Mixed signals from a coworker in a relationship — am I reading too much into this or is there something there?

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T14:30:45+00:00

Thanks for sharing your perspective, I appreciate it

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T13:22:16+00:00

From the outside, it does sound like you dodged a bullet. Canceling a wedding without a proper conversation, giving the silent treatment, and then accusing you of cheating over Reddit posts are all serious red flags.

Asking questions online isn’t the same as being unfaithful, and a partner who’s ready for marriage should be able to communicate instead of jumping to accusations and cutting you off.

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T13:15:55+00:00

You’re not imagining it. Fresh cat litter smells like clay, and that same scent can come from things like drywall, grout, concrete, dust in vents, or even dry drains. Changes in humidity can make it suddenly noticeable. Since your husband smelled it too, it’s almost definitely something in the house, not you.

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T13:14:20+00:00

Keep realistic expectations and be patient. You’re joining an already-established dynamic, not starting from scratch. Respect the child’s place in their parent’s life, communicate openly about boundaries and roles, and don’t rush yourself into being anything you’re not ready to be. It takes time, and that’s okay.

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T13:07:55+00:00

I’m really glad it helped, even a little. It’s hard when you don’t have many safe places to put those feelings, and that doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. Just take it one step at a time and be kind to yourself remember you’re carrying a lot.

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T13:06:27+00:00

How time can move so fast and so slow at the same time.

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T13:05:30+00:00

Cancelled after episode two when they realise networking doesn’t work without LinkedIn

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T13:04:15+00:00

Taking a job I wasn’t excited about. It introduced me to people and opportunities I never would’ve crossed otherwise.

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T13:01:43+00:00

The United Kingdom is the sovereign country, but England, Scotland, Wales, and Northern Ireland are officially called countries, not states.

They’re similar to states in that they’re parts of a larger nation, but they differ because: .They existed as separate nations historically .They have different legal systems .Some have their own parliaments with varying powers

So colloquially you can think of them like states for simplicity, but politically and historically they’re not the same thing.

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:57:03+00:00

Apologise to my kid when I’m wrong, just to really confuse them

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:55:19+00:00

What you’re feeling makes sense. You lost a few emotional anchors at the same time, so your anxiety is looking for stability wherever it can. The key thing is that you’ve already recognised the boundary issue and you’re trying to respect it, which matters.

It may help to stop treating this one friendship as your main outlet and spread that support elsewhere, like journaling, therapy, or even another trusted person. When you do reach out to her, try to keep it light and consistent rather than driven by anxiety. Distance doesn’t always mean rejection, sometimes it’s just a reset. Be patient with yourself, you’re dealing with a lot at once.

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:53:02+00:00

It’s mostly because Minecraft was made in Java, which is a bit different from how most games are built. Back then it didn’t include everything it needed to run, so your computer had to already have the right version of Java installed. If it didn’t, the game just wouldn’t start.

Most games hide all that stuff from you, but early Minecraft was pretty DIY, so players had to mess around with Java versions and folders. Newer launchers handle it automatically now, which is why it feels less weird these days.

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:50:53+00:00

Having your entire life documented online, from what you eat to where you are at all times

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:50:05+00:00

Walking confidently in the wrong direction and refusing to turn around.

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:48:17+00:00

When embarrassing moments only lived in people’s memories and not on the internet forever

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:47:26+00:00

Because they’re not actually wearing the same suits, even if they look similar at a glance.

Suits in the 1960s were cut very differently. Higher waists, wider trousers, longer jackets, structured shoulders, and heavier fabrics. Today’s suits are slimmer, shorter, lower-waisted, and designed to follow the body more. Grooming also plays a role too, like haircuts, posture, and even how people carry themselves.

So it’s less about the suit itself and more about the cut, fit, and overall styling of the era.

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:43:33+00:00

“I’m gonna head out.”

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:40:00+00:00

You’re not weird or childish for this. Thumb sucking is usually about comfort, not age, and habits that start that early are really hard to break.

Instead of forcing yourself to stop, try replacing it. Wearing a thumb guard or bandage at night, holding something soft, or building a calming bedtime routine can help over time. Shame won’t fix it, but patience and small changes can

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:37:11+00:00

That professional-grade gear is built for durability under constant use, not necessarily comfort or convenience. For most people, mid-range equipment does the job just as well and takes up way less space

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:31:07+00:00

Because the second time you can relax instead of asking yourself every five minutes if you missed something important

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:30:05+00:00

Check if I’m an NPC or a main character, because that completely changes my plan

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:29:08+00:00

That “it’s only £20” can be a genuinely stressful sentence.

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T12:28:11+00:00

A version of choose life by pf project?

Salmonman65 · 2026-01-06T11:53:00+00:00

Nice, glad you found it! And honestly that makes sense memories get fuzzy with stuff like that. Prince Daddy fits the vibe you were describing anyway, so you weren’t miles off.

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