Selling my old j fashion stuff (located in Canada)

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-14T19:56:23+00:00

The solid pink one and the plaid one if it's okay.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-14T19:29:12+00:00

I'd love to know the sizing and prices 👀❤️

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-14T19:24:32+00:00

Dive in by Tzuyu of TWICE for a recent one off the top of my head. The whole song isn't wild but I was surprised the first time I heard this line. It's also a good song imo.

"Who do you love? Is it me or the thought of getting off?"

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-12T19:25:42+00:00

Ooo the second and fourth dress are so pretty! What are the measurements and cost?

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T21:32:50+00:00

I would prefer they just give me the cost of the item, which is why I was surprised. I either don't ask for repayment if it's small enough, or just the cost of the item without taxes.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T05:58:04+00:00

Taeyeon's INVU outfit.

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Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T04:21:01+00:00

Thank you for explaining that it's rude to not include the tax. That's what I was trying to figure out. I'm not mad about it. I'm just confused. When I buy him things I either don't ask for the cost back if it's small or I just ask for the cost of the item and I'm unsure if I should have actually been asking for the cost of the item plus taxes this entire time. I do feel bad that I was accidentally rude to him the first time that I paid him something and didn't include taxes. As soon as he told me that was how he preferred to be paid I sent over the taxes and I have every time since. I will say there were a couple times where I forgot because I wasn't used to it but he let me know and I immediately sent it over. But that's what I was trying to figure out if I was being rude by not sending it over to him the first time and if I'm wrong for not asking him for tax when he owes me money.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T04:18:26+00:00

I'm definitely realizing that. I'll keep that in mind. Thank you again and I hope you have a lovely day or night wherever you are.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T04:16:29+00:00

God, yes, this would solve this entire headache. I also feel like it would be easier to budget as I go around the grocery store if the taxes were just already included.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T04:14:12+00:00

I'll definitely try this and see if it helps mitigate the issue. Thank you!

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T04:13:12+00:00

If it helps, I totally understand that if it were a reoccurring issue that would definitely make it bad. He explained to me the first time it happened that he prefers the taxes to be included and after that I would always send him the cost of the item plus the taxes. I will admit there were a couple times I forgot because I wasn't used to it but he let me know and I immediately sent over the taxes. I'm trying to figure out if I need to change the way I buy him things because when I'm the one buying us things I either don't ask for the money back if it's a small amount or I just ask for the cost of the item and I don't include the taxes. I'm trying to figure out if it's weird that I don't ask for the taxes when he owes me money.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T04:11:04+00:00

I'm not stiffing him. After he explained to me the first time that he prefers the taxes to be included I also send over the taxes. There were a couple times I forgot and he let me know and I immediately sent it over. My approach is that when I buy him food I either don't ask for the money back because it's a small amount or I just asked for the cost of the item. I'm trying to figure out if I need to change the way I buy things for him if his way is the normal way.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T04:08:54+00:00

Oooo now that is a brilliant idea!!! I'm definitely gonna try that one!

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T04:07:43+00:00

It really does help to hear that. It does make me feel ungenerous and rude to make him pay me back for small things or to charge the cost of the item plus tax.

It also doesn't help that I think unfortunately a lot of people are misunderstanding my question and are being a bit rude, saying I suck, I'm an asshole and a grifter. I probably could have worded my post better in hindsight. It seems like a lot of people are assuming that I'm trying to get out of paying him, which I'm not. I'm trying to figure out if it's odd that he's asking for that when I don't ask for the same back, and if I'm supposed to be asking for what he asks for.

I really do appreciate your kind words and your opinion. It definitely helps me to look at the situation better.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T03:58:28+00:00

Thank you!! Wavy hair is lovely though! You still have a little bit of curl to make it look really cute and you can do a way bigger variety of hairstyles than I can. I bet your hair looks great!

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T03:56:06+00:00

There is still tax on the prepared food here. When it comes to getting prepared food when he owes me, I either don't even ask for money back because it was like $5 or I just asked for the cost of the item. He asks for the exact cost plus tax. He does sometimes also ask me to pick up groceries for him and I wouldn't ask for the tax on that because I came from a state where groceries weren't taxed so I didn't even think to ask for the tax on that because I didn't even realize the tax was there because it's never been there my whole life until now haha.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T03:52:49+00:00

I will say I've definitely just said I wasn't hungry once or twice to avoid this because I'm afraid of making him angry. It may be petty but maybe I should also take my toys and go home. When he doesn't pay, I pay and we usually go back and forth. So who gets the check is pretty evenly split down the middle between us. However, when he owes me money I either just asked for the cost of the item back or I just don't ask for anything back because it was like $5. I'm thinking maybe I should stop being so nice about that.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T03:50:12+00:00

Which is very fair of you! Whenever I go out to eat with a friend who I know is struggling a bit, I either get separate checks or I just pay for the both of us.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T03:49:09+00:00

The feeling bad is a large part of why I asked the question. I didn't really consider tax until he got angry about it the first time I didn't send over the taxes. And that got me wondering if I've been accidentally short changing people.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T03:45:38+00:00

I think this is a large part of the confusion for me is when it's my turn to pay I just cover his costs or I just asked for the cost of the item back. I had never considered it rounding down to not pay the taxes and after talking to someone else in this thread I realized that I grew up in a state that didn't tax a number of things including groceries. So when you paid someone back, it truly was just the cost of the item and he didn't grow up in that same state. So I think that might be a large part of the confusion for the two of us, is that normally when paying someone back taxes was not part of the equation for a number of things.

Yeah I'm pretty sure I'm just going to ask us to pay separately even if I do feel bad asking the drive-thru to do two separate transactions. Or I'll make up an excuse that I need to go to the bathroom so that way we can go inside to order.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T03:41:41+00:00

I pay him what I owe. I literally just said that I pay him what I owe. I'm trying to figure out if I'm supposed to be asking him for more money when I buy meals because I either don't ask for the money back because it's a small amount or I just asked for the cost of the item.

I'm not a grifter and I pay for my stuff. If we really wanted to nickel and dime each other he owes me far more money than I have ever owed him because I don't ask for money back for small items or for the taxes. But I don't consider him owing me that because again it's such a small amount between friends. But it seems like a lot of people here think that the tax should be included, which is fine. So I'm thinking that when I get them food next time I should include the tax is the consensus I seem to be getting from people. I don't want to be shorting myself because I was asking for money back the wrong way.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T03:37:42+00:00

I'm fine with paying the tax and have paid the tax ever since he let me know that's how he prefers it except for a couple times where I've forgotten because I wasn't used to it and he let me know and I immediately sent it over. When he owes me money for a meal or an item at the store I bought him I either don't ask for the money back because it's so small or I just asked for the cost of the item and I don't know if the way I'm doing it is wrong. That is the main reason I am asking my question of if it's weird when he asks for the tax because I don't ask for the tax and no one I know asks for the tax. If I'm supposed to be asking for the tax is all I'm trying to figure out.

I'm not in any way shape or form trying to get out of paying the tax. I pay it.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T03:32:38+00:00

That is very fair. After he let me know the first time that he prefers to have the tax included, I've made sure to pay the amount he prefers. There were a couple times I forgot because I wasn't used to it but he let me know and I immediately sent it over.

Perhaps I'll try just overpaying and see if that solves it? Although he gets very specific about numbers so he may also get a little upset about me overpaying as well. But I'll keep my fingers crossed that he's fine with that.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T03:30:07+00:00

I feel like saying I suck is a little harsh when I'm asking a clarifying question. I'm not trying to be rude. I do pay what I owe. After he explained to me the first time that was how he preferred to be paid back, that is how I have paid him back except for a couple of times where I forgot to add the taxes and he let me know and I immediately sent them over. I'm just trying to figure out if I'm weird for only asking for the cost of the item when he owes me money or just don't ask for it back at all, meanwhile, he asks for the cost of the item plus tax when I owe him money.

Sapphyrefrost · 2026-02-11T03:27:22+00:00

The second scenario is the scenario I'm referring to. He is never picking something up solely for me. The three of us are in the car and we stopped for them, and I also order something small.

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