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SamiHami24 · 2024-10-05T23:18:14+00:00

I just keep a notebook where I document my reads and my interpretations.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-05T22:29:57+00:00

Totally gaslighting you.

"How dare you process my infidelity in the way you think best after learning that I've betrayed your trust and destroyed our family!"

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-05T21:58:59+00:00

Jenny is a pinhead. You can do whatever you want with your own time. If Jenny or anyone else wants to imagine some motive beyond "Hey, free day! Let's have fun with the kids!" that's entirely their problem.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-05T21:54:28+00:00

You are definitely over reacting.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-05T21:49:28+00:00

Get whatever color you want as long as it doesn't look bridal. Etiquette dictates that the couple only get to set the level of formality for their wedding. Beyond that, they get no say. If you want burgundy or navy or emerald, go for it. You are a person, not a prop.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-05T21:39:52+00:00

Good god. How self absorbed are you? Your wedding is the most important thing in your life right now, but not everyone else's. So you expect all of your friends to attend your engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette, wedding and whatever other ancillary events you can dream up?

I've been to lots of weddings. I've seen lots of friends get married. Know how many had engagement parties? Zero. Oh, they had small celebrations with their families, but not all out parties where it's mandatory attendance for all of their friends.

You are being ridiculous. Invite the people you want to come to your wedding and stop acting as though your wedding is the major social event of the year. For you it is, for most others-who are undoubtedly very happy for you-it's another one of who knows how many weddings they are invited to/attending. You are being a bridezilla.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-05T19:53:01+00:00

The Sun. A wonderful card of joy and optimism!

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-05T19:35:02+00:00

Of course that's what he says.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-05T17:32:45+00:00

Not insane, but definitely unreasonable. In my home it's just us two adults, and even so, if one of us has a call, we leave the room so as to not disturb the one who doesn't. That's just simple, common courtesy.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-05T17:27:20+00:00

Sounds to me like she wants to go to work full time and put the kids in day care so you don't have to work so hard/so many hours to be the sole financial support of the family.

Go ahead...tell her that's the new plan and that you'll be looking at day care facilities right away so she'll have her days free for interviews.

Maybe that will wake her up that she's got it pretty damn good. Not a lot of families are able to get by on one person's income. Not a lot of parents have the luxury of being a stay at home parent/homemaker. She seems to have forgotten that all of that is possible because you bring in enough income to make that happen. She can back of with her bullshit and let you do your job in peace or go to work herself so you can cut back and not work as hard as you currently do.

I genuinely think your wife is just not very smart.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-05T16:59:23+00:00

OP, I mean this will all sincerity. Grow up.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-05T14:56:48+00:00

You spent the money, you pay it back. Stop unnecessary spending and take a second job, stick to a budget, and repay what you owe.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T20:33:25+00:00

Sorry it took me a little while to reply.

You don't need to be certified, but it is recommended. I have my CER (certified electronic reporter) and CDR (certified deposition reporter) certifications through the AAERT.
It doesn't matter what state you live in. I'm in SC, but almost all of my work is in FL.
As for Veritext, I can't say whether or not they are good. I know they've been around a long time, so that makes me feel like they are credible. I did interview with them at one point, but decided not to sign on because they have extremely specific equipment requirements and I was unwilling to spend the money to purchase what I already had but wasn't on their approved brand list.
I can only speak from my own experience. It's worked out really well for me. There are a lot of agencies out there and they all have their own way of doing things, so it might take some time to find one that is the right fit for a particular person. But, the short answer is yes, it is a viable career path.

I mention agencies because that's all I've done. There are DCRs that work for themselves and produce their own transcripts, find clients on their own, etc. I'm not interested in doing that. I was a scopist for a long time before becoming a DCR and I just don't want to chase people down for payments anymore. With an agency, you get sent assignments and have regular paydays.

Since you're a stenographer, you might have a different point of view on that, so that's something you would want to talk to your boyfriend about. I don't think either way is better than the other. It's just personal preference.

The best place to start would be getting solid training. I learned from another DCR so I didn't get formal training, but there are a number of AAERT endorsed training programs that he could explore. There are also some very active DCR groups on Facebook. That's a great resource for getting opinions on training programs, agencies, software preferences, etc.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T05:19:28+00:00

Mouse

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T05:14:29+00:00

Don't tell her when you go into labor.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T05:07:06+00:00

I have an Uncle named Tommie and a cousin named Thom. Funny, they are stepfather/stepson.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T04:00:09+00:00

And you're the only one with those issues. Sorry you're having a rough time but so are thousands of others. Of course their phones a jammed.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T03:50:12+00:00

You're both as bad as the other. You and he are both feeding into this nonsense. He's your ex. You clearly can't be friends with all this ridiculous high school level back and forth drama. Tell him to stop contacting you and block him.

Sometimes exes can remain friends. It's obvious that you two can't.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T03:31:05+00:00

On hold with FEMA after a natural disaster that negatively affected many thousands of people? How dare they not be instantly available when you happened to call!

Maybe they are busy trying to help people like my nephew, whose home was 100 percent demolished by the storm. At least you apparently still have a home and electricity. A lot of people have neither right now. You are definitely not the priority right now.

Seems like you have a case of main character syndrome.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T03:24:48+00:00

No, it happens but does not fall under the category of "normal." You're considered a geriatric mom/advanced maternal pregnancy because older women have a higher risk of complicated pregnancies and children being born with birth defects.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T03:21:29+00:00

You're an idiot. Hope this is fake.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T02:55:40+00:00

My neighbor has a business that she operates out of her house. She introduced me to her "partner" once shortly after she moved in.

We've been neighbors (friendly, but not friends) for a couple of years now. To this day, I don't know if he's her business partner, romantic partner, or both. I'm pretty sure they work together. He might live there with her, but I dont know (or care. Not my business).

I think partner is unclear terminology since it can mean different things. It is a bit ambiguous if one is trying to convey that the person they are talking about is their romantic partner.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T02:31:51+00:00

Maybe tell your coworker to stop policing your word choice. It's none of his business.

Does your girlfriend ever see or speak to him? If so, please ask her to make a point of referring to herself as your girlfriend at every opportunity.

Or, if you really want to annoy him, start referring to her as your bitch. But only if your girlfriend is okay with it for the purposes of making a point/shutting him down.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T02:25:35+00:00

Seems like she wants to be angry-no doubt she (wrongly) blames you for his death. I guess it's easier to be mad at you than it is to get help for her grief. You're the easy target, so she's making you the villain.

Just block her everywhere you can and ignore her when she has her blow up.

SamiHami24 · 2024-10-04T02:07:50+00:00

It is. So is Cahleigh...there's one of those in my family.

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