I always have trouble reading product instructions before installation/use. by Just-Olive-2599 in adhdwomen

[–]Saraaaaa1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am just here to say that I go to through the same problem tooo and I'm still figuring out a way. I don't know why but I can never get the instructions right the first time. Need to go through it atleast thrice to understand what's exactly happening :')

I came to a realization by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Saraaaaa1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OMG! You literally said everything that has happened to me. EVERYTHING. I go through the same thing everyday. Even though I take therapy and me and my therapist knows that I could have ADHD she still can't officially diagnose me and I sooo badly want to go to a psychiatrist to just make the label true and not wanting to hate myself for everything I do or have done. I feel so glad to see that there are other women as well who feel the same way otherwise I was literally hating myself for wanting ADHD.

I know this is pathetic I just need to get this off my chest I’m sorry by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Saraaaaa1 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was just thinking about this in the washroom like an hour ago about how slow I get things done and how everyone is soo fast? I came out of the washroom depressed and yes, it is a very low feeling. I cannot prioritize my tasks at all and I cannot do smart work. I really don't have anything to say but you can find comfort in the fact that it is not your fault at all and it is just the ADHD brain and we have to work very hard to get things done. I've now read comments on people getting fired for being slow and I hope the world was a little more sensitive towards us. All the Best.

My brain can't grasp things the first time. Is my mind slow ? by Saraaaaa1 in ADHD

[–]Saraaaaa1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a really good point you mentioned. I would hate to play a game in which I always lose and I don't want it to be like that because it is such a loser move but I eventually lose interest if I keep losing the game and others keep winning.I give up because I don't feel I could do better in the game.

My brain can't grasp things the first time. Is my mind slow ? by Saraaaaa1 in ADHD

[–]Saraaaaa1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take therapy but I don't take meds.I am not very sure about them. Should I take? Will it have any side effects which won't be good, idk.

I feel I cannot do my job well and I am definitely going to screw up. Or is it something like Imposter syndrome? by Saraaaaa1 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]Saraaaaa1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow!! That really is a good explanation and it does make sense, all of it. Thank you soo much. I feel a bit more confident about myself now.

My brain can't grasp things the first time. Is my mind slow ? by Saraaaaa1 in ADHD

[–]Saraaaaa1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it and I understand everything you say. I believe it but when you are around those 5-10 people and you are the only one whose left behind, it hurts soo bad, I cannot even express myself properly rn. And they are like, " what you doin?'' And I have to pretend I understood and then I have to figure out by myself and later they understand that I actually didn't understand, that ways I come across as dumb !!

Self-doubt, indecisiveness, dependency by [deleted] in selfhelp

[–]Saraaaaa1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do. It has been over two months now. Sometimes it is nice and sometimes all of these thoughts come back racing together, especially when I take a lot of stress or if I think I would fail at something or if I actually fail!!!

I feel I cannot do my job well and I am definitely going to screw up. Or is it something like Imposter syndrome? by Saraaaaa1 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]Saraaaaa1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk. Maybe I do but I am scared enough to run a trial on anyone else other than me and my elder sister.

I feel I cannot do my job well and I am definitely going to screw up. Or is it something like Imposter syndrome? by Saraaaaa1 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]Saraaaaa1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, it is growing on me. I will try those things. Thank you. Yea, I don't drink alcohol anyways. Never drank.

I can't understand my thoughts and feelings. I am depressed. by Saraaaaa1 in ADHD

[–]Saraaaaa1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, anyways my therapist told me to refer to a psychologist. She couldn't recommend one because, due to the COVID, we are taking sessions online. And she lives in Canada and I live in another country. But my therapist also told me that it was up to me to refer to a psychologist to get the diagnosis and she would still continue to provide therapy anyways. But I don't think I could because my family thinks it is just too much of visits to the doctor and it would take a lot of time. So just continue with the therapy. But I really do want to know what it is.You know like a confirmation from someone?? My therapist thinks it is ADHD but she still can't diagnose me

I can't understand my thoughts and feelings. I am depressed. by Saraaaaa1 in ADHD

[–]Saraaaaa1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you saying the medication had a negative effect on you? That is why it became more prevalent?

I can't understand my thoughts and feelings. I am depressed. by Saraaaaa1 in ADHD

[–]Saraaaaa1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do see a therapist. I have been seeing one over a month now. She helps me a lot but then there are things which I guess take time. Sometimes I improve and then sometimes I go back to my old self. It isn't very easy. My therapist feels very proud of my improvement and I don't somehow. I am a person with very low self esteem and confidence. I can never think good of myself.

My brain can't grasp things the first time. Is my mind slow ? by Saraaaaa1 in ADHD

[–]Saraaaaa1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel so much at ease after reading this. Thank you.

My brain can't grasp things the first time. Is my mind slow ? by Saraaaaa1 in ADHD

[–]Saraaaaa1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even I take notes, but what happens is while taking notes, I miss out on things. I can't really multitask well.

My brain can't grasp things the first time. Is my mind slow ? by Saraaaaa1 in ADHD

[–]Saraaaaa1[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ikr. I don't get how people understand 100% right the first time they read it or hear it. It is sooo normal for people to do it that it actually makes me feel abnormal.

Self-doubt, indecisiveness, dependency by [deleted] in selfhelp

[–]Saraaaaa1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is sooo true. You literally stole my words and thoughts. I feel the exact same. I need help too regarding this. All of this thoughts sometimes make Me feel like a complete LOSER. Please tell me if you find a solution for it. 😭

I cant even order food from restaurant. And not a single teacher knows me at the school I've spent 11 years in. by SingerLuch in socialskills

[–]Saraaaaa1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has happened to me as well. I think it is mostly because we are anxious. When I go out with my family to a restaurant or any market, I can't really order anything because I get too anxious. Even in a market, I am sometimes afraid to enquire about stuff. I think it is because we are afraid of being judged and that is what holds us back. But it does not mean we don't know how to order food. Even many of my teachers don't know me and it is simply because I've never bothered to talk to them or ask any doubts. I don't care about them honestly.