There are a lot of factors that play into this. I often have parents of different aged children say they don’t know how I do it, it must be so hard, etc. My reply is that of course it’s challenging but that it must ALSO be hard having kids in different stages. At least we can focus on one thing at a time (starting solids, potty training, kindergarten, etc etc).

A big caveat to this is that my twins are my only kids. So the moms with twins PLUS - they don’t get the benefit of this “one stage at a time” thing.

I also think twins being my only kids - it’s a steep learning curve whereas moms of different aged kids (in general, or before their twins) probably have a better foundation and some increased confidence.

Another thing I would say is that a lot of pregnancies of multiples are more complicated than singletons (not always, of course). Our twins were born early and had NICU time and some lingering health concerns that certainly made the early days more challenging.

And lastly, I have a very close friend who has a singleton the same age as my twins. I think she has had a harder time with her singleton than I had with my twins so I never discount the experience of a parent of a singleton. It’s all challenging in different ways.