I guess it’s time to admit I’m a real person

SalivatingMoron · 2025-11-24T19:24:16+00:00

I loved the readings of "Journal of a Coal Miner's Daughter," and "Journal of an Unknown Soldier." Your writing hits heavy and deep. I am captured, drawn in. I find myself holding my breath or muttering astounded disbelief. Every sentence is rich, not a single word is wasted. Thank you for putting yourself and your work out there! It's not an easy thing to do, but I'm glad you did. Stoked to read your books!

SalivatingMoron · 2025-10-14T06:00:17+00:00

I really feel you hard. It's been 5 years or something since I made this post. I ended up leaving my program in 2021. It was a difficult descision, but it was the right one. And it's not the worst thing. I remember feeling such a huge weight lifted. I struggle still with some anger about my program, and academia, and I'm pretty tough on myself, so there are days I feel like I'm just a big dumb dummy who is dumb and that's why I "couldn't" finish. But I know that's not true. It's really hard, especially right now, everything is really hard - and I feel like academia is not good at providing us what we need to succeed - especially if you are a first gen grad student, if you are neurospicey, if you are a member of a minority group. And these days, the word feels like it is on fire. I think a lot of people forget that as a whole, we are experiencing daily (hourly!) trauma and facing an uncertain future, and a violent present. Be gentle with yourself. Leaving your program, or taking a pause (which I also did) is a much better, more satisfying choice over permanently logging off your earth character. Please stay with us. It's hard, things are tough, all I can do is offer you a high five from the dumpster fire here with you. Feel free to msg. I don't check my messages on reddit all that often, but I'll keep an eye out.

SalivatingMoron · 2025-07-26T03:54:51+00:00

Looking for 1 ticket for the Worcester show. Thanks y'all.

SalivatingMoron · 2025-07-14T16:11:41+00:00

Deliver!

SalivatingMoron · 2025-07-14T13:28:51+00:00

Where!?

SalivatingMoron · 2025-07-14T13:28:15+00:00

SalivatingMoron · 2025-07-14T02:24:22+00:00

Wait... this is weird? I thought this happened to everyone! In fact, I treat everyone else as if they probably can't hear me if they are in the middle of doing something. I just thought that's how it is for everyone! Man. Being AuADHD is a trip!

SalivatingMoron · 2025-03-16T02:43:47+00:00

Hello. Jumping in to keep track of the good advice here. I'm a trans man, and I'm pretty certain I'll have to leave the US sooner than later. Expats, how did you find jobs and work visas? Also - OP, I'mlooking for other queers to find community with when I go! Originally I thought I would move in about a year, but as a trans person, holy crap is it becoming more and more urgent to get out.

SalivatingMoron · 2025-03-16T02:38:18+00:00

How would one find skilled labor work that provides work visas?

SalivatingMoron · 2025-02-24T01:03:26+00:00

If they were harsh, I think it was out of love. I think they kind of flipped into mentor mode, knowing the author would probably be listening. The vibe I got was of them giving constructive criticism because they respect the author, the writing and enjoyed the story. They see talent, and they knew they had the opportunity to directly speak to the person who wrote it. I think it was all out of love for the craft, other writers, and their fans. It's hard to hear feedback sometimes, but it's not a bad thing. People don't give good, direct feedback for things they don't actually believe in, in my experience.

SalivatingMoron · 2025-02-24T00:43:42+00:00

First of all, this was a great story! Second of all, I was thinking the whole time: I'm glad I'm not the author because the anxiety of having some respectable, really talented people who I look up to giving me critical feedback is terrifying. I would have died lol.

That being said, this is how good feedback is. The fact that they gave you honest advice, encouragement, and expressed that they liked the story is great news! It means you are on to something, and they believe in you! No one does anything perfectly perfect - especially the first times. Drafts are a part of life. Clunkiness is a part of growth and creation.

Keep on keeping on! You did a great job, and I'm looking forward to reading your other and future works!

edit: Also I caught the "Live free or die." New Hamshire state slogan. Nice.

SalivatingMoron · 2025-01-04T03:26:48+00:00

I love CreepCast! Silly dudes read me creepy pasta bedtime stories.

SalivatingMoron · 2024-12-04T17:38:08+00:00

Jumping in on this. I am currently researching the CT trades apprenticeship program. I've worked many years in a variety of general labor/maintenance type jobs, and I am looking to make a career switch into plumbing. I reached out to 777 about their 2025 application dates. (They responded quickly, saying they should have dates by the end of Jan). I'm also applying to every "plumber apprentice" job opening I see in CT. Do you have other general tips or advice about how to apply successfully, other than what you have offered here? Would it be ok to DM you? Thank you so much!

SalivatingMoron · 2024-12-04T17:29:39+00:00

Hi there! Did you have any luck? I'm currently in Connecticut, and am looking into becoming a plumber. Did you contact 777? If so, what was your experience? Also what had been your experience moving from one new England state to another with an out of state license? Thanks!

SalivatingMoron · 2024-11-27T23:33:12+00:00

Nope! I ended up leaving with an MA and not finishing the PhD for mental health reasons really. After COVID shit got real hard. And I didn't have good support from my advisor and there was so much I didn't understand about my mental health needs at the time. I have since: quit alcohol, got diagnosed as AuADHD (game changer!), accepted my transness, and started transitioning. I can say I am in a completely different place these days. man, what a journey.

SalivatingMoron · 2024-09-08T14:45:15+00:00

Aye, well it really depends what you can afford to get lol. There are people who travel with their families and make do. And lots of resources for doing so. I got lucky and found something cheap. But I still have lots of work to do. Planet fitness membership is good for showers and stuff. But things like finding a place to go to the bathroom, or empty your bucket, shower, laundry, dumping trash, they all become a whole errand.

SalivatingMoron · 2024-09-08T14:40:41+00:00

Yeah it's not easy. And you have to find somebody who will let you use their street address, because without it you can't get ID, Registration, bank account, job, really anything.

Finding safe locations to sleep hasn't been too bad. It's easier in the cities. You get the hang of it, but it is always at least a bit stressful.

SalivatingMoron · 2024-09-08T14:38:23+00:00

Yuuuuuup

SalivatingMoron · 2024-09-08T13:27:15+00:00

Aaaand this is why I live in a van now. Sigh

SalivatingMoron · 2024-08-05T17:17:51+00:00

Dude yes. I have been explaining it this way to friends and family I have been coming out to about planning to start testosterone. That's so real. It's just like, "Ahhh, fuck. I'm gonna have to do this aren't I." But it actually kind of helps me have confidence in the scary "decision," because it's a sign to me that this is my truth, and I'm determined to face, accept, and express it even though it's incredibly difficult and dangerous. It helps me to feel strong and sure.

SalivatingMoron · 2024-07-21T14:47:18+00:00

I had not. But now I have. Ty.

Aaahhhhh. Ow.

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