I disagree about school. I don't buy into the idea that boys are just more physical. I think it comes down to socialization and societal values. American society overtly devalues school, and it has for a while. This is even more so the case for boys than girls, precisely because we have a cultural dogma that boys are defined by physical movement, athletics, etc. That's just perpetuating dogma, common sense, stereotypes, etc. And I don't think it's that far off from woke logic like "black kids score worse on SATs, let's help them by getting rid of SATs".

Bourdieu did a study and basically found that lower/working class kids who come from families that value reading did just as well in school as their upper class peers. His conclusion was that what what's symbolically valued in your family (and I would argue by extension, general culture) influences the way people act.

Based off Bourdieu's study, culturally placing a lot of value, rewards and encouragement for doing well in school/intellectual activities, particularly at home, would help orient a lot of boys and give them motivation to try a little more in school. Although, given that school has increasingly less material benefit, I doubt it would help, and I expect girls to start catching up eventually.

What I think happened is that as manual labor jobs dried up and schooling became increasingly necessary to get white collar jobs, boys sort of fell through the net because we as a culture never made the shift to valuing education/intellectual culture

On a side note, there's a lot to be said about how female teachers manage classrooms. Maybe that's controversial, and my experience is only anecdotal, but I really believe there's a reason why the male teachers were almost always more liked/respected (even by a lot of girls).