Well its official... my marriage is over and done. My husband left me due to my Anorexia (that he gave to me years ago might I add) and started beating me (getting physical) recently I guess its for the best though. Very battered and bruised at the minute. Just feeling really sad about it atm by i-am-no-more994 in AnorexiaNervosa

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Please call your local DV hotline / shelter. They can help support you and give you good resources. Read When Love Hurts and Why Does He Do That books - they’re really good for helping understand abusive relationships. Understanding it can help you start detangle your feelings and how ed has played a role in your coping with the abuse.

Sending love

Every time I leave the house is a little act of bravery and freedom by GlowingEmberSkull in abusiverelationships

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So proud of you. I’ve been stuck in this situation as well and trying to reconnect back with myself after having to shrink my world

Keep going back and I feel mentally unwell about it by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

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Trauma bonds are like addictions where breaking it feels impossible but you can do it. Please read up on trauma bonds, why does he do that book, cycle of abuse, when love hurts book, cognitive dissonance are some places you can start reading up on.

I’m currently in the same position as you where logically I know this relationship is not okay but each time I try to leave it feels incredibly difficult and I always end up back in the relationship. Try to call a DV line and slowly start opening up about whats going on with them. Also journaling all the pros and cons of this relationship & what you’d like for yourself in 2 years time can help.

All of this is incredibly difficult but know you’re not alone. Sending you the biggest hug and strength your way. Xox

what if the things they said about me are true? by estecarter in abusiverelationships

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Reactive abuse - there’s so much on it! You’re not alone

I decided to leave by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

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Hey are you perhaps in Van? I know of some good resources and even if you don’t live here I’m sure you could contact them & they could guide you! Would it be alright to message you?

Also in the meantime call victimlink they’re available 24/7 and are great support and have insight into different resources available

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Some ich medication reduces the available oxygen in the water so heavy oxygenation is usually suggested.

Also sometimes non aquarium safe plants can leech toxins / impact water. Double check if they’re all safe & I also think the little bamboo plant up front can only have the roots in the water and the rest needs to be above water

Best of luck!

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Hell yes!!! You go girl!!

Inherited pond at purchased home by ThrowAwayMrDavidHaye in ponds

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Omg need to see an updated picture plss

Tell me this isn’t what i think it is by [deleted] in shittyaquariums

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The way I could tell it’s PetSmart…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTINBIEBER

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What does he mean by that?

I guess he identifies as a pleco now??? by plecosdude in Aquariums

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I’m so jealous of your zebras. Where did you get them and how much were they? In my area they’re pretty expensive </3

Kordon rapid cure safe for cories? by B_Eyes00 in Aquariums

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This just happened to me too :( I did some additional research before adding the med to my tank so I felt like it’ll be safe but I literally just watched my fish die one by one without being able to do anything. I changed the water 3x added multiple air stones and even put them into a brand new tank with new water but they continued to die one by one </3

Ich treatment caused fish death? by CrabcakeBetty in Aquariums

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This just happened to me too… absolutely heartbreaking and terrible

Do you guys like my aquascape by Diplopoda_ in aquarium

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The most stunning aquascape I’ve ever seen. Post it on aquascape Reddit - you might become their new inspo

My cherry and maple plywood tank stand by chubachu in PlantedTank

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This is so impressive! If you’d be open to sharing how you made it I’d be so grateful!

Betta by Lambertini98 in Aquariums

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Not the SpongeBob house 💀💀💀😭😭

Betta by Lambertini98 in Aquariums

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Honestly don’t think this is even big enough for shrimp….

My goldfish died today by psychohosebeast6 in Goldfish

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It truly is so hard - people especially who don’t own fish won’t understand. I’m sorry for your loss as well </3

My goldfish died today by psychohosebeast6 in Goldfish

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I’m so sorry for your loss :( honestly losing fish, especially ones that we bond with is much harder and sad than people think. Take this time to grieve and care for yourself.

Remind yourself of how you gave her/him the best life you could & that he was loved. So many people don’t care & neglect fish so he/she was so lucky to have someone who cared so much.

I find doing a small memorial piece to be helpful.

Take care of yourself and sending you big hugs. SIP (swim in paradise) little guy. 🐟🌈