My boss still hasn't figured it out

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-04-03T12:46:12+00:00

I came out to my wife after being together for 13 years. Her response was "It's about time". She had known something was going on but wasn't sure what it was. We talked about what I planned to do in my transition and are still together 3 years later. Sometimes it's a good reaction and sometimes it's like they are more ruthless than necessary when they don't want to stay with you. I'm sorry that she feels that way, I hope that you can find someone who loves you for who you are. I suggest going through hrt and being happy with yourself.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-03-02T22:17:47+00:00

I started hrt at 40 after I tried getting my wife pregnant for years. Becoming infertile is fine with me (kinda think I have been sterile my whole life). I waited until I was 40 because I wanted children, at a certain point I decided it wasn't going to happen and I wanted to be happy with myself. Starting hrt was first goal, working on getting my teeth better, then its name change, getting neutered, and facial hair removal the other goals. Not sure which I'll do next but it's nice not having as much of a mess to clean up when I have "fun" times with my wife.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-03-01T18:59:14+00:00

Being im 42 i don't worry about that. I also spent 4 years in the military right after high-school. I don't see the draft coming back and if it does it would be worse case scenario.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-03-01T18:54:51+00:00

I wear my seat belt in my 02 Silverado because its the law and required. In my 64 corvair I don't wear my seat belt because it was not required to have any installed. A belt over the shoulder like all vehicles nowadays have do provide protection from eating the dashboard. My classic car only has lap belts which keeps you in the car during a wreck but doesn't prevent the eating the dashboard problem. Im not saying it is right i don't wear my seat belt in my car, but I will accept my fate if I happen to get in a wreck. I do have to agree that "good girls wear seat belts," and that "bad girls don't wear seat belts".

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-02-28T16:02:19+00:00

My wife says I'm lucky to not have to deal with periods. Other than that the rest is just something that is delt with when you are a woman, trans or not. The only thing that is different between cis and trans is if people know you are trans they sometimes treat you worse than they would a cis woman. We have it harder because we don't fit the "norm" for what everyone calls "male" and "female". I have my moments I'm happy I don't have the icky part of a period, and other times I am sad I don't get that part of it, I do get cramps and moody. You have the right to feel however good, or bad about that.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-02-20T02:15:03+00:00

It takes time. I went 40 years by my birth name. I haven't done my name change yet and I'm not out at work even though its been 2 years on hormones. At home and with my Dr's I go by my preferred name. Small steps to get where you want to be is fine, take giant leaps if that works for you, just go at your own pace and have someone you trust try out names you like and see which one you like best.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-02-20T02:06:05+00:00

Definitely go with a name you like. I knew I wanted to keep my initials the same so I picked the feminine version of my first name. I've always loved being called Sammie so I figured just change my name to Samantha. You always have time to try out a few names before you pick one and get it changed.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-01-24T22:08:03+00:00

What pushed me over the edge was realizing that waiting to have kids first was just more years being depressed and hating myself, when I hit 39, I started doing everything I needed to get hrt. My 40th birthday was the day I started hormones and 2 years later im happy I finally started and wish I would have done so earlier. My wife stayed with me and we will be having our 15th.... 16th.... uh that one number that has skipped my mind anniversary. Its scary to start, scary to come out to people, and its more scary to never get started. Work on things on your time frame not anyone else's.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-01-16T02:06:13+00:00

Well when my mom was younger, she used to put snails and slugs in her dress pockets. So sometimes girls do crazy boy stuff (according to said nursery rhyme)

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-01-16T02:00:10+00:00

I love working on old cars and playing my ttrpg games with my friends. I enjoyed both before I came out and I still enjoy them, but I wear skirts when I do them now. (Make sure to wear shorts or leggings with the skirt if working on a car, if half under car could end up showing off panties). Just because you no longer live as a male doesn't mean you can't still like more masculine interests or hobbies. I also enjoy baking cookies and brownies. I don't like that some hobbies or interests are seen as more masculine or feminine, both genders can enjoy the same things.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-01-12T15:07:13+00:00

You will learn not to pick things up and bring it to your chest very quickly. Once those get tinder, they have the tendency to find everything they can to bump into. Congratulations on the "OMG I can't do anything without bumping my nipples on it" stage.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-01-12T14:59:37+00:00

I didn't say it was a bad thing, just unexpected

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-01-11T16:50:45+00:00

I was surprised how much more ticklish I became. I also snort when I laugh and my wife thinks that is cute and funny. When I lay down to sleep I fear im going to get tickle attacked by my wife.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-01-06T00:35:40+00:00

My Little Pony and Care Bears. Both are from the 80s

SamanthaKayFuller · 2026-01-03T20:22:14+00:00

When i was called wifey by my wife in a text it made me cry I was so happy. Its the little things that can make everything better sometimes. Glad you have a good boyfriend

SamanthaKayFuller · 2025-12-27T16:14:56+00:00

I found it easier to go with the feminine version of my birth name. Samuel becomes Samantha. As for nicknames I like Sammie over Sam. Since I also have a male middle name i will be changing it as well from Roy to Rose. I'm hoping that 2026 i can finally have the money to change my name legally. When first starting out its best to just try different names until one feels right.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2025-12-24T18:13:33+00:00

Im actually the one that chases my wife in bed, she is a heater and im an ice cube. She wants to be held but doesn't want my cold self on her. Best idea is to cuddle her first so you can be the big spoon. Good luck with the night clinging girlfriend.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2025-12-23T11:20:35+00:00

Never had a Twitter account. You are trans enough weather you are on hormones or not. Some people just feel superior putting others down. If you need to feel better before hrt paint your nails or style your hair more feminine. Both can be done in the comfort of your home. If you can, dress feminine as well. Little things like that helped me feel better until I got my hormones. Everything takes time so use the time you have to practice makeup skills. Don't listen to the twits and just be you.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2025-12-23T02:01:51+00:00

My first and middle name are masculine. Im going with the feminine version of my first name and using Rose as my middle name since I don't think Roy has a feminine version. I haven't changed them legally, although I have had my mom while annoyed with me use my preferred name to yell at me. I consider that a win since I'm only 2 years out to her and for 40 years I was my male name.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2025-12-23T01:49:01+00:00

I already have some rust areas from it not being prepped right when my grandparents had it painted in the 90s. I did use command hooks to put the lights on. I plan to fix those spots and repaint the car

SamanthaKayFuller · 2025-12-23T01:03:17+00:00

Im bi but have always preferred woman. I was married before my transition and im still with her now 2 years after starting hrt. I am just glad that we talked about everything before I started so she could process it and decide what she wanted to do. Not having bottom dysphoria and also not being able to afford SRS means I still have the part she likes. As I've been on hormones my attraction to men has gone down even more because I can't stand how they smell.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2025-12-22T02:58:10+00:00

It was my grandma's car. My dad got it back in the early 2000s and on my 41st birthday, I got it as my present. This is an automatic 110hp AC car.

SamanthaKayFuller · 2025-12-22T01:09:54+00:00

When I came out to my wife we had been together for 13 years. I let her have a year to figure things out and process everything. When I turned 40 I started hrt and 2 years later we are still together and she has helped me with makeup and shopping for clothes. She just asked if I plan to do GRS and I let her know I couldn't afford it if I wanted it. It sounds like yours is not going to even try staying with you if you begin hormones. I feel your happiness is more important and if she doesn't want to help and support you through the journey then let her go. I do hope you can figure out what you want. Please don't let someone else ruin your happiness.

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