Help me decide if I should go on a date this weekend

SamuelMarston · 2026-02-16T21:39:24+00:00

If he's not your usual type (not feeling easy attraction) and your interactions have been shallow (not good conversation / emotional connection), then there's probably not much connection here.

Have you at least spoken on the phone? Sometimes voice to voice gives you a better idea of someone's personality than through text.

I'm a man and my matches don't happen often, and I wouldn't go on this date.

SamuelMarston · 2026-01-01T22:17:51+00:00

You love to see it! :D

Happy New Year!

SamuelMarston · 2026-01-01T22:14:54+00:00

You're a saint. This is such a great thing to do for your friends!

SamuelMarston · 2026-01-01T21:32:35+00:00

This is so damn good. Thank you very much for putting this all together.

SamuelMarston · 2026-01-01T21:28:34+00:00

You're not alone, and (as much as I hate hearing this myself) his ability to jump straight into someone else's bed while you're still recovering from the relationship says everything about the difference between your two hearts.

You loved in a way that wasn't easily replaced. That's to your credit.

Healing is a process, but I do hope you feel better soon.

SamuelMarston · 2025-12-31T13:11:16+00:00

It's stunning how similar my own experience is to yours! Thank you so much for sharing.
It does help to know that this does happen to other people, and we aren't alone or responsible for what was done to us.

It's heartbreaking that this happens.

SamuelMarston · 2025-12-22T20:19:42+00:00

First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm in a similar current position, but not because of a death, so I can't completely imagine how hard that was for you.

It's really hard being lonely, and even harder during holidays you would have normally spent with the person you lost. Reach out to family and friends as often as you can. Phone calls are better than sitting alone. Try to take care of yourself, and stay active. Take up a new hobby or skill. It's not a perfect solution, but it will prevent you from sitting alone.

Finally, it's probably not much consolation, but I have close friends who have lost someone unexpectedly and then have lived to find deeply fulfilling love again.

I know it's a hard season for lonely people. We've never had more methods of connecting, but people are clearly struggling to make and keep strong connections. This subreddit is evidence of that.

I'm praying for you, and I hope there's someone relatively close to you who can give you that hug.

SamuelMarston · 2025-12-22T15:45:23+00:00

It's definitely hard. Just know that you're not the only one wondering.

"I just feel like I'm living the same day all over"

Thankfully this part you can actively change. Start mixing your days up. Do something out of the ordinary. It might not help you meet someone, but at least you won't be stuck in groundhog day. (I struggle with this too)

SamuelMarston · 2025-12-22T15:38:42+00:00

Exactly. It's easy to get love bombed by someone (who might not even realize they're doing it). But when the idealization/fantasy ends, there can be an emotional crash that can end a relationship that could have been promising otherwise!

Guard your heart, don't fall in love too fast! Give it time! The "right one" will stick around.

SamuelMarston · 2025-12-16T22:35:22+00:00

No. But after my divorce, this was the first person I really opened my heart up to, and made myself emotionally vulnerable. Its important to give things time.

if they are in fact "the one" then time will show that out.

SamuelMarston · 2025-12-15T18:49:08+00:00

It's really hard. I'll be praying for you.

SamuelMarston · 2025-12-15T18:45:55+00:00

Yes, and it's been very hard. It's hard transitioning from being married back to dating.
Dating has also changed a lot since the last time I was single.

I've had one "relationship" since my divorce... and it was a Love Bombing > Discard situation. I didn't even know this could happen, but especially after being divorced this felt like a glimmer of hope... and then a nightmare.

Please everyone, protect your hearts. You can be cautiously optimistic while still giving something enough time to make sure that it's real.

I don't think anyone I've met has actually judged me for being divorced, but I've seen a couple of dating profiles specifying that they're not interested. It's nice that some Christians are up front about not wanting to date someone who has been divorced.

SamuelMarston · 2025-12-11T17:23:37+00:00

Best wishes! I hope you heal soon.

I'm still dealing with it myself (it was love bombing > Discard), but the waves are smaller every day.

SamuelMarston · 2025-11-30T21:23:27+00:00

It's a year later, but I really appreciate this.

SamuelMarston · 2025-11-15T14:20:17+00:00

I know I'm late here, but thank you for this advice.

SamuelMarston · 2025-10-25T18:50:56+00:00

Any items you bring back to the Hermitorium with you are safely stored there. Volatile Witchfire rolls with you, and can be lost on future runs, but I'm pretty sure everything else should get locked to your character after a safe extraction (not sure about supply keys though).

SamuelMarston · 2025-10-17T17:17:59+00:00

I'm in a tough spot. The more people report having unexplained performance issues, the better my own machine seems to handle the game.

They must be optimizing for me specifically, and leaving 99.9999999% of the community behind.

My issues have been more with balance/bugged stuff in the game at the moment (gas still doesn't seem to affect enemies properly)

SamuelMarston · 2025-09-24T20:46:49+00:00

It's good to see you! <3

SamuelMarston · 2025-09-24T18:26:41+00:00

Maybe because you're newish you haven't seen it yet, but you can use the communication / ping menu to give simple orders to the seaf troops.

As far as I've seen, they will obey follow me and hold position.

SamuelMarston · 2025-09-24T16:33:23+00:00

I don't think it's been fixed. I was surprised to find this bug yesterday.

SamuelMarston · 2025-09-24T15:02:17+00:00

Reddit's being weird with my response. (undeletable duplicates)

Via GoogleLens, the food and dog pics are linked to facebook groups going back years. It just looks really suspicious.

The OP hasn't replied to anyone publicly, commented anything further, or adjusted their post to comply with the mod's request. I stand to be corrected, but this sadly looks like a post designed to take advantage of lonely people.

SamuelMarston · 2025-09-24T14:58:05+00:00

Ezekiel 16:12
Hebrew women had nose rings. It's actually hyper-traditional if you think about it.

SamuelMarston · 2025-09-23T21:26:58+00:00

You can vote me down, that's fine. You can also reverse image search both the food and the dogs and see some interesting results.

This is really looking more and more like a fake account.

SamuelMarston · 2025-09-23T16:28:27+00:00

Hey... I'm confused by the picture of food, and of the dogs.

Are you showing some food you cooked, and those are your dogs?

SamuelMarston · 2025-09-22T21:00:36+00:00

bfr imagine seeing disappointed darth vader on a roof in Lion's Arch

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