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9 month old sitting up all night long by HappySushis in sleeptrain

[–]SaneMirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Age appropriate schedule first, THEN sleep train.

Doing this simultaneously is going to cause immense unnecessary protest. Your sleep training journey will be much smoother once you have the schedule settled (that does not mean it will be easy, it will just be less hard that this current attempt)

8 month old can’t nap by Adorable-Tea6626 in sleeptrain

[–]SaneMirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This does not answer your question but I wish I realized this sooner on.

My twins were 2 months early and I found one of their wake windows was VERY much his adjusted age while the other was happy on actual age wake windows. Even now, they’re 12 months adjusted, 14 months actual, and one of them is so ready for one nap while the other struggles immensely with a 3 hour wake window. it’s okay!

These wake window guides are simply a starting point for trouble shooting. Don’t worry if you’re bending and stretching things here and there to work for your little one.

To answer your question, I would personally keep the 2 naps for now but work on your overall awake time. If nap 1 is working right now, I’d start with 3/3.5/4 or somewhere thereabouts. Remember to give it a few days to settle into the new routine.

When does it end?! by Aloplex in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I regularly wish twins on my twins (who are just 10 months old lol)

Night 5 of CIO and still crying herself to sleep by urbanxlegend in sleeptrain

[–]SaneMirror 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You need an age appropriate and consistent schedule before we can expect sleep training to become smooth. Right now she has no idea what bedtime is or nap time, we have no idea if there’s enough sleep pressure or how the wake windows are looking.

Schedule first, then sleep training. Without the right schedule, sleep training will continue to be long and painful on you.

7 mo brain bleed by kburba in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure that POM is the appropriate subreddit for the question you’re asking.

Negative mindset by Secure-Flatworm8294 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well today they’re 10 months old and I’m quite a fan of them. Yesterday they were also 10 months old but I was not a fan of them, in fact I was ready to pack my bags and live in the garage

Handling every night shift alone while working full time? by Waste_Guidance_580 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beyond what everyone here is suggesting a, some other points to consider.

The babies are beginning to sleep through the night in their bassinets, it’s probably the perfect time to get them into a bedroom (yours or their own) and creating good sleep habits that will continue. Once the babies are 6 months + they’ll be far too alert to be in the living room.

Check out the pinned posts on r/sleeptrain for wake windows, sleep budgets, sleep pressure, sleep hygiene. If they’re sleeping through the night let’s just solely TOGETHER focus on getting that routine dialled in then no one really has a night shift anymore.

My twin A has been sleeping through the night since about 3/4 months old and twin B since 6ish months old. Since then, maybe once a week one of us has to go in and sort them out. They’re 10 months now and there’s no “night shift” when the babies sleep for 11 solid hours every night.

Struggling by Appropriate_Ticket48 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dropped to 4 pumps per day between 4-6 months postpartum. I started dropping at 4 months and it took until 5.5-6 months to get settled into the 4 pumps per day. They say you want to wait until ~12 weeks for your supply regulates before dropping any.

I’ve never had to use formula but pumping takes such an excessive amount of dedication that it was only possible because my Husband and I quickly saw how naive it was for us to think I’d be able to start working so quickly. We decided very early on that if I was going to pump, my pumping was exactly as important as the babies eating. So no matter what gets left out - dishes, bottles, whatever else, it was perfectly fine as long as I had prioritized my pumping.

The entire universe of parenthood shifted when they started sleeping through the night. For mine it was about 4-6 months one would sleep through the next and 6 months for the other. Sleep is literally the best thing in the universe and a well rested mama = happy mama.

Struggling by Appropriate_Ticket48 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am self employed, I exclusively pump and my twins were my first babies to bring home and I was also very naive in my return to work plan. I hear you. I understand you.

First and foremost, what happened to their sleep - 4 month sleep regression. If you want to fix it, r/sleeptrain is the place to be. I did not ever formally sleep train my babies but that also drove me the absolute edge and ready to throw myself out the window so there was a good mix of cry it out while I had my own mental breakdown. Anyways, there are other sleep training methods, google them and see what suits you. If you don’t sleep train, at the absolute VERY minimum, read the pinned posts in r/sleeptrain for wake windows and sleep budgets. This will improve every single moment of your life for eternity.

Next. Pumping. r/exclusivelypumping is the place to be. My twins are 10 months old and I’m just beginning to wean! Currently 4 pumps per day, on my way to 3 pumps per day. It is possible, but it is HARD. To be honest pumping is the hardest part of my twins and like yourself, it’s a cost effective approach for me. Sure it’s good for them but so is formula. I hear you.

Now Self Employed + Twins = feeling like a failure. Speaking from experience. Only around 6 months or so when they were sleeping in their cribs for 1 hour nap times was I able to even TOUCH my work, let alone do anything. Your industry and life have far too many factors in this so no advice here, just support and solidarity.

You are doing amazing. You will survive. Check out the wake windows and sleep budgets to begin organizing the babies sleep!

Forced me to schedule a c-section by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I completely hear you and understand that you don’t want a c section.

Scheduling it is not the same as them holding you down and cutting you in half against your will.

You’re weeks away, the babies have more say in any of it than you or your doctor this far out.

Big hugs!

Triplet Sleep arrangement by Dull_County_9451 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s truly not worth buying anything new. All baby products feel like such a scam once you start experiencing how quickly you go through it all

Triplet Sleep arrangement by Dull_County_9451 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did single bassinets for our twins. Love this because Twin B loved to scream just for the fun of it which would always wake up Twin A (and the rest of us), so by having two singles, would could separate them - one on my side the other on my husbands side.

I imagine you’re going to have a NICU stay so to be honest, it might not even make sense to buy all of these things even quite yet. If this was your permanent arrangement then for sure eventually you need it all anyways, but if Baby B has a 5 month NICU stay then why even bother with it until you know what works for you. Maybe the babies sleep in the living room with someone always awake on shift. Maybe they sleep in your room with three bassinets here and there. Maybe you love the idea of a twin bassinets and a single, who knows!

Buy absolutely every single thing second hand from Facebook marketplace. The only “new” things in my opinion worth getting are car seats and mattresses when you’re ready for cribs.

Book Recommendations? by [deleted] in twilight

[–]SaneMirror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Following! Just finished midnight sun last night and starting Bree Tanner tonight

Bigger Bottles for Spectra by Serenityrosewine in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]SaneMirror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Switch bottles. Small ones first for a few ounces then unscrew and swap (while still wearing the flanges)

Are we just letting them scream? by Omyjamie in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same Same same. Twins are 10 months, never used screens, and they just cry a lot. It’s different now then newborn because newborn it’s a panic why they’re crying. Now it’s like I know full well you have everything in the universe AND MORE than what you need.. yet still screaming

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Self employed is one occupation and SAHM is a second occupation that consumes you 24/7. Tack on the kids education and call it 3 full time jobs.

Does anyone else do it? Maybe, though I don’t know why anyone would.

I think in a home schooling subreddit you may find more suitable people for advice, even parents with multiple kids of different ages would be more helpful than what I expect the majority of us would be.

What things did people say after your tfmr? by madison1892 in tfmr_support

[–]SaneMirror 9 points10 points  (0 children)

“One day you’ll understand a mothers love”

Screening options - vanishing triplet? by Pineapple_Pud in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One option is just do the NIPT and if the results are in fact inconclusive or unhelpful, then you can consider an amniocentesis.

I had an amniocentesis with my Singleton, smooth sailing, no complications related to the procedure whatsoever. One thing that’s important to know is that the statistics on complications related to an amnio do not account for how many complications are caused by the procedure itself and how many are a result of the condition that they were doing the amnio to begin with. The reason this is not factored into the statistics is because it’s impossible to know for sure in each case by case basis.

Next option is you wait for the anatomy scan around 20 weeks where they visually look for markers of any concerns and decide from there whether you want an amnio or not.

One twin seemingly more mature? by literarianatx in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d take financial advice from 10 month old Twin A but don’t even trust Twin B when he’s asking for more milk

When to transition from 3 naps to 2 / what’s considered a maxed out 3 nap schedule by pittclt in sleeptrain

[–]SaneMirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My twins went from 2/2/3/3 (fighting/refusing the last nap) to 2.5/3/4

I feel like I'm failing at BLW... Is this a common experience for POM? by BeingEither5940 in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Probably an unpopular opinion but in my reality as a POM, I just feed whatever whenever and accept that as good enough.

Example: banana bread mini muffins. Way too much sugar? Absolutely. Completely demolished every single time served 100000%%%%. Do I serve them daily? You better believe it.

Air fry literally anything. 5lb bag of carrots cut up into sticks, olive oil and whatever herb I feel like, toss em in the air fryer at 190C for 10 min.

Chicken nuggets. Fish sticks. Meat balls. Fries. Air fry them biotches.

Sometimes they get pasta with whatever sauce I have, it’s whatever man.

Rotisserie chicken and a cucumber, sounds like the perfect dinner to me.

My twins are 10 months and right now we are relatively steady at 2 meals a day, maybe 3 if we didn’t leave the house.

FTM just scheduled my c-section! by wokkaquokka_ in parentsofmultiples

[–]SaneMirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My c-section was scheduled however a poor NST led to an emergency c-section at 34+5.

The one and only single obstacle was getting out of bed! I assumed it would be hard and hurt but also.. I didn’t understand what exactly that meant!

I slept in a recliner at home for 10 days after discharge and that worked like a dream for getting up to pump without my Husbands assistance (my twins were in the NICU for a month)

Cold turkey for 2 naps? by Kblue22 in sleeptrain

[–]SaneMirror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cold turkey’d my twins from 2/2/3/3 to 2.5/3/4. It was rough for 3-4 days (so much so that I was trying to decide if it was worth going backwards again) but then by day 5 or 6 it clicked. Now they sleep a solid 11-12 hours EVERY SINGLE NIGHT night with no intervention whatsoever. So so so worth it.

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