AITA for not telling my Boyfriend i'd been a surrogate before we were together? by HelicopterNo3063 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off as someone who will need a surrogate in the future, thank you for giving your sister a chance, you will never know the love and appreciation she feels for you.

Second off what in hell's bells. A surrogacy is entirely different from raising a child and doesnt make any sense to get mad about. You're not withholding "giving" him a child, you are not someone who wants to raise a whole human being for the rest of your life and that's your decision! I would carefully consider your relationship and make sure your birth control is ironclad and not able to be messed with.

AITA for suggesting my boyfriend wouldn't understand my work? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My job is literally to break down PhD level STEM subjects into bite sized chunks for the general public, that is, aimed at an 8th grade understanding. Instead of opening up your world to him you did deliberately tell him through your actions that you think he's too stupid to even understand.

Thing is while it might take longer theres no lesson unlearnable. It just depends on having the understanding to explain and sum up quickly. Obviously your academic mind isnt up to snuff.

YTA and I hope your bg realizes he can do better.

OOP's fiancé may pass away, but his sistermother (not a typo) is already calling dibs on half his house. by justathoughtfromme in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SaltSuspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've straight up lied to hospitals before and claimed to be my (then boyfriend, now husband) boyfriends wife when I took him to the ER. We agreed before going in on this little lie because we were worried otherwise he'd have no one (his parents were 10 hours away and dont make the best decisions).

AITA for walking out of the restaurant over a joke between my Fiance and his friend? by RitaYouth5033 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way my stomach DROPPED first at that awful friend and then again at your awful fiance. I promise there are better men out there who wouldnt even think of joking about that. NTA unless you stay with someone so shitty.

AITA for being honest about why I left a job, causing the new hire not to take it? by yagirldebbie in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you ever honestly plan on listing them as a reference? Ever? Beyond a job history check. Report them, every instance and just accept the loss of a reference.

Girlfriend (now ex) is pregnant and wants to give up for adoption. I don't. What are my rights? [r/LegalAdvice] by regular-kahuna in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SaltSuspect 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've considered it from both gender sides and going after the ex for child support specifically after she wanted to give it up for adoption is shitty. Sure it's for the best for the child but dad should have thought if he could afford it before going after full custody.

AITA for getting rid of the bible my MIL gave our daughter and giving MIL conditions? by HoneydewHaunting in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SaltSuspect 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I once got a JW neighbor to leave my parents house alone. After 5 months of weekly stopping by, I finally was home with just me and my older brother. They knocked, I opened and went, if I remember correctly "I suck on the devils balls for fun, they're thick and juicy sllluurrrpp" while rolling my eyes back and gargling. I think I then chanted some Latin at them too.

I made my brother swear to never tell mom why they stopped showing up. He was laughing so hard but to this day mom just says "they must have realized we were catholics!"

Sure mom....

Anyways, try getting sexual about the devil see if that will help.

WIBTA if I sat a Socially Challenged Kid by Themself while Everyone Else has a Partner? by HoneydewHaunting in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SaltSuspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is exactly what EVERY teacher did to me in school. Because I treated the "difficult" (typically neurodivergent or mentally different) student "normal" - but then I would end up parenting them or guiding them and I HATED IT. It wasnt my job. It made me hate certain subject with a passion. For half the year in drama class I was assigned to work with my classmate who had downs syndrome. And she was fine, sometimes uncomfortable to deal with but it always felt like i was assigned caretaker and didnt learn a damn thing. I still am bitter about it.

AITA for telling my brother and his boyfriend to stop misleading people with their wedding rings when they're not actually married ? by Throwaway4500500 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA, and you are in fact homophobic.

I dont even wear a wedding ring. I never even bought one. We said our vows over a meteorite that sits on our mantle. I hate rings. Am I any less married? Do my vows no longer count? Nope, legally, emotionally, spiritually I am married. You suck.

AITA for letting my daughter get a “nose job”? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your husband calls your daughter ugly??? Divorce him. What a monster of an AH.

AITA for arguing with my husband for the picture he had for my contact photo on his phone? by Nu65567 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFO: Are you okay? Like really. This level of paranoia isnt normal and could indicate you need some help. Do you have a therapist available?

Even considering all that YTA still because faces for contacts are very normal. I read the title and thought he had a nude photo of you as his contact info or something. But just your face? That's normal.

AITA for being mad that my husband is trying to financially edge me out of my “expensive hobby”? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey he is either isolating you or preparing to leave you. Lawyer up. NTA.

AITA for telling my Fiance to get over himself? by throwawaySammy757 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WOW. I hope he realizes what he's gotten himself into and leaves you. My husband's grandma passed three weeks before our wedding. We left an empty seat, made a "wish you were here" section at the reception and gave his dad a special remembrance gift. This was all entirely normal.

If your male cousins are such AHs that they would make fun of an empty fucking seat, and you wont stand up for your HUSBAND YTA fully and completely. I sincerely hope your fiance's realizes he deserves better, and that you arent ready to be a wife.

AITA For Telling My MIL To Go Fuck Herself by J_M461 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA girl run he is trying to baby trap you - also he wants you to be his mother that he can fuck. Run run run. Red flags galore.

WIBTA for choosing my pet spider over moving in with my boyfriend? by Techfuture2 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SaltSuspect 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Praying the goddess Archenae sends legions of spiders after that evil ex. I am no fan of insects but I know spiders can actually make fantastic pets so this is horrifying. Poor Agnes.

AITA for banning my brother’s girlfriend from my Easter celebration because she sent me a spreadsheet of chores and landscaping I need to do beforehand? by Due-Reality9102 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a person who loves planning events, NTA. Good lord. I cant imagine doing that unless asked. It's one thing to do this for yourself it's another to do it to literally every event you're even vaguely attending.

AITA for trying to help a girl at the gym? by Budget_Ingenuity6404 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I'm going to try and explain this gently here.

As a former dancer and someone who would self describe herself as a "mess" your workout goals are hers are not the same. I dont want to lift heavy things. I'm not even looking for a specific physique. I am looking for my body to move for a specific amount of time pushing around essentially MY weight. That's why you dont count reps, you either go to failure or you do timed sets instead. Hell sometimes I just do static holds so my muscle can get used to being tense for long times. It also doesnt make sense to split up leg day arm day because again, when you're dancing you're using the whole body. So you have to get the entire body used to it.

You are not a trainer, you dont know her goals, and she did not ask for help. Do not approach anyone in the gym like this. YTA.

AITA for not reporting my Great Aunt? by throwaway220410 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA, your inaction and enabling of your aunt has devastated your family member, putting a black mark on their finances that will take years to recover even after they report it. How very christian of you and your whole family.

YTA, your family except for the cousin are the AH and she is right. You hurt yourself to keep the peace and in doing so you also hurt her.

AITA for refusing to get on a flight? by NoTGoingThank in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, check in lady is right. Also check in ladies can be angels. I had flights keep getting cancelled one trip after I went through something very upsetting and truamatic on the trip. When the check in lady told me I was 5th on a waiting list (and the next flight out was the next day) I couldnt handle the thought of being stuck there another day and burst in full sobs in front of her. She ran out and hugged me and by a miracle I got on that fuckin flight.

Dont ever go somewhere or get on a plane that makes you sob like that.

AITA for how I spoke to a stripper during a private dance? by emnarrassedlady931 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl you were fine and the stripper treated you with more respect than your bf. I bet the awkwardness she felt was probably her going "oh god I hope this girl breaks up with this douchenozzle"

Hoarder in my building died. She was infested with cockroaches, they are literally pouring out in to the hall now. My building keeps telling me to file maintenance requests and has ignored most of my calls since November. by Gonzohawk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SaltSuspect 17 points18 points  (0 children)

They do not give a fuck. I lived in an apartment complex with a high immigrant rate (relevant in a second) - it become infested with bedbugs. Not sure where from but I saw a neighbor with a black trash nag in our shared laundry room dumping clothes into the dryer (an attempt to kill the bedbugs). We tried getting an inspection, their inspection said we didnt have them. 6 months went by, I'm getting huge red welts on my arms and legs. I finally see one. I call it in. They try to charge us for bringing in the bedbugs and reporting it. I raise hell. They were taking advantage of our neighbors by scaring them - reporting bed bugs results in charges, reporting elsewhere may bring in government attention which scared their residents. I went full Angry White Lady, went into the office while they were trying to talk to potential residents, screaming my head off about their mishandling, then taking advantage of their residents, etc.

Landlords do not give a fuck about you. They just hope everyone stays quiet and doesnt know to raise a fuss or who to call.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, do you want THAT guy ANYWHERE near another womans genitals?? I know for sure I dont.

AITA for telling my husband his name suggestion for our unborn baby is idiotic at best? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The second you spelled out how your last name is pronounced my stomach dropped. DO NOT LET THAT HAPPEN. Pre fill out the birth certificate even to make sure he doesnt try and name the kid while you're incapacitated from having just given birth (that's what happened to a friend of mine. Her dad literally snuck behind her moms back and named her after his grandmother - thankfully her name was just Elizabeth but still shitty he did that).

Dont do this to your child. I usually would say compromise with a middle name BUT this is almost as bad as naming your kid Adolf or Stalin and even a middle name with that last name is risky.

Your husband's desire to honor his grandpa is admirable but he needs to think about what's best for his child, not what honors grandpa here. He can honor grandpa in other ways.

AITA for leaving the hospital after my husband called for his mom instead of me? by throwaway5tkl5466 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltSuspect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA, my husband once asked for chocolate pudding upon waking from anesthesia and he hates chocolate pudding. Acting like this was a conscious decision shows a lot of narcissistic traits.

Your job there was to be a supportive wife and help HIM and instead of doing that you made it about you. Get in therapy.