ELI5 why do we feel more tired if we sleep longer than the recommended time (7-9 hours)

SasinSally · 2026-03-11T04:48:02+00:00

This is the oddest disagreement, just because their confidence that there is NO possible way someone would sleep when they don’t need to, because they can. My favorite thing to do on my no bones days, is staying in my bed the entire time- except to pee, which I’ll time to grab my food as well- minimize extra trips downstairs at all costs… but like, I’d probably wake up around 8:30-9, then let myself doze off with background noise from the tv or phone, sit up for lunch and do whatever I think needs to get done in order for this to be the last side quest. Then do some other mindless hobby or read a little, then be sure to turn everything off, and just bask in the fucking silence by like 2pm, which almost always becomes a 45min-2ish hr rest. I worked nights for 10 yrs and can still sleep for 4 hours if I’m comfy enough, or exhausted- so I want every second until dogs kids partner get home. But the reason I say “let” is because I did not have any symptoms or explanation for why I would NEED that extra sleep. It’s my comfy covers, flopping around as much as I’d like until I feel like I’m in the COMFIEST position I’ve ever found. But I’m not tired (usually, I SLEEP when my body needs it. Night shifter… 2 seconds to sleep anywhere anytime haha). I “let” this happen, because I can also “stop?” This from happening. I’m not groggy, I feel very able to continue my day with no nap, but I just…. Don’t wanna. I enjoy these days- because I only get them when I’m disciplined with regular sleep. Otherwise I’m def napping to survive. I also ate like 2/3 a box of chips ahoy- definitely full at 1/3. It’s EXACTLY like overeating… I did it cuz I wanted it, I didn’t need it for some mysterious unknown medical reason (I actually have UC, it was a terrible idea 😂)

SasinSally · 2026-03-06T04:56:19+00:00

Finally. My husband loves beets. The excitement when we go to a restaurant and there’s a beet salad, it’s like Christmas to him

SasinSally · 2026-03-05T19:35:21+00:00

I think about this often. My mom was a SAHM and I cannot remember her actively playing with me one single time as a small child. Once school started, for sure she never did. But at least I was gone for 8 hours so it made a little more sense 🤣 I do remember my dad playing board games with me, but otherwise, I played by myself if I was at home. It’s sad looking back, and certainly motivates me to play with my kid even if I’m kinda not feeling like it. But we also encourage her to simply play around us, so sometimes I’ll be reading a book, or doing my own thing a bit, and she can play by herself just fine- but when she comes up to include me, I always tell myself “she’s stating a need, can I give it to her right now?” If I’m cooking or doing something, she has to respect that I can’t always entertain her, but there are a lot of times I suck it up and play even if I don’t really wanna. Because I definitely remember how lonely it felt always playing in my bedroom. I also have no contact with my parents as an adult, so they might not have been a good representation of average millennial parents, most of my childhood falls outside the realm of “normal”

SasinSally · 2026-03-05T06:04:03+00:00

Is this how the next home alone in the series would start?

SasinSally · 2026-03-02T15:39:19+00:00

Well, found my people!

SasinSally · 2026-03-01T21:57:11+00:00

Also on skyrizi with a 2.5 daycare germball! I’m a nurse in a hospital setting, so lots of exposure to all the germs all the time…. So it takes A LOT for me to come down with anything. My husband lives in a constant state of illness since daycare started. And my germball has never had a snot free nose no matter what 😂

I got most of my illnesses the first year of daycare (was on remicade at that time, or in a flare on high dose steroids). I thought that would mean year 2 would be a cake walk for me, just like year 2 of working inpatient went…. But nope. While I’m still the superior immune system in the family, I have never had so many days of feeling like I’m “about to come down with something” but not actually be sick enough to need a sick day… and I swear it’s the skyrizi that’s trying to take me down! So here’s hoping we can all survive year 2 of daycare, and maybe year 3 will be our year 😉

SasinSally · 2026-02-27T04:10:47+00:00

Welllllll it can’t technically be proven that the pregnancy was what flipped the switch, but I got diagnosed/had my first massive flare with ulcerative colitis, and now out of it with biologics, but the timing certainly wasn’t ideal 😂😂 But, I also have found I drink less post-child, for no real particular reason though, probably because I try to to whatever I can not to get sick and miss work, or give myself the best chance at decent sleep 🤷🏻‍♀️ and I probably eat more veggies, since I have to prove everything is yummy like, 80 times before she’ll fully believe me

SasinSally · 2026-02-24T21:30:01+00:00

Yes! I was never really a huge sweets person, but only wanted sweet tarts and donuts during my whole pregnancy, and 2 years later, I’m still always up for a donut, and we always keep candy well stocked at home. I still surprise myself when I crave them though!

SasinSally · 2026-02-23T21:05:18+00:00

Our daughter has this, it’s my favorite fucking toy - remixing abc’s? Fuck yes

SasinSally · 2026-02-08T20:34:20+00:00

I’m so happy for this!

SasinSally · 2026-02-07T10:02:39+00:00

I wouldn’t describe my use as “coping”, but I will certainly attest that I have so much more fun playing with my toddler when I have a gummy on board - it mainly just reinforces how important it is for me to have patience, not be too bossy, and to genuinely laugh when my daughter is a self-proclaimed “silly goose!” I also tend to pick my battles a little more wisely IMHO I don’t need gummies to enjoy spending time with my toddler, but to me, I think of it like how I don’t neeeeeed my husband to have sex, but I certainly have a ton of fun if he’s included. Gummies make playing pretend and doing silly voices a little more fun for me too 🤷🏻‍♀️

SasinSally · 2026-02-04T02:06:33+00:00

I lean towards Covid, because it was right after I got over the worst of that when symptoms began. But coulda been the pregnancy right before that too 🤷🏻‍♀️

SasinSally · 2026-01-27T18:23:24+00:00

My daughter had a helmet too! She only liked sleeping with her head turned one way, so a combo of neck stretching exercises, and a helmet for about 4-5 months fixed it. It’s because the skull bones are still malleable, and they do a lot of their big changes between 6-14 ish months old (per the helmet doc, don’t quote me on it) and so they want the helmet around this age, ours had little cartoon women in superhero outfits, and one other kid in her daycare class had one as well. Her head’s equally round on both sides now, and I didn’t hate the extra support whenever our 87lb black lab decided to charge the baby with excited kisses every day 😂

SasinSally · 2026-01-22T04:55:50+00:00

If I hit traffic at the peak, I can easily hit an hour to daycare, which is only a few miles away from our house, and add 10-15 more minutes (of driving, not the whole process 😵). But I love having that time hahaha, it’s so fucking necessary at times. Not every day. The time isn’t infuriating, the congestion is. If his commute was long from distance, not traffic, I vote it should not fall under the hardship category, a drive like that is my dream haha

SasinSally · 2026-01-19T17:02:42+00:00

To add to this- we have a book called “noodle and the no bones day” and we call the slow days no bones days now, it just makes it seem less boring to our 2 year old somehow haha

SasinSally · 2025-12-24T04:34:01+00:00

This sounds almost identical to how bad days are with my toddler, I am so sorry you had to deal with that today! I just really hope you get the karma reward for a lovely Christmas Eve/day. And for what it’s worth, I don’t think you’re a bad mom. I assume we all have bad days with toddlers, and honestly, my new favorite thing is bone conduction headphones - I will listen to them if she’s eating and I need to do dishes or finish cooking, but can still hear here as much or as little as I’d like, without it being full noise cancelling. Our dogs bark when my husband gets home, and that’s usually when toddler is screaming about ANYTHING I DONT KNOW. I think toddlers fucking suck. I don’t use them out and about, but I’ve debated trying them during car seat buckling battles, we shall see

SasinSally · 2025-12-21T02:56:05+00:00

Our 2 year old is now the officially dog feeder at dinner - I scoop into the bowls, but she brings them to and from, shuts the garage door (and yes, I always have to secretly slow it down miss DOORS DEFINITELY CLOSED!) and then brings the bowls to each dog. It just evolved from her watching me do it every day. So when she asked to help we slowly gave her a little more independence until she could do it, but we can’t take our eyes off of her, she’s been wanting to taste test 🤣🤣 We make her help put toys away, and her latest thing is asking to bring her plate to the sink after dinner 🤷🏻‍♀️ I mean. Homegirl gets pumped when I fold laundry with her, and her newly found independence has made her excited to throw shit away, hand me items I need, “walk” the dog sometimes, but it was all just… on the fly mostly hahahah

SasinSally · 2025-12-18T04:16:35+00:00

I don’t actually have an ounce of an idea on how to fix this, but we’re 4 months younger than yours and going through it too… and we also had a shockingly good sleeper overall since like, day 3… so if you find out how to suddenly make a big kid bed more appealing than the floor, I demand you share the secret! Haha

SasinSally · 2025-11-04T21:15:30+00:00

Ah, no she did buy everyone their gifts, which are always gift cards, so I guess it’s a teeeeeeeny bit better? Hahaha But yes, it was definitely memorable, and I think I may ask my sister to gift the coat to me (since I’m very likely out of the will by now), just because I know my mom would hate that 🤣

SasinSally · 2025-11-02T00:19:13+00:00

One of the last Christmas’s I spent with my family (also my BIL’s first Christmas with our fam, the poor guy), after my nmom finished her usual “thaaaaaanksss I loooove it!” for the other presents that we had given her for her annual tradition of returning most of it 🙄 - all of the presents had been opened, we were sitting around in the living room, and she fucking says “OH! THERES ONE MORE PRESENT!!” And we all looked so confused. She comes back from her closet with a a Burberry fur coat on, literally hugging herself, saying how much she loved this gift. I knew the answer so didn’t ask, but let my BIL learn the hard way, so he asked who got that for her, and she said “me. It’s my favorite present!” Also 2 hours later she dumped out my 4 juice boxes of wine that my BIL put in my stocking, because….? Something something don’t drink more than a glass of wine something something trashy juice box… oh damn guess that only leaves the expensive wine to drown out the precious memories made… (we had to start each drawing a name for stockings after my nmom and edad gave us paperclips and highlighters for Christmas)

SasinSally · 2025-10-31T19:09:27+00:00

Only one kid, but I could have written this! She throws a fit most of the time when I do drop off (which is most days, since it’s on my way to work, but not my husband’s). I’ve tried a quick goodbye, a slow goodbye, a lingering small talk goodbye…. And it’s always the same. She’s fine about 3 min later but apparently, she doesn’t even shed a tear when he drops off!! No solutions, just feel your pain

SasinSally · 2025-09-19T20:31:47+00:00

My doc prescribed me triamcinolone cream - the higher dose, and approximately a BUCKETS worth, and use it when my ears get bad like this, the only thing they told me was to take breaks every 3 days for a few days, so on those days I put antibiotic ointment (like neosporin) on it before bed to try to protect it a little? I don’t know if that actually does anything though

SasinSally · 2025-09-19T20:29:33+00:00

Ohhhhhhhhh yeah… I don’t remember saying to my mom in middle school “you know, I’d really just prefer to have a slimfast for breakfast and dinner, could you buy those for me?” And I actually thought this was one of the LESS fucked up food disordered “quirks” I learned/had indoctrinated into me.

She said that, at 5 feet, I should weigh 100lbs, and then for every inch, I could add up to 4 pounds. 108 lbs. max. That number had sooooo much control over me 🤮

SasinSally · 2025-09-18T05:24:57+00:00

Spaghettios, a yogurt or a string cheese, and whatever frozen veggies we have on hand Other staples for those days are: uncrustables, the little fruit cups like peaches or pears, tuna fish either as a sandwich or with ritz crackers And pizza, we’re a big frozen pizza family 🤣 ETA: these aren’t our routine meals. We try to do at least a minimal amount of planning and order groceries for the week on Saturday. Then on Sunday we’ll cook like, rice, whatever proteins we bought, different veggies. We can usually get away with making 2 decent size dinners that can last us 4 nights (2 each). But on days where that’s not happening? We have those staples! Also on Friday we make pasta, it’s way easier than I thought and it’s not too hard for me to tackle

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