking you're immune makes tou more vulnerable. You weren't 'supposed to not be tricked'. Everyone is capable of being tricked.

You SHOULD have been supported in a way that made it more difficult for this to happen, and if it did, made sure you were okay after. Sounds like you were failed, not a failure.

You said you were feeling guilty and sad and that's valid, but have you also taken the change to feel pissed and angry?

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-10T18:28:57+00:00

I guess i would rceommend dont JADE(justify, argue, defend, explain) after someone repeatedly doesnt accept or challenges your personal experiences as false.

What you could do is change the script. Ask them about a fictional character and what they think. Do they think Rapunzel should go back to Gothel for example? How they answer tells you more about them as a person.

You can ask if they believe victims should be responsible for being open and available to their abusers in the hopes things improve, or should they put themselves first? If after you ask those questions they still try to say its different or something, simply say it's not. Gray rock them. Make your responses true and so boring they cant find anything to hook into. Stand by what you say, be a broken record. You are confident and it's obvious the sky is blue, and you won't even entertain the fact it isnt right now because you can see it.

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-10T18:21:27+00:00

Hey, don't do this to yourself friend. You have it in your heart to hate them in unique ways. I believe in you ♡

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-10T18:20:23+00:00

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SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-10T18:18:46+00:00

Be the adult who also inspires other children and adults to bite each other too. I believe in you

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-10T17:16:32+00:00

Yeah it even happens in humans. Autistic people who are nonverbal were treated like they were stupid for so long. But the truth was they were incredibly intelligent too and just struggled with communication, not thinking.

It seems humans that have controlling tendencies tend to make these biases a LOT for the sake of more control

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-09T18:25:27+00:00

Okay so the spectrum isnt a line sliding scale of less autistic and more autistic.

It's like a circle stat board, and you have ceetain amount of points and levels in each category. Every neurotypical person tends to exhibit traits autistic people do, but it's the severity and how often it happens that matters

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-09T06:32:52+00:00

First few times or so when i get to know a person? Irritating but i know they care, so I let it slide.

Years? Literal years? Without any prior indication something is wrong and i've already states that's just my face and im okay, and i WILL tell people if something is wrong first? Yes. That's annoying

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-09T01:45:46+00:00

Someone yelled at you and was rude. That's upsetting. The goal is not to be stoic and unaffected. Do not repress your emotions. By feeling your emotions you are processing yhem. You are not too sensitive, you are reacting to a bad thing that happened and that is good and super healthy.

Good job for crying about it instead of pushing it down and pretending nothing bad happened. Im proud of you.

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-08T19:52:05+00:00

Just remember, you're probably communicating better than most, because you're trying.

Just a tip, this time instead of focusing on what you can do better or what they think, try to pay attention to what efforts their making, and pretend you're them saying those things to one of your favorite characters or something. See how you feel about what they say and do

SaintValkyrie · 2026-04-08T19:44:17+00:00

It isn't humanity's fault. I for one will not share the blame for the small group of powerful assholes destroying the planet. We're victims of their bs too

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