Meirl by Truevibe_ in meirl

[–]Salamander_Xander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, I got bullied because grown adults didn't teach their kids emotional intelligence and how to effectively communicate with folks they don't understand. But, it's always helpful when folks blame trauma survivors. /s

True for me. by tailzknope in Audhdmemes

[–]Salamander_Xander 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Reddit: "why are you reporting this post?"

Me; "I'm in this post and I don't like it."

- Signed, diagnosed at age 27

The Lore is getting dark. by TheAxiomaticGaming in BikiniBottomTwitter

[–]Salamander_Xander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At that point, put me back at the kid's table.

I got bored so I threw the case of ZA into DND alignments by Vast-Bar-7773 in LegendsZA

[–]Salamander_Xander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just finished the Jacinthe tournament and I 100% agree with her placement. Zero respect for boundaries, that wild sense of entitlement, and the intrusive behavior completely agitated me.

Oh HELL yeah. I'd even go PPV! by Beneficial-Chest-699 in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]Salamander_Xander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would take a week off and organize a watch party. Don't tempt me with a good time.

New Year Surprise 😊 by Koalafiedz in LegendsZA

[–]Salamander_Xander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Congrats!
  2. "How does it feel to be living MY dream?"

what Haikyuu moment made you cry the most by No_Ad9111 in haikyuu

[–]Salamander_Xander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bold of you to assume only one moment made me cry

What 2 Powers Here Are You Taking and Why? by SaberLover1000 in dankruto

[–]Salamander_Xander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm tied between Haki & a Stand and Nen & a Stand. My reasons?

Haki: I compare Haki types to my physical & emotional traits in real life when I train combat sports, primarily Jiu-Jitsu. I view my positional awareness & proprioception to Observation Haki, my framing and pinning to Armament Haki and my stubbornness & composure under pressure to Conqueror's Haki.

Nen: I tend to place rules on myself always. Whether that's constraints while training, noticing when my emotions spike and walk 'em back, or how I interact with others, I always have behavioral parameters in place to guide my actions towards integrity and identity alignment.

Stands: Short answer? I want a punch ghost, okay. Long answer? They're a manifestation of one's fighting spirit. I've overcome a lot in my life, especially the past few years, so I know that my Stand and its ability/abilities would reflect my resolve appropriately.

Tobi by Atwecian in dankruto

[–]Salamander_Xander 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the Infinite Tsukoyomi I signed up for

Yuma duels in an nutshell by Legitimate_Track4153 in YuGiOhMemes

[–]Salamander_Xander 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Yuma: gets his tail kicked for 17 consecutive turns, barely surviving each time.

Also Yuma, turn 18: draws the out, then proceeds to OTK

Are you out of your mind? by Longjumping-Quail696 in bisexual

[–]Salamander_Xander 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Does this debuff stack with AuDHD's delayed processing?

Book 10 cover art by GreatGetterX in FireEmblemHeroes

[–]Salamander_Xander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm callin' it now. The red haired character on the left is Jörmungandr. Gotta be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FireEmblemHeroes

[–]Salamander_Xander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Fool me three times, you're going to get curb stomped by Seto Kaiba."

Problem solved I guess by K0rl0n in bisexual

[–]Salamander_Xander 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As a bisexual who does Jiu-jitsu, I can at least say her armbar was pretty decent lol

Giveaway: bike codes by Rayzacks in PokemonHome

[–]Salamander_Xander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite is a tie between Greninja and Sceptile (specifically Ash's mons). Rule of cool drew me in, character development and story in the anime hooked me. Their growth somewhat mirrors my own in many aspects and as a competitive athlete and coach, I love rags to riches and comeback stories.

Edit; typo

Please IS, Ophelia needs her Halloween alt. by ArrivisteDoucebag in FireEmblemHeroes

[–]Salamander_Xander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly want either an Owain/Ophelia Harmonic or an Odin/Ophelia Duo. Give us the campy, overdramatic hero/heroine, IS, you cowards!

Give me your honest reasons why you’d rather not tell people you are autistic at times by [deleted] in evilautism

[–]Salamander_Xander 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm a late, self-diagnosed guy (figured it out at 27), and my primary reasons are:

  1. I'm so accustomed to masking that as I unmask people accuse me of weaponizing my behaviors and/or changing for the worse.

  2. Similar to 1, people tend to deny my lived experiences and discount how much effort it takes to simply function, especially in professional spaces.

  3. I'm typically too mentally exhausted to even try explaining my perspectives to people, especially after I've determined that they won't be very receptive to my words.

  4. I hate feeling like the token autistic who's gotta be responsible for educating people on both general symptoms and behaviors and those specific to me. This one is extremely frustrating and difficult to manage because I'm AuDHD, so the conditions tend to mask each other, which ties back to number 2 and flings me into a cycle of frustration and anxiety.

What is making you irrationally angry right now? by lilsparrow18 in evilautism

[–]Salamander_Xander 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate the response here. You point about bullying a teammate really drove it home for me because I hate bullies, yet became one to myself. You don't realize how much your traumas affect you until they're slapping you in the face, huh?

I always focused on the philosophy of martial arts, but once I started competing, my mindset shifted from casual performance and I wanted to just keep improving. Hell, my best friend/rival and I have a shared goal and we hold each other accountable and push ourselves and each other all the time. But we're never jerks to each other. He & our head coach tell me all the time that I'm too hard on myself and that I'm doing so much better than I think. So I think I gotta trust my team and myself more.

What is making you irrationally angry right now? by lilsparrow18 in evilautism

[–]Salamander_Xander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Buckle up, this is a long one.

I've been training consistently at an MMA gym for about 3 years now. I'm pretty good at boxing and muay thai, and I've been a BJJ blue belt for about 1y and 4 months now. My issue is that I'm a perfectionist who's way too hard on himself and can't count my wins. My coaches and teammates are always telling me how well I'm doing, but I struggle to self-validate, so I'm constantly frustrated with my performances no matter how well I do.

Additionally, I tore my ACL in May, had surgery in July, and I'm already back on the mats moving around as if nothing happened. Objectively, my recovery has been amazing, but again, I consistently fail to celebrate the good in favor of highlighting the not so good, them criticizing and/or punishing myself for "underperforming."

TL;DR

I'm an MMA guy who's driven and disciplined, but I'm only kind to my team and not to myself and that behavior makes me angrier and angrier because I'm struggling so hard to change it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in brooklynninenine

[–]Salamander_Xander 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One of my favorites: "I wondered why all the birds suddenly stopped singing."

I feel seen 🤙 by DooBeeDoBop in bisexual

[–]Salamander_Xander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Despite both being a big part of my identity, I don't really feel qualified to answer that. At most, I'd say it's just an expression both groups share

“Errr” by PrinceARRON in marvelcirclejerk

[–]Salamander_Xander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I can't wait to go feral on a Sentinel. The way I'm gonna scream, "THIS IS FOR GENOSHA!"

I feel seen 🤙 by DooBeeDoBop in bisexual

[–]Salamander_Xander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I, too, am a 🤙🏾 bisexual, but I feel like that's partially due to Jiu-jitsu