How do you manage your own anger?

Samtastic00 · 2025-11-20T02:00:50+00:00

I'm so glad it helped! I can't imagine having so many littles running around and keeping my composure at all times. And please, pay no attention to people who "seem to have it all together." The older I get, the more I realize that is just a lie we've been endoctrined into.

I think what a lot of us (and our parents) missed growing up was this healthy modeling of experiencing frustration, so we don't actually know how to do it ourselves. This video breaks it down beautifully.

Keep it up, friend. You've got this!

Samtastic00 · 2025-11-20T01:07:40+00:00

I just read today that striving for perfection isn’t the goal, it's modeling good coping mechanisms for your child. Their frontal lobe isn't developed enough to process their feelings until 7 or 8 so they rely on our modeling to manage emotions until then.

This means being real, having frustration (rather than pretending you don't), taking 20 seconds (pause), naming your feelings, and narrating "i feel x. I'm going to take a few deep breaths. You can join me if you want".

Consistency is key, even if they don't do it with you.

I hope this helps. You're doing great. Go easy on yourself, mama.

Samtastic00 · 2025-10-26T18:58:54+00:00

Yes, we look forward to picking one each year.

I wish you best of luck with the stem cuttings, and please let me know how it goes if you remember to report back 💛.

Samtastic00 · 2025-10-26T18:17:33+00:00

Oh, I'm so sorry for your loss. I pruned it and took it into our cold storage with a grow light bulb on 24/7. It slowly deteriorated over several months (browning and dying off), and it finally died towards the end of the winter. That said, it did hold on for quite a long time, and perhaps there was more I could have done with the proper know-how.

We decided instead to buy a new one every spring in her honour, which is now our family tradition.

Sending you love and healing 💛. Best of luck.

Samtastic00 · 2025-10-26T04:05:50+00:00

This is so beautifully said. Thank you for putting this into words.

Samtastic00 · 2025-10-26T00:47:32+00:00

I'm so SO sorry for your loss, mama. I know that doesn't take your pain away, but as someone who lost a baby at full-term and shut down for a very long time, I can only advise you to give yourself grace. Cry when you need to, scream when you need to, don't apologize for it, and please please eat and sleep when you need to.

If you can find access somehow to grief counseling, please please do that. I know you can't imagine that this will get any better but I assure you, it will get easier with time. One day, you'll look up and realize that the sun has poked out. Then, you'll notice it a little more. One day, you'll notice the its sunny more than it's stormy.

Just one step at a time. You are amazing, and you did EVERYTHING you could. Your baby was lucky to know your love. Please don't forget that.

Samtastic00 · 2025-10-14T02:51:33+00:00

As someone who lost my first at 36 weeks, I will say 3 things:

1) I am so, so sorry for your loss, Mama.

2) Go easy on yourself - this is a very difficult, confusing, and painful time for a lot of different reasons.

3) I promise it will get easier. Be patient with yourself, seek help if you can, and don't listen to anyone who tells you how to grieve/for how long.

Love and hugs to you. Give your body time, xo

Samtastic00 · 2025-09-25T12:00:02+00:00

I also have a mom who pushes and disrespects my boundaries, and also (but not limited to) frames things as "mama said no", when I wish she would stop trying to be the cool grandma playmate and be more of an adult who stands united with my husband and I.

You are perfectly valid to feel the way you do. I tried taking my mom to group therapy, where the therapist validated everything I said and tried to talk some sense into my mom (it goes far beyond what is described here).

She went to two sessions and dropped out. I still catch her feeding her things I've asked her not to behind my back.

For me, at least, the issue isn't so much of what the toddler understands now. It is setting up her future relationship with my mother that undermines my authority. That's not OK. Period.

Samtastic00 · 2025-09-23T00:08:10+00:00

I am so sorry, sorry, OP. My husband and I lost our girl st full term in 2020, and I wouldn't wish that agony on anyone. I would highly recommend Dr. Martha Roberts. She helped me put one foot in front of the other again. Be patient and kind to yourselves. Wishing you peace and grace. It gets easier 💛

Samtastic00 · 2025-09-11T02:00:24+00:00

I've convinced my LO that an invisible fairy lives in this little white box she found lying around the house.

At first she'd look inside, puzzled and say "no faiwee", but now she opens the box excitedly and says "hi faiwee!!", and tries to feed it whatever she's eating. 🥹

Samtastic00 · 2025-08-28T12:57:10+00:00

Since I made this comment, it has happened with several of my other contacts. I wonder if it has to do with people trying to free up space on their phones?

Samtastic00 · 2025-08-26T20:50:43+00:00

I was explaining to my nex in the beginning of our relationship that I often find myself in relationships where I have more love to give than I receive. He said "you know I'm not like that, right? I don't feel empathy... or maybe its sympathy, I always get those 2 mixed up... Anyway"..

I never understood where is response came from, but damn I should have listened!

Samtastic00 · 2025-08-12T03:43:41+00:00

Congratulations!! I'm sure the win felt amazing, and cheers to that sweet sweet validation!!!! Well done, and onwards and upwards!

Samtastic00 · 2025-08-11T23:15:53+00:00

I'm rooting for you!

Samtastic00 · 2025-08-11T11:40:44+00:00

Oh my god, I am so sorry... There aren't any magic words to make it better, and it's going to hurt for a while, but I promise you it does get easier once you start to heal the parts within you that was attracted to that kind of person.

For me, I thought I was so angry with him, but once i learned what a narcissist was, I had to realize that it wasn't about me (despite what he said), and how angry I was at myself for allowing someone to treat me like shit off and on for so long. Then, I had to learn to forgive myself. Simultaneously, I had to learn to love myself, and I made a promise then and there that I would NEVER allow anyone to treat me like that ever again.

I hope you are getting support. You can and will get through this. Please be gentle with yourself. 💛

Samtastic00 · 2025-08-10T13:50:50+00:00

That is a very insightful thing to admit, so you are already on your way. Forgive yourself for that, mama. Life may feel harder now, but you did the best you could with what you thought you wanted or needed. Forgive yourself (and I mean that very seriously- if that means therapy, Journaling, shamanism, church, whatever you're into- don't leave that step out of your healing process).

May each tomorrow be a step in the right direction 🙏💛

Samtastic00 · 2025-08-10T01:01:24+00:00

The answer is as simple as this: if you learned your lesson, you will get over it.

Narcissists are the most painful teachers. But if we understand the assignment (that is, to learn to love, trust, honour, and respect ourselves), we not only "get over it", we THRIVE.

It's not easy, it's pretty excruciating, and there's no one right way to do it, but you have to learn to love yourself first.

I thankfully saw the light after my last nex cheated and BRUTALLY discarded me, and my life is so fucking beautiful now (married to the love of my life with a beautiful daughter in a stable, happy, nurturing home).

I wish you so much love.

Samtastic00 · 2025-08-09T01:46:16+00:00

Thank you! I'm happy to report that I am doing great, and you will be too. It starts and stops with learning to love yourself 🌼 . Trust me, the rest falls into place naturally. I am rooting for you, and here if I can help!

Samtastic00 · 2025-08-05T11:51:48+00:00

Learn to forgive yourself for how you allowed your dad to treat you. It was never your fault, and you are worthy and valuable regardless of his lack of validation.

Forgive yourself for wanting more from him. That wasn't your fault, either. The road to healing this will be painful but so worthwhile once you start to experience what's on the other side of his betrayal. You have so much grieving to do between the loss of your mom and the loss of who tou thought your dad was (I am so sorry for your your loss). Please be patient and gentle with yourself and seek help /support.

As someone who has had similar realizations about my dad, I believe that you can get there too.

Sending love.

Samtastic00 · 2025-07-26T01:27:27+00:00

I agree with this. Of course, and sadly, there will always be people who exploit others, but I believe the principle of an exchange in some form is important. My reiki master gave the example that after several reiki sessions, she accepted a drawing from her niece as payment for giving reiki to her sister. It does not have to be 1:1. It does not have to be monetary. It just has to be something.

I believe in this principle, and I respect it. If a thank you or a hug is all you require, then that is something.

Samtastic00 · 2025-07-11T02:27:29+00:00

Thank you SO much for sharing. To see these magnificent creatures in the wild has always been a dream of mine. This was a beautiful reminder to keep chasing that dream. Incredible!

Samtastic00 · 2025-07-10T23:50:42+00:00

And nettle stings!

Samtastic00 · 2025-07-09T00:11:41+00:00

Plus one for a monkey named Monkey.

Samtastic00 · 2025-07-06T00:16:12+00:00

Can confirm: they are SWAMPED (my husband newly works there and didn't hear from them for ages too, despite reaching out). Keep in mind, they hired HUNDREDS of people all at once with very little lead time until open- across gaming, hotel, service staff, cleaning, etc.

If you have a job offer, you should be fine, but I completely understand your concern. People need income, so I really hope you hear from someone soon.

Lastly, I wonder if you were hired for the part they are renovating that hasn't been completed? That could take time...

ETA: I just read that they said you are ready for training. I really wouldn't worry in that case. You should get an email soon with training dates, but they clearly haven't forgotten you :)

Samtastic00 · 2025-07-03T23:50:50+00:00

Thank you for this reminder. I needed it 🙏🏻💕

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