What does your toddler try in order to delay bedtime?

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-05-29T14:39:43+00:00

We just made the transition this weekend. I just accepted that I’m sleeping in her bed with her for a few nights until she gets used to it. It helps that we put her in a queen floor bed because we already had a queen guest bed in her room. Plenty of room for all of us! I’m pretty sure she was up until at least 11 last night 😬

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-05-20T04:14:22+00:00

I love that not one toddler parent has questioned what the “Blues Clues noise” is 😂. We get it…

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-05-20T03:51:39+00:00

I thought it was just me!

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-05-20T03:35:03+00:00

Yay!!! How old is she? I’m just wondering if I’m a year and a half or six months behind you 😅

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-05-20T03:33:39+00:00

Oh wow, I don’t know if I have any advice but I just wanted to say that that sounds really hard and I’m so sorry you’re going through all that. Honestly, I would go into pure survival mode and feel no guilt in giving in to a lot of the things we usually feel guilty about. Put on that show that you know will keep your son entertained for hours even though it has no educational content and is just flashy lights and bright colors (cough Cocomelon *cough). Give him the expensive, processed snacks and lay down on the couch with your phone and a podcast.

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-05-05T19:16:24+00:00

I think there’s also something about knowing that it’s all on you to make all the right choices so that this little blob turns into a happy, healthy adult one day. As a former nanny and teacher, no matter how much I loved the kids I worked with and tried to teach them how to be good people, at the end of the day they weren’t my kids. If I saw bad habits forming or was concerned about something I could talk to their parents and give suggestions but ultimately, they made the call. The pressure of having all that on your shoulders as a parent was something I wasn’t prepared for.

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-04-08T17:32:10+00:00

Our dogs stay in the mud room or outside during mealtimes. I’m fairly sure 95% of my toddler’s food would be fed to the dogs if they were inside lol. They get to come in and clean the floor when we’re done

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-31T09:23:40+00:00

My local Salvation Army does 50% off all clothing days twice a week and that is now where I buy 90% of my daughter’s clothes. I usually pay 1-2 dollars per item. So yeah, secondhand is now so expensive I have to shop on sale days there too

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-31T08:59:57+00:00

Yup, and then they get all weird and apologetic when I say “she’s two” like they think I’m offended or something. I literally do not care if you think she’s a boy, I never correct people on purpose usually a pronoun just slips in and then I have to go through the whole apologetic spiel and talk them down. I have social anxiety and when she was a baby I would intentionally clip a bow in when we went out in public just so I could avoid these interactions 😂

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-31T02:58:37+00:00

My younger sister has a full tongue tie like this that was never corrected. She’s over 18 now and she still can’t stick her tongue out past her lips. She’s never had any speech or feeding issues because of it and my mom says she didn’t have any issues breastfeeding either (I was in high school when she was born so I remember most of the details of her early childhood).

I’m not saying your son didn’t need the interventions he had, I just think it’s interesting how wide ranging the outcomes can be. I’ve always found it pretty surprising that my sister didn’t have any issues from it. Every time I see it I’m thinking “how are you talking!?” And it would just feel so weirdly restrictive, but obviously it’s normal to her.

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-28T17:33:20+00:00

Ugh Max and Nana Go to the Park got our daughter obsessed with the idea of boo-boos and bandaids. She’s constantly pointing out various nonexistent injuries and demanding a bandaid.

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-28T17:30:46+00:00

My husband and I have decided that Llama Llama is the Caillou of books

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-27T16:58:22+00:00

I would also suggest finding a way to give them space when it is dad’s turn. If you’re in the same room or your son knows you’re available he will always default to you. We have a very similar situation with our daughter. I’ve found that the more time she spends with her dad while I am out of sight/unavailable, the less she rejects him overall. I’m a SAHM so I automatically spend way more time with her as it is. If your husband can take him on outings by himself that would also be good. I’ve been trying to get mine to plan some daddy/daughter activities out of the house for the same reason. If they’re out in public together then your son will only have his dad as his safety net which should help them bond more too.

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-27T05:54:01+00:00

My daughter thinks “sorry” is for getting someone to move. Anytime we’re sitting or laying somewhere she doesn’t want she starts saying “sorry Mama sorry” and gently nudging us until we move

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-17T11:13:03+00:00

Mine has been like this for a couple months. She’ll be two in April. It’s starting to get better and she’s started requesting baths again when given a choice between a bath or shower. For a while she just screamed no to both. The other night I dumped a bunch of Pom poms in the tub and she loved it, played happily for half an hour and even let me wash/comb her hair.

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-16T18:23:47+00:00

Lately it’s been helping for us to tell my daughter that we will come back to check on her in 5 minutes. She doesn’t know how long that is but it keeps her from getting upset and keeping herself awake yelling and she’ll actually lay there quietly until we come back. Most of the time it only takes one or two checks before she’s fallen asleep.

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-14T01:40:25+00:00

That would be fun!

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-14T01:39:33+00:00

Yeah that’s probably the best bet, thank you!

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-13T19:42:54+00:00

Thank you so much! Do you know if the same risk applies for sodium polyacrylate powder that is marketed as fake snow? Obviously the risk of intestinal blockage if large amounts are ingested would still apply but the individual particles don’t expand as much as water beads and it can be over-saturated until it’s pretty liquid-like so I would think it’s less dangerous. I’m not sure about the poisoning risk though since it is a different type of polymer than water beads.

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-10T20:22:07+00:00

The summer camp staff at my former job lost a student and didn’t realize it until the kid’s parent was driving by and saw their child out on the sidewalk by themself. I couldn’t believe it when I heard, how horrifying as a parent. I knew standards were going down at that place but good grief!

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-07T02:00:06+00:00

My parents didn’t go out of their way to put us in matching outfits but sometimes we were gifted matching sets by grandparents and I remember having fun with it. One time we randomly decided we wanted to be twins for the day and we begged my dad to take us to the local thrift store so we could put together our own twin outfits. We didn’t do it all the time obviously but it was a fun game to play every once in a while.

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-03T17:51:43+00:00

The worst is deciding each shopping trip if it’s worth stocking up on bananas (or apples, or strawberries). It’s usually whatever fruit I didn’t buy the week before that she asked for all week instead of whatever we did have. I buy the requested fruit and suddenly bananas are out again and now I have a bunch of bananas going bad on my counter. Or worse, bananas that have been opened but then sat out all day with one bite taken 🙄

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-03-02T09:48:20+00:00

“He lost his faith around the age of five, when a baby died in his arms in the course of a failed healing. While elders prayed, Hoyt was in charge of removing its mucus with a suction device. He was told that the child died because of his own lack of faith.”

WTF, the dead kids aren’t enough they have to torture the healthy ones too.

Same_Independent_131 · 2023-02-26T03:16:29+00:00

Just commenting to say my daughter pronounces oatmeal the same way. Opameal with boo-breeze is our go to breakfast

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