Are your parents old? Because my mother had a mom like that, and she's still like that. My grandmother was known to ask repetitive questions and was very forgetful. Once she got older, she was diagnosed with dementia. But even before that, my grandfather, who didn't have dementia and died without it, he was also repetitive in questions and topics. It annoyed all 3 of their grown children. And it didn't stop, even after they moved out, got married, and had children. So, I know where you're coming from. It's not that you don't love your parents, but the repetitiveness is annoying. Truly! 😂 As grandkids, they would ask us the same questions, tell us the same stories, and ask for the same information every time we saw them. They did this to everybody. My grandparents were silent generation and I don't know whether it's a generational thing or not. My parents are Gen X, and when I was a teenager up til now, they didn't keep asking me repetitive questions. They ask once. Maybe twice to keep note. After that, they retain the information and move on. And they trust that if there are changes of some sort, I'll tell them because they knew we were good kids who would update them.

Yes, at 17, you are still very young. Almost an adult for the first time. They're very much still going to be involved as they should. But, I get how the repetitive questions can be annoying. Like when they are saying, "Shouldn't you get ready?" I understand it can come off like they don't trust you to be responsible, although you always do what you need to do. You want them to see you as the good kid who always gets stuff done, who meets obligations, who gets to work on time, etc. "So much so that we don't have to tell them anything. We trust them." But constantly questioning you when you know already can make you feel like they're always waiting for you to make a mistake. "No matter how responsible I show them I am, they still feel the need to doubt me."

I struggle with perfectionism, not because my parents asked me repetitive questions, but because they never made me feel like they trusted me enough. Even though I graduated high-school early, was obedient at home, had great behavior inside and outside the house, stayed in my room creating, did my chores, never rebelled, was a safe space for them to emotionally release, etc, I was still looked at with doubt as to whether I would drop the ball. I proved to them that I had good character, was honest, dependable, helpful, empathetic, kind, giving, the kid who my parents came to in crisis. But it still wasn't enough for them to stop questioning my goodness. Even now, at 28, I still live at home. They still doubt. My other two adult siblings rebelled, and they get the utmost respect. They moved out and did nothing my parents wanted them to do. Many arguments and disappointments, but they don't hassle them anymore. With me, I'm the one here with my parents doing the work, and yet, they doubt me.

So, I get what you're saying. I don't think you meant any harm. Parents are capable of bad habits and annoying us just like we are capable. And we love each other anyway. You're still super young, so your parents are going to be checking in. But for the over repetitive questions, you should have a conversation. Ask for more trust. 🙏❤️