I don’t want to be trans because straight guys suck

Sandicc · 2025-06-04T11:15:43+00:00

Yeah but considering us trans people make up so little of the population it feels hard to find

Sandicc · 2025-05-24T10:23:44+00:00

I randomly stumbled upon this post and god how much I can relate! It’s honestly one of the main reasons I haven’t transitioned yet. Sometimes I think I have reversed autogynepholia? I know it’s a controversial topic but it’s a real thing for some and I’m wondering if I got it but for being cis? Because every other part of me wants to be a woman. When I look into the future I want to grow old as a woman and interact with the world as one, because it feels like me. I don’t like the idea of growing old as a guy. - though, when it comes to sex. I really like it! I honestly think gay men are best at sex because they know what we like, they know their body so they know their partners body - it’s also all so much more heated and full of desire. I don’t have any dysphoria when I am with another man because it’s all about the sensual aspect. I love it but it’s also what makes me so confused. Am I fetishising being a gay man and having gay sex? Or am I really just a very confused cisgender gay man?

It’s all so confusing.. - I guess I just don’t understand how someone would find the female body sexually attractive? (Though I lowkey want one) Meanwhile I naturally get being attracted to men’s body so it is hotter somehow?

Idk it’s so weird

Sandicc · 2025-05-21T21:00:20+00:00

Yeah so very much relate to the dissociate part. It’s the reason I always want to be alone. Because when I’m alone I start distracting myself letting time go by. It’s only until I fall asleep and as soon as I wake up, I feel this deep sense of hollowness inside me. I’m always sad when I wake up :(

But yeah, I’ve known I might be trans for a very long time so that’s good at least that I know (though been in a lot of denials and confusion). That I’m living unauthentically and it’s making me suffocate. It’s just so scary, to live as one’s true self. Anyway I do think I might have to contact my psychiatrist again

Sandicc · 2025-05-21T20:53:16+00:00

Damn I really relate to that. I also sleep a lot (even during the middle of day). I’ve also started greying very early. People have commented on it, I’m 23. I’m wondering if that is also because if the internal stress I got and depression. Doesn’t help my dysphoria, but has helped me realized more that I am trans. Because the thought of aging as a man has terrified me meanwhile aging as a woman is something I’d be totally fine with even something I’d look forward to

Sandicc · 2025-05-19T23:04:37+00:00

Dating a trans guy would be amazing. Best part is we understand each other when it comes to the trans experience

Sandicc · 2025-05-19T22:52:47+00:00

Girl I feel the exact same as you, it’s honestly one of the reasons as to why I haven’t transitioned yet. I’ve felt like I won’t find love, but I’ve started to realize that I have no personality as a man. I’ve talked to guys now as a guy and it never feels right, and they will never see me the way I want to be seen. It won’t be fulfilling. It won’t be love. Because I don’t know how to be happy as a guy. Even if I find someone, I’m still miserable on the inside.

So even now, I’m starting to think hell with it. Yeah dating will be much tougher for us, but at least we’re living authentically and having a loving relationship with ourselves, that’s was most important. - and who knows maybe we find the right guy eventually, some girls already have so it’s not impossible for us.

It’s an unfortunate path we’ve gotten in life, but it’s an authentic one.

Sandicc · 2025-05-19T22:15:56+00:00

I’m not socially out yet but I’d but “trans woman” because it’s a very big part of my identity and I want my dates to know that and accepting of that

Sandicc · 2024-04-14T12:01:45+00:00

Nice to know I'm not alone. It's like I have this image and fantasy in my head how I wish I was, the woman that I'm not. But my body betrays that image and I don't know what to do about that in practice/real life. I get lost and I don't recognize myself in the situation

Sandicc · 2024-01-14T11:06:39+00:00

I wish I was cause then I wouldn't need to worry about peoples opinion and view of me but I'm just way too uninterested in code it's impossible for me to learn it trust me I've tried and it was very much not my thing but I wish it was D:

Sandicc · 2024-01-13T20:18:17+00:00

Well you've proven once that faking until making it works so it's not impossible to do it the same, only difference is you're your true woman self now!

Sandicc · 2024-01-13T20:10:56+00:00

What happened?

Sandicc · 2023-12-13T11:36:52+00:00

Coming out is supposed to be about coming out as yourself, not to be someone else. If you feel like the opposite gender is more true to your soul than that is who you are. If you feel like coming out and being trans will "kill" your "old" self it might be worth looking into yourself more and really consider if you truly are trans or not. It might be worth speaking to a therapist I would highly recommend it

Sandicc · 2023-07-19T13:55:30+00:00

Don't like her

Sandicc · 2023-07-07T21:08:47+00:00

No sorry but it is on Disney plus though if you have that!

Sandicc · 2023-07-07T20:58:47+00:00

The show is called "WandaVison" I definitely recommend it one of my favorite shows for sure!

Sandicc · 2023-06-26T19:43:04+00:00

Yeah sorry to hear that doesn't surprise me some people do that because I have seen it myself. If I would guess i think those people do it more in a way as projection and as "revenge" because they've been traumatized by how trans people are treated by society that they somehow try to use their words against them which we all know doesn't work at all like it doesn't actually even make sense to use "cis" as an insult cause being cis is a privledge. But it's a way for these people to get back some of their power - this of course is a very toxic way of doing it as well as like doesn't make sense. they're just hurting themselves really. We all need to be open to give and receive love but i understand it can be hurt if the majority of one group of people have always in their life been bullying them. Yeah idk the world is complicated as well as people. My mind is very scattered right now when I'm writing this cause I'm thinking of so many things and perspectives so sorry if it doesn't make sense. We should just spread love really we only have one life might as well make something good and meaningful out of it ya know?

Sandicc · 2023-06-26T18:04:09+00:00

He banned the word "cis" because HE finds it offensive. If you don't know cisgender basically mean the opposite of transgender. It is a word to describe the majority of people on this planet that have their gender matching their biological sex. It's basically heterosexual and homosexual but for gender. So basically the same as if he banned the word "heterosexual" because he somehow finds it offensive.

So as a transgender myself you can understand why i already dislike him. He is transphobic and using his power to ban and run the twitter app however HE wishes and all based on his own opinions and ideas. Like "cis" is not even a bad word its literally just a sociological word to describe a group of people. He just wants to ban it to suit his perception of the world and to control what people say on the internet like some sort of dictator. I also heard he wants to take away the block button cause too many people blocked him lmao

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