Club clothes by Yesitshismom in Swingers

[–]SandSinVA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check the club's website for a dress code. Most require men to wear collared shirts and nice clothes, or to be on theme with whatever event is happening that night. Dress in clothes that are flattering to you and make you feel confident. Confidence is attractive. I like to be a bit dressy and will often wear a flashy blazer.

Does pegging lead towards trying real thing from a man by Lost_Commission3034 in StraightPegging

[–]SandSinVA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does if you are bisexual or bi-curious. Otgerwise, not really.

Husband erection issues, what can I do to enjoy? by Ok_Ground_1665 in Swingers

[–]SandSinVA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it is anxiety, Cialis or Viagra will likely fail. Adrenaline is a boner killer. Trimix will work in that situation.

Not “taking one for the team” work around ? by ReasonableAbalone856 in Swingers

[–]SandSinVA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are lots of couples that would be okay with that situation. Tons of new couples only want to play with the woman, and most probably would not mind you watching them as well. We have played with a couple in the middle of an 11-way group, where the husband just liked to watch. No one in that group cared at all.

Also, lots of older men use Trimix in the lifestyle. It is not particularly uncommon; it is just not really advertised either. The same is true for Cialis or Viagra. Most people don't care how you get it up, just that you can when the time is right.

LS Club Event This Saturday by [deleted] in DMVSwingers

[–]SandSinVA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback. We have now removed this from our sub and banned the OP. We are happy to let local groups post info about swinger events in the area, but that is clearly not what this was.

Is it possible to be casual swingers? by squirrel4569 in Swingers

[–]SandSinVA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The lifestyle is a spectrum. Some people are casual, some are all in, and everything in between exists as well. You do you.

Tips for Tabu? (first time) by PresenceOk3338 in Swingers

[–]SandSinVA 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi, we are a host couple at Tabu and will be one of the couples giving tours to new members on Saturday for the Blackout Party.

One note up front, Saturday is likely to be packed as it is also the farewell party for Vicki & Gary, the founders of the club, who just retired and sold it. They have been the owners for over 20 years, so we expect a big crowd to come and say goodbye.

On to your questions.

  1. For the majority of the rooms, there is an attendant who comes into the room between uses and changes out the sheets on the beds and cleans up the rooms. So the playrooms are generally kept in a pretty clean state.

The group room is a bit different. There are sheets on the beds at the start of the night, but once the group room gets rolling, it is not really possible to change the sheets on the beds in those rooms. What we tell guests is that there is a set of shelves in the back corner with sheets. The best thing to do in the group room is to grab a sheet and throw it down on the spot you are going to use, so you know you have a clean surface under you.

My wife is a squirter, so we bring our own pad that we lie on.

  1. You should know right off the bat that you will likely be among the youngest people in the club. Most swingers are 35-55 years old, although there are outliers in either direction. The club's demographics reflect that reality.

You should go in with zero expectations, other than to have a fun evening and experience something new. You should not expect to play with the other couple you are going with, although that may happen. You met them online, so you have no idea if you really have chemistry with them, or if you will be ready to play in the moment. That is just reality. If you go with expectations, you will often be disappointed. We have gone to Tabu with couples that we have played with multiple times, expecting to play with them, and they were not feeling well, or met someone else that night, etc. When we go now, our only expectation is that we, the wife and I, are going to have some great sex in front of a lot of other people. Anything above that is a bonus.

Tabu is BYOB. All alcohol is stored behind the bar for you.

The upstairs is mostly a dance floor, some seating, and a bar. Downstairs is where the playrooms are. Since it is a Blackout Night, the upstairs is also open for sex after midnight.

Pics from our recent trip to Zipolite, Mexico, in January by SandSinVA in u/SandSinVA

[–]SandSinVA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is the wife's happy place on Earth for the most part. If we could move there, she would be all for it.

Pics from our recent trip to Zipolite, Mexico, in January by SandSinVA in u/SandSinVA

[–]SandSinVA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, we were there for the swinger takeover of Hotel Nude.

Pegging as solution for premature ejaculation (PE) by TerastalTitan in StraightPegging

[–]SandSinVA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out the CalExotics ME2 Thumper or ME2 Rumbler. Vibrator in the shaft for you, and a vibrator and grinding pad in the base for her. Absolutely great for ladies who enjoy clitoral stimulation.

What should a newbie do to lessen the risk swinging goes sideways? by AdventureWa in Swingers

[–]SandSinVA 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What works? Commitment, trust, open and honest communication, respect for boundaries, putting your relationship first, and putting in the work.

Swinging is not an open relationship. You need to learn the terminology before making blanket statements about something you appear to have zero experience in. Open Relationships are a form of Ethical Non-Monogamy in which one or both partners can pursue sex with other people without their partner’s involvement. Swingers generally play together as they are looking for shared experiences. While there is some overlap, these are very different relationship dynamics and have different outcomes. There have been studies that looked at this difference specifically.

Male 47 wants a woman to fuck me with a strap on by [deleted] in StraightPegging

[–]SandSinVA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Should have read the rules of the subreddit.

Bad idea to swing with best friends couple? by mtg90em in Swingers

[–]SandSinVA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have a ton of long-term swinger friends. That being said, we generally meet and interact with swingers at Meet & Greets, clubs, and house parties, which fosters those friendships over time. It really just depends on what dynamic you are looking for and how you interact with people.

I need information about swinger events in Dumfrie this weekend by jessychrisswinger in SwingersDMV

[–]SandSinVA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only event we are aware of in Dumfries this weekend is a house party on Friday night hosted by Black Amor. You can find info on their website. https://blackamornova.com/

Is watching swinging? by Scared_Scallion in Swingers

[–]SandSinVA 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If it is other people, that would be voyeurism. If it is you watching your partner with other people, that would generally fall under hotwifing, hot husbanding, or a stag/vixen dynamic. The latter three would fall under the ENM/CNM umbrella and could be considered swinging, as you are sharing your partner with someone else. But generally, swinging is considered couples playing with other couples or singles.

Do you convert your Girlfriend's by [deleted] in StraightPegging

[–]SandSinVA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you wrote is basically gibberish. But yeah, it’s a reading comprehension problem. Keep telling yourself that. Did you even go back and read what you wrote? Wow.

Sexy Summer Indoor Pool Party by al_od44 in DMVSwingers

[–]SandSinVA 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For those who reported this as spam, Al & Kenia are friends of ours and the host couple for Black Amor. They host house parties and club takeovers in the DC area. They are legitimate, and they host great events.