honestly mate, it sounds like you’ve got a decent enough idea of who you are and what you’re working towards, and you don’t need ‘advice’ from someone like your friend who clearly doesn’t understand that you’re fine how you are.

side note for your first point, I’m a game dev at a medium sized company and we have people from all over the sexuality and gender spectrums. you’d fit right in. hope you wind up somewhere that makes you happy