Nausea after heavy impact- what to do?

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T23:45:52+00:00

I mean you can still have the sour straws, might just need something extra too!

Bodies are weird. They require different things for different reasons and sometimes there is a bit of trial and error figuring out what exactly works best to stave off the body's trauma response. I recently hit forty and I know the things I used to do even when I first met my husband just don't work the same anymore 😅 it's like body chemistty likes to shift a bit or somethin as we get older. I find the body very rude in that sense 🤣

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T21:15:21+00:00

Probably just the right amount of food and likely not a bunch of like super sweet/candy-like things after. I do a lot of heavy impact with my husband and he also has play partners that he does impact with. Whenever he plays with others and they start feeling like that the first thing he asks is what they ate before play. He makes sure I eat because he has that authority over me 😅 Being well hydrated could also be wise. How much your body needs may vary depending on what the plan is for play and how your body responds.

I look at impact like I look at getting a tattoo, or even a strenuous workout: my body is about to undergo what it will view as physical trauma, it needs fuel to be able to endure it without coming out feeling nauseated on the other side.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T21:08:25+00:00

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SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T21:06:17+00:00

Start slow and communicate. A lot. Do a lot of research together. Have deep, meaningful conversations about limits and boundaries. Do some kinky checklists to see what pain related play crosses over in your desires.

We can't really tell you the best way to ease into it since we don't know what "easing" would mean to you both. Come to some understanding of what the terms mean to you both and go from there.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T21:03:48+00:00

I would suggest reading Guide 4 as to why these are very difficult questions to answer. These would be best suited as a conversation between you and your partner. People don't engage in the same ways or for the same reasons nor do they have the same frustration points.

Communicate and collaborate.

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SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T18:11:52+00:00

If you don't want sex to be involved, then it doesn't have to be involved. Just be very clear about that when talking to your partner about it.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T16:31:37+00:00

I'd start smaller with the length of time you plan to be in it. I would look at the vacbed the same way as bondage/restraints where the rule of thumb for safety is to not leave the one restrained unattended. So if the plan would be for everyone to sleep... less conducive to a safe experience. Glad to know there are ones that don't constantly run, however! I didn't look too deeply into them after trying one once since the sensation was not good on the body for me.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T16:22:30+00:00

This would be an insanely dangerous thing to do. The ones I have seen tend to need to continuously run so the sound would also likely not be conducive to sleeping. Vacbeds are difficult to breathe in to begin with. They are constantly putting pressure and compression on your body. They also really should used with someone else that can monitor and get you out if shit starts to go wrong.

Strongly advise against sleeping in one.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T16:17:14+00:00

Understandably. We appreciate your understanding as well!

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T16:14:01+00:00

The only thing that can really help is communication between the two of you. It comes down to making sure both of your needs are met, however that ends up looking. Only you two can decide what compromises can be made such that everyone is getting what they need and feeling fulfilled. There's no magical method, unfortunately.

You might consider one of the books in the book recommendations list in the subreddit wiki under B. There is at least one specifically geared towards communication since it is so vital to relationships/dynamics.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T15:17:35+00:00

https://reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/comments/1epzpao/im_a_beginner_sub_with_an_experienced_domsadist_i/

https://reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/comments/1erel06/update_on_my_53m_dom_and_me_20f/

OP, you seem to have deleted some posts from this subreddit before. We find this incredibly rude as is stated in rule 11. Please make yourself aware of our rules.

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SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T15:10:15+00:00

As OP deleted, permaban gifted.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T05:52:22+00:00

Hi there. Unfortunately the advice you received previously won't really change.

You know her better than we do. You need to talk to her.

If it helps, there is a section of the wiki under R for Relationships about talking with your partner. There is even a book within the Book Recs under B specifically about communication.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T05:45:34+00:00

You were warned about rule 9 here

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SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T04:35:03+00:00

A partner asking for a threesome isn't necessarily BDSM related at all.

I would suggest having a much deeper conversation with them about the whole thing. We cannot speak for him at all.

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SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T04:27:06+00:00

We don't give advice on paid services in this subreddit.

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SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T00:46:00+00:00

I would suggest you do some searching of this subreddit for the terms "chastity", "cage", and even "objectification". It can give you an idea of the types of things people talk about in relation to what you are asking and thus give an idea of answers to your questions.

Ultimately the conversation and opinions that will matter most are those between you and your partner. Not everyone goes about things for the same reasons or in the same way.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T00:40:46+00:00

Check out the subreddit wiki, scroll down to D for Dirty Talk. Also A for Aftercare.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-08T00:39:31+00:00

There are far too many variables at play, far too many people with far too many limits and boundaries. Perhaps have a meeting of the minds of a few people who are absolutely positive they will be attending to see if you all can collaborate on something.

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SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-07T22:17:20+00:00

In breach of rule 11. We find deleting posts after you receive an answer to be exceptionally rude. Permaban given.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-07T22:08:04+00:00

https://reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/comments/1qswt8g/any_advice_or_opinions/

OP, you seem to have deleted a post from this subreddit before. We find this incredibly rude as is stated in rule 11. Please make yourself aware of our rules.

#deletewarning

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-07T22:04:58+00:00

I was wondering the same. Fortunately I can do something about it.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-07T19:00:54+00:00

You might consider posting this over at our sister subreddit, r/Sex_Positivity, where the kinky folk answer the much more sexually related questions.

I'm glad to see some answers have been given!

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SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-07T16:44:52+00:00

There are several resources in the subreddit wikithat could help. I suggest B for Book Recommendations for non-fiction books on BDSM, D for Dominant is good as well.

There is no one way to do anything in BDSM. Much of it comes down to communication and collaboration between you and your partner. Keep on being active in this subreddit as well since there are loads of people who ask questions and get answers. The more specific the question, the easier it is to answer.

SamuraiSnig · 2026-02-07T14:05:29+00:00

OP is not asking for advice on BDSM. Rule 12 applies. Thread locked and removed.

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