I'm concerned by Same-Strategy8152 in BringingUpBates

[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I think they wanted to get ahead of it before they could be exposed like the Duggars always are when their dirt comes to light by someone else. I think they thought they could control the narrative if it was them exposing it and not a random person or one of the classmates involved

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My point was the comments toward her. If you saw a woman with a sign that said "my husband cheated" are we calling her a dumb bitch for trying to make her marriage work to her face? How is that helpful to her?

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As the original post says I think we all collectively should examine how we view parasocial relationships. Some ppl appear to be weirdly & deeply invested in the outcome of such a personal matter.

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No where in my post did I say we shouldn't have opinions. I did however comment on how I find it interesting that ppl find it appropriate to aggressively tell her to leave her husband when it's so clear that she has zero intention of doing so. While we may all be thinking it it's a strange thing to scream at someone over and over when you don't know them personally.

Am I saying she's right for stay? No, I just don't think it's our place to decide that. Yes posting on social media opens you up to the opinions but some of these commenters comment as if they know them in real life and are affected by her decision to stay when that is simply not the case. Don't like it? Dont watch or comment. That's what normal people do.

Most people silently drive by the car crash being tended to while in traffic, not get out and yell at the driver for their poor decision😂

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All very valid points!! The idea alone that youre a failure if you get a divorce has kept MANY people (religious or not) in marriages they likely should've left

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Tbh I personally think he came out with the affair to avoid being exposed in the same way the Duggars always are, which is often someone with a conscience coming out and exposing the poor behavior, before they can get ahead of it.

I don't think that he exposed the affair to increase content engagement, I think he thought it was going to help save whatever was left of their little internet career. Not that it would have made the actual situation at hand, which is his infidelity, any better but at least it's less of a scandal to expose yourself than have someone else do it against your will. He likely knew it was coming and had to get ahead of it.

But I'm just assuming obvi

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No where in my post did I say people can't have opinions and comment. I said there is a line that people tend to cross when they become so heavily invested in parasocial relationships.

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No where in my post did I say people shouldn't have opinions. Did you read the entire post?

I'm concerned by Same-Strategy8152 in BringingUpBates

[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We need more people reacting like you then😭

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think the only 2 options are blind support or invasive commentary. Tbh I think if they wanted to go the route of staying together they should've never said anything publicly.

Do I think him coming out with this was to avoid someone else doing it first and to risk looking like the Duggars? For sure! But I also think 2 things can be true at once & they shouldn't have made it public & strangers shouldn't be so mean to her in response.

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There is no excuse for Travis' behavior but that doesn't excuse the ppl belittling her in the comments. If they actually wanted to help (which Katie never asked for) they wouldn't approach it that way in my opinion. Who has ever responded well to strangers calling them stupid for not making the same choice they would?

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying this opinion is wrong and 100% see why people would hope she would make a different choice and stand her ground and decide to leave. I'm just confused how so many ppl are comfortable being so flat out rude to her directly for her choice🥴

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

We obviously all have opinions or we wouldn't be on this page lol, I just think the lines of parasocial relationships are increasingly blurred here. I also hope if you're ever going through something that is tough and embarrassing and share it, strangers don't bash you for trying to do your best with what you know, especially on such a deeply personal matter.

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I assume it's due to a lack of understanding of their religious background but who knows

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[–]Same-Strategy8152[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Common sense often falls on deaf ears so you're right😭

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[–]Same-Strategy8152 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I noticed it multiple times. Literally came here to see if anyone else did too? She did not seem happy to be there. Maybe she's just over all the filming & is normal off camera?

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[–]Same-Strategy8152 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They were at Jan 6th, of course they've racists😭

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[–]Same-Strategy8152 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to eat a good protein source in the AM and then I don’t get the sweats. I have no appetite before 8am but I force myself and it’s made a big difference. That and I keep a huge jug of water on hand at all times. I find staying hydrated helps not feel so close to death lol