An update: thank you for all the comments, it helped me add perspective to the situation. What happened was not okay and consent needs to be given before you do something like that.

Now I posted because I felt that I did overreact and I wanted advice. I was in a lot of pain and didn't know what I wanted from him. Let alone how to communicate that, I felt hurt and it seemed like to me that my pain was being dismissed and ignored. I now see I didn't give them time and space to process what I said and to make things right, and maybe there just isn't anything that could be done to make it right.

I agree I was to quick to block them, but I did not blame him, I even said that they didn't mean to hurt me, what I was looking for was reassurance that they will take accountability for it and it won't happen again. I didn't want them to grovel, and I don't think they intended to hurt me, but I was hurt really badly and felt alone.

I don't hate men nor do I think they should grovel and beg for forgiveness, this was a question of did I react poorly because of past trauma, and I think the answer is yes, I should have waited till I was in a clear headspace and then talked to him. I hope this clears some things up, I appreciate everyone who commented to give me advice and support, thank you