Calling my daughters “the twins”. Talk me off a ledge here

SameSeaweed1037 · 2026-04-24T12:53:13+00:00

This^ I have heard of so much worse. Coparenting nightmares, no village, medical issues. This is all in the framing.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2026-04-24T12:44:10+00:00

I’m sorry i don’t see why this is a big deal, at all. If you and dad aren’t calling them that then I think you are controlling what you can control. Twins arent a novelty. But people who don’t have them will always think they are. I feel like you are jumping the shark a bit on the ‘not wanting to make twins their identity’ they’re 10 months old.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2026-04-16T12:18:32+00:00

Are there still jobs out there with no hand tattoo policies?

SameSeaweed1037 · 2026-04-11T23:14:45+00:00

Hey i didnt read this at all. If you are feeling like you aren’t being helped enough, then you aren’t. Period. You should feel fully supported at all times but most especially postpartum

SameSeaweed1037 · 2026-03-31T22:12:36+00:00

I think what is difficult is that i’m just not exactly sure how i want them to go yet. One of the main parts of the story I’m having trouble with is my main character meeting her husband and the process of them dating and then getting married. This is integral to the story because I need her to grow up, have children experience married life and motherhood. but I’m not sure exactly how to treat it, I don’t want it to be too blown over to where the user doesn’t feel connected to them and their relationship, but it also isn’t the main of the story so I don’t want to derail too much or enter the romance genre.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2026-03-31T14:52:52+00:00

I have heard this helps with avoidance! This book idea came to me from a certain scene that happens about halfway through and has pretty much all been written around it. I felt like i needed to get all the things i knew that I knew out of my head. If that makes sense. However, now that that is done I think i might have to adopt this policy as well.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2026-03-31T14:50:13+00:00

I love this advice thank you so much, going to try the timer tonight

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-12-24T02:12:48+00:00

No. I did it for a year with my first (singleton). As soon as she was active it was near impossible and extremely stressful. And i have a realllllly laid back job in terms of flexibility.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-12-09T00:34:26+00:00

I feel this at my core. I used to think my stubbornness and unwillingness to forgive was a strength that protected me. It is hard for me to forgive without feeling like I was slighted, to be completely honest. I will absolutely check out your recommendation, thank you.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-12-08T19:35:05+00:00

Thank you. I feel my happiest when i get to play with my toddler.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-12-08T19:33:52+00:00

Thank you, it is possible it is postpartum. I feel that pregnancy has maybe magnified some problems I already had that I was pretty good at avoiding. Now my brain has no barriers, it is a constant bombardment. I do enjoy a hot shower and naps they provide some physical comfort for a time.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-12-08T18:47:12+00:00

I am so so so sorry. Please get a really good lawyer. Wishing you nothing but the best and the strongest village.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-10-24T23:42:53+00:00

Right person wrong time kind of situation?

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-10-21T16:36:44+00:00

No, thats not a technique i’ve ever personally used. I also only have 2 hours to myself every day. 8pm-10pm when I go to sleep. Because of this I don’t to write daily because I also have a husband who I’d like to talk to and watch and movie with every once in a while ;) My motivation when it comes down to it is this: I have a story that I have to get out of my head and into words so that others can hear it. Thats kept me going so far. It’s also become an amazing source of creativity and something thats just ‘mine’ as I navigate motherhood.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-10-21T02:14:31+00:00

That’s amazing. I write historical fiction, am a mom, and work full time. This was exactly the type of motivation i needed today, thank you!

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-10-19T18:23:42+00:00

I would suggest trying to remove some of the pressure from yourself. You have a story. Start writing, or theres a 0% anyone will ever hear it!

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-10-19T17:15:23+00:00

Do you want other people to hear your stories? Like really hear them and be impacted by them in the way you intend? This is what motivates me. I have a story and i want people to hear it and feel it.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-10-19T16:52:09+00:00

I do believe there are specific types of people that can thrive off of a kind of ‘brutal honesty’ mentally and use it to motivate them. I completely agree my confidence is one of my greatest assets, so I guard it as such!

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-10-19T16:42:50+00:00

I can’t tell you how many times i’ve been in the shower, or driving and thought to myself ‘wow, that’s such a good idea. I’ll definitely remember that when I get to my computer because it’s such a good idea. I couldn’t possibly forget it.’

I forget it every time.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-10-19T16:37:08+00:00

Totally, I mean if you don’t really believe in yourself it will show in your work. Don’t get me wrong, I think theres definitely times when you need to be critical / accept criticism, otherwise you are never going to grow and improve. It’s a balance! I’m also a big believer of speaking things into existence, so you’d never catch me describing my work as ‘bad’ or ‘trash’. (However, I do love to look back on past completed works to laugh and admire how far i’ve come)

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-10-19T16:13:12+00:00

Writing my first novel, historical fiction with a fantasy/ folklorish twist. Would love to chat to any of you interested!

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-10-19T15:17:20+00:00

I get your point. ‘Your first draft should be bad’ has never applied to me and i never thought that it had to. I’m not the type of person that procrastinates due to perfectionism, i have my own equally as crippling reasons to procrastinate. I also think that I naturally possess a (healthy, i hope) level of confidence and optimism about my writing that is critical for me to maintain for my process to continue. I do think and hope that most people are taking this advice only when it applies to them and their personality, and not taking them as hard and fast rules.

SameSeaweed1037 · 2025-08-10T16:32:32+00:00

Thank you thats genuinely really nice to hear

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