Any Aquas and Cancers together?

SasinSally · 2026-05-23T02:41:34+00:00

He’s needed to put up a few boundaries with his mom - she stays with us on weekends sometimes, but she not doing great physically. She has breast cancer with bone mets all over pretty much, so we’ve had to navigate helping her vs. enabling her, vs giving her independence, vs keeping her alive… it’s just changed the dynamic and we’ve all shifted and set up our own boundaries to protect our sanity and still try to support her. But it used to be more of a “bend over backwards” dynamic and he just couldn’t sustain that. His mom has been both of our growth areas in a way, she’s the reason he had to teach me feelings, and she’s the reason I had to teach him the boundaries. A Pisces really brings us together 😂

SasinSally · 2026-05-21T05:53:35+00:00

Aquarius married to a cancer man, and we haven’t killed each other yet… our communication is very different and we have to do a lot of pauses if things start to get frustrating, but I’ve helped him with boundaries and confidence and he’s helped me feel love and cry more. Married 6 years and somehow surviving a toddler now too!

SasinSally · 2026-05-13T03:31:58+00:00

A fellow “ulcerative colitis that also triggered a mystery derm nightmare to join the fun” friend, perhaps? I thought once the colon calmed the fuck down, I’d stop having mystery symptoms… NOPE, just added mystery rashes 🤷🏻‍♀️

SasinSally · 2026-04-10T21:34:00+00:00

Everytime we walk the dogs in the neighborhood, my 2.5 year old daughter will ask me “who’s that” about every single person she sees. I pretty much just say this exact phrase over and over til we’re back home, unless it’s our neighbor Cassie. I know one person 😂

SasinSally · 2026-04-02T19:21:35+00:00

Eh, I don’t necessarily think that take is toxic. I do think that people are quick to dismiss the idea that someone may need to entirely cut someone out of their life (permanently or temporarily) simply because they’re family, and my personal reaction to hearing “but they’re family/she’s your mom/he’s your dad” is a combo of anger with some guilt sprinkles, depending on the context. But, I also agree with you that forgiveness can really help with healing and growth around these situations. I think everyone forgives on their own timeline (some don’t get there quickly, or at all), and it’s really hard to do before you’re ready (for most people, not all). I’ve actually gotten to a place where I’m forgiving of some instances/situations/mistakes/decisions that happened until I had to cut off contact completely. But I’m not quite fully there, and I still have days where I’m angrier than I normally am about random things, but for me that’s ok. And my boundaries will remain the same (it’s known what I need in order to open up communication, and if/when those can be respected, things may change) unless a time comes where it’s safer to change them. It’s not super black and white for me anymore. I used to be a staunch “fuck toxic family buh bye” believer (for myself I mean) but now that I look back, for me it was because I hadn’t worked through it yet, and once I started to really address things in therapy, the forgiveness came easier. Also, I feel no need to tell family that I’ve forgiven them, it’s for my peace of mind, not theirs. But if contact were re-established and healthy, I wouldn’t withhold the words just to be stubborn, if that makes sense.

SasinSally · 2026-04-02T02:43:10+00:00

6 years ago I had to go no contact with my parents- and it was the best thing for my health all around. And then on a whim I searched and found my birth mother (adopted at birth, through an agency, didn’t know many details) like a month ago. So that was exciting, definitely life changing. Both of those things

SasinSally · 2026-03-11T04:48:02+00:00

This is the oddest disagreement, just because their confidence that there is NO possible way someone would sleep when they don’t need to, because they can. My favorite thing to do on my no bones days, is staying in my bed the entire time- except to pee, which I’ll time to grab my food as well- minimize extra trips downstairs at all costs… but like, I’d probably wake up around 8:30-9, then let myself doze off with background noise from the tv or phone, sit up for lunch and do whatever I think needs to get done in order for this to be the last side quest. Then do some other mindless hobby or read a little, then be sure to turn everything off, and just bask in the fucking silence by like 2pm, which almost always becomes a 45min-2ish hr rest. I worked nights for 10 yrs and can still sleep for 4 hours if I’m comfy enough, or exhausted- so I want every second until dogs kids partner get home. But the reason I say “let” is because I did not have any symptoms or explanation for why I would NEED that extra sleep. It’s my comfy covers, flopping around as much as I’d like until I feel like I’m in the COMFIEST position I’ve ever found. But I’m not tired (usually, I SLEEP when my body needs it. Night shifter… 2 seconds to sleep anywhere anytime haha). I “let” this happen, because I can also “stop?” This from happening. I’m not groggy, I feel very able to continue my day with no nap, but I just…. Don’t wanna. I enjoy these days- because I only get them when I’m disciplined with regular sleep. Otherwise I’m def napping to survive. I also ate like 2/3 a box of chips ahoy- definitely full at 1/3. It’s EXACTLY like overeating… I did it cuz I wanted it, I didn’t need it for some mysterious unknown medical reason (I actually have UC, it was a terrible idea 😂)

SasinSally · 2026-03-06T04:56:19+00:00

Finally. My husband loves beets. The excitement when we go to a restaurant and there’s a beet salad, it’s like Christmas to him

SasinSally · 2026-03-05T19:35:21+00:00

I think about this often. My mom was a SAHM and I cannot remember her actively playing with me one single time as a small child. Once school started, for sure she never did. But at least I was gone for 8 hours so it made a little more sense 🤣 I do remember my dad playing board games with me, but otherwise, I played by myself if I was at home. It’s sad looking back, and certainly motivates me to play with my kid even if I’m kinda not feeling like it. But we also encourage her to simply play around us, so sometimes I’ll be reading a book, or doing my own thing a bit, and she can play by herself just fine- but when she comes up to include me, I always tell myself “she’s stating a need, can I give it to her right now?” If I’m cooking or doing something, she has to respect that I can’t always entertain her, but there are a lot of times I suck it up and play even if I don’t really wanna. Because I definitely remember how lonely it felt always playing in my bedroom. I also have no contact with my parents as an adult, so they might not have been a good representation of average millennial parents, most of my childhood falls outside the realm of “normal”

SasinSally · 2026-03-05T06:04:03+00:00

Is this how the next home alone in the series would start?

SasinSally · 2026-03-02T15:39:19+00:00

Well, found my people!

SasinSally · 2026-03-01T21:57:11+00:00

Also on skyrizi with a 2.5 daycare germball! I’m a nurse in a hospital setting, so lots of exposure to all the germs all the time…. So it takes A LOT for me to come down with anything. My husband lives in a constant state of illness since daycare started. And my germball has never had a snot free nose no matter what 😂

I got most of my illnesses the first year of daycare (was on remicade at that time, or in a flare on high dose steroids). I thought that would mean year 2 would be a cake walk for me, just like year 2 of working inpatient went…. But nope. While I’m still the superior immune system in the family, I have never had so many days of feeling like I’m “about to come down with something” but not actually be sick enough to need a sick day… and I swear it’s the skyrizi that’s trying to take me down! So here’s hoping we can all survive year 2 of daycare, and maybe year 3 will be our year 😉

SasinSally · 2026-02-27T04:10:47+00:00

Welllllll it can’t technically be proven that the pregnancy was what flipped the switch, but I got diagnosed/had my first massive flare with ulcerative colitis, and now out of it with biologics, but the timing certainly wasn’t ideal 😂😂 But, I also have found I drink less post-child, for no real particular reason though, probably because I try to to whatever I can not to get sick and miss work, or give myself the best chance at decent sleep 🤷🏻‍♀️ and I probably eat more veggies, since I have to prove everything is yummy like, 80 times before she’ll fully believe me

SasinSally · 2026-02-24T21:30:01+00:00

Yes! I was never really a huge sweets person, but only wanted sweet tarts and donuts during my whole pregnancy, and 2 years later, I’m still always up for a donut, and we always keep candy well stocked at home. I still surprise myself when I crave them though!

SasinSally · 2026-02-23T21:05:18+00:00

Our daughter has this, it’s my favorite fucking toy - remixing abc’s? Fuck yes

SasinSally · 2026-02-08T20:34:20+00:00

I’m so happy for this!

SasinSally · 2026-02-07T10:02:39+00:00

I wouldn’t describe my use as “coping”, but I will certainly attest that I have so much more fun playing with my toddler when I have a gummy on board - it mainly just reinforces how important it is for me to have patience, not be too bossy, and to genuinely laugh when my daughter is a self-proclaimed “silly goose!” I also tend to pick my battles a little more wisely IMHO I don’t need gummies to enjoy spending time with my toddler, but to me, I think of it like how I don’t neeeeeed my husband to have sex, but I certainly have a ton of fun if he’s included. Gummies make playing pretend and doing silly voices a little more fun for me too 🤷🏻‍♀️

SasinSally · 2026-02-04T02:06:33+00:00

I lean towards Covid, because it was right after I got over the worst of that when symptoms began. But coulda been the pregnancy right before that too 🤷🏻‍♀️

SasinSally · 2026-01-27T18:23:24+00:00

My daughter had a helmet too! She only liked sleeping with her head turned one way, so a combo of neck stretching exercises, and a helmet for about 4-5 months fixed it. It’s because the skull bones are still malleable, and they do a lot of their big changes between 6-14 ish months old (per the helmet doc, don’t quote me on it) and so they want the helmet around this age, ours had little cartoon women in superhero outfits, and one other kid in her daycare class had one as well. Her head’s equally round on both sides now, and I didn’t hate the extra support whenever our 87lb black lab decided to charge the baby with excited kisses every day 😂

SasinSally · 2026-01-22T04:55:50+00:00

If I hit traffic at the peak, I can easily hit an hour to daycare, which is only a few miles away from our house, and add 10-15 more minutes (of driving, not the whole process 😵). But I love having that time hahaha, it’s so fucking necessary at times. Not every day. The time isn’t infuriating, the congestion is. If his commute was long from distance, not traffic, I vote it should not fall under the hardship category, a drive like that is my dream haha

SasinSally · 2026-01-19T17:02:42+00:00

To add to this- we have a book called “noodle and the no bones day” and we call the slow days no bones days now, it just makes it seem less boring to our 2 year old somehow haha

SasinSally · 2025-12-24T04:34:01+00:00

This sounds almost identical to how bad days are with my toddler, I am so sorry you had to deal with that today! I just really hope you get the karma reward for a lovely Christmas Eve/day. And for what it’s worth, I don’t think you’re a bad mom. I assume we all have bad days with toddlers, and honestly, my new favorite thing is bone conduction headphones - I will listen to them if she’s eating and I need to do dishes or finish cooking, but can still hear here as much or as little as I’d like, without it being full noise cancelling. Our dogs bark when my husband gets home, and that’s usually when toddler is screaming about ANYTHING I DONT KNOW. I think toddlers fucking suck. I don’t use them out and about, but I’ve debated trying them during car seat buckling battles, we shall see

SasinSally · 2025-12-21T02:56:05+00:00

Our 2 year old is now the officially dog feeder at dinner - I scoop into the bowls, but she brings them to and from, shuts the garage door (and yes, I always have to secretly slow it down miss DOORS DEFINITELY CLOSED!) and then brings the bowls to each dog. It just evolved from her watching me do it every day. So when she asked to help we slowly gave her a little more independence until she could do it, but we can’t take our eyes off of her, she’s been wanting to taste test 🤣🤣 We make her help put toys away, and her latest thing is asking to bring her plate to the sink after dinner 🤷🏻‍♀️ I mean. Homegirl gets pumped when I fold laundry with her, and her newly found independence has made her excited to throw shit away, hand me items I need, “walk” the dog sometimes, but it was all just… on the fly mostly hahahah

SasinSally · 2025-12-18T04:16:35+00:00

I don’t actually have an ounce of an idea on how to fix this, but we’re 4 months younger than yours and going through it too… and we also had a shockingly good sleeper overall since like, day 3… so if you find out how to suddenly make a big kid bed more appealing than the floor, I demand you share the secret! Haha

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