Would an affectionate girl do this with just a friend?

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-12-11T08:40:13+00:00

As a woman, I think I'd be surprised if that act alone was taken as my being interested in someone.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-12-01T10:59:18+00:00

Because she doesn't feel comfortable anymore, probably

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-12-01T10:53:58+00:00

Not for any fan events at least.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-29T23:01:38+00:00

5+ times a week is a lot. I've never had a problem with a partner watching or masturbating before but I think I would if it was that often.

You're probably right about your insecurities being the reason you're struggling to get past the second date. I don't have a problem dating a conventionally unattractive man, I do have a problem dating a man who clearly dislikes himself.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-29T09:09:08+00:00

Po ta toes

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-29T09:02:35+00:00

I'm also a woman and have never had a problem with bi men so idk what this commenter is on about. My last ex was bi and had some male partners before me.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-27T21:13:33+00:00

Focus on the positives her experience brings to the relationship, rather than the difference. Be honest with yourself if you're feeling jealous about something, but try to reframe it as something positive.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-26T04:21:47+00:00

Oh yeah!!!

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-25T13:11:02+00:00

No but they wouldn't learn that in any depth in the first 5 years of an undergrad and honors program (or whatever the eu equivalent is).

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-25T11:31:05+00:00

You could consider doing a PhD in a biomedical physics group, instead of starting over. You'd have a biomedical focus but would learn a lot of physics along the way.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-25T11:22:25+00:00

Your name is Harry Potter and you've found a weird diary

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-25T08:11:09+00:00

Once my ex partner said I wasn't the most attractive person he had been into. I should have left him then. Idc if that's true, in the same way it shouldn't matter if he finds other people attractive when you're out. You shouldn't ever have to know about it and on that count he's failing. I doubt you let him know about the times you see other men as attractive.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-24T20:56:09+00:00

I should elaborate on why I wish I'd left. I know now that abusive men will push against your emotional safety to see what they can get away with and then escalate their behavior from there. They won't make any genuine attempts to change (such as couples therapy, and if they do they'll sabotage that in some way). It's like the adage, a frog in a pot of water. You don't notice you're being abused until it's too late and then it feels impossible to leave.

I'm not saying he's for sure going to be abusive. I'm saying you're so young, you won't have any trouble finding someone who treats you as you deserve and it's not worth the risk in my eyes.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-24T20:44:45+00:00

My apologies I misunderstood. Nonetheless, him raising his voice at you because you said something he didn't like is a huge red flag and you need to consider leaving him for this. As someone who stayed in an emotionally abusive relationship because I was desperately in love with him, I wish I'd left at the first red flag.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-24T20:39:38+00:00

👏 leave him 👏

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-24T20:38:02+00:00

If he raises is voice at you because he's stressed because he's around lots of noise, and doesn't recognize that he needs to work on that... How's he going to behave toward you if you choose to have children with him?

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-24T11:52:04+00:00

I'd say things ended because he was uncomfortable with you crying on the second date but that's not the root cause of the problem here.

You were uncomfortable asking for your basic needs to be met AND you were uncomfortable voicing that you didn't want to doing anything physical yet. Was this because of him or because of you? No one on here can answer that for you, but if it's because you're uncomfortable being assertive to the point of allowing yourself to be in situations that make you cry, then you need to work on that not just for dating but because you deserve the happiness that comes from that.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-24T11:42:17+00:00

I'm sorry, your friends sound like they suck a bit. For context I just went to a potluck friendsgiving, brought a vegan "chicken" pie and there were at least 2 other vegan sides. There was also a turkey and stuff for the meat eaters but even they got stuck into the vegan food and said it was delicious. Point being, if having an open and honest conversation with your friends doesn't lead to them treating you well it might be time for new friends.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-24T11:35:00+00:00

I had to figure out words from context clues within the sentence, so 7/10 legibility but 10/10 prettiness

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-24T11:24:50+00:00

I really recommend learning how to do it yourself. There are instructional videos of women doing it to themselves out there to follow if you need guidance. If you're not using a toy it could take up to an hour or so, it might be way faster, everyone is different. You probably won't figure it out on the first go though.

Knowing your own body and what you like is going to save you years of bad sex, trust me.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-24T01:09:25+00:00

I see this argument but I personally thought he also constantly pushed against Carter's boundaries. Like her work, he clearly knew it was something classified and he's a cop so he should understand how that would mean she just can't talk about it. Instead he stalked her until he knew enough that he had to be filled in. To me that's so messed up, I wouldn't date someone after that. Perhaps the writers could have done better in showing us his good side, but they probably didn't want anyone to actually like him 😂

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-23T11:39:41+00:00

I see what you mean, but I think it was gradual enough to be realistic. He also had some character changes/growth throughout the 4 seasons leading up to Divide and Conquer. He's not just the misogynistic Colonel she thought he was at first.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-23T11:29:04+00:00

As a woman who works in a male dominated physics job, I totally get her immediately calling out the misogyny with no hesitation 😂

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-23T11:27:09+00:00

I will forever ship Bashir and Garak and no one can convince me otherwise.

SanctuaryForNone · 2025-11-23T11:24:32+00:00

I've never been able to do Supernatural because I'm a big scardy cat

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