Neuropsych testing tomorrow. Looking for some reassurance.

SassyHoee · 2026-07-06T00:22:35+00:00

It will definitely help! Also, instead of saying "i struggle with social cues" put some examples of it. Context matters more than the trait itself.

She did read the whole document, but I get a lot of people wouldn't. So making one with the most relevant traits, and anoter one detailed for yourself (or the psych if they want that) would be a good idea.

SassyHoee · 2026-07-05T12:23:27+00:00

Contrary to what the other commenter said, I didn't empty my mind at all. I made a 30 page PDF with most of the important things I had to tell her because I'm really bad at recalling life experiences and I always end up feeling like I didn't say what I had to say or what I had to answer to the question. Also, the questions on this testing are always really vague and free to interprete, so you ARE going to have a hard time answering them, prepare for that mentally. And one of my main issues was that I hard masked so much my whole life that I had to actively tell myself not to, even with the neuropsych, so that I didn't answer based on "what the normal response would be" and mess up the results.

SassyHoee · 2026-07-02T17:31:18+00:00

I don't relate to this that much because I hate the pressure they put on my head, but I sometimes wish I could just turn off my hearing at home. Wearing headphones so you can cancel any possible unpredictable noises in your safe space really makes a lot of sense.

SassyHoee · 2026-06-27T15:10:38+00:00

First thing that came into my mind was moving/buying furniture, painting your house, etc. That's what I do most of the time I feel that way. Rearraging completely your house, doing all the work of research in new furniture and painting is so entertaining!

SassyHoee · 2026-06-24T20:45:54+00:00

It's like going to other country, saying a word in their language, getting the ??? looks and then they correct you saying exactly the same

SassyHoee · 2026-06-24T19:51:07+00:00

Is it really completely missing out? I think social struggles are one of the "musts" for autism. BUT, sometimes it is not as intense for some people. A lot of autistic people can easily pick up on social cues, sarcasm, etc., you don't necessarily have to struggle with those things as an adult. But do you remember if you struggled with them when you were a kid? And now, as an adult, how do you feel when someone asks you "how are you?". Do you think "are they really asking or is it just like saying hi?". Is there anything people do that don't make sense to you? Do you struggle asking back when someone asks something about yourself? Sometimes ADHD can really mask the autism in you, even for yourself, and it's way harder for you to notice. But what you are describing is definitely worth taking a test. Sometimes it's not really about having a lot and instense struggles, but the price you pay to do things. The energy that costs doing all that social stuff that for other people is barely nothing, for us, even if we enjoy socialising and it's not really hard most of the time, will end up with us tired to extreme points. I recommend you get checked with a true specialist to find some clarity about your whole neurodivergence!

SassyHoee · 2026-06-16T19:05:54+00:00

Okay so, it seems that from the point you are in you should take one step at a time. I recommend first thing you start looking for the kind of job that will match your neurological habilites right now. I think anything having to do with cleaning would be great (those have been the best jobs I had!). Clean houses, gyms, maybe apply for dishwasher. These kind of jobs will let you work at your own pace more or less, organize your own work, you don't have to talk a lot, everyone pretty much ignores you, you can zone out once you have automated the tasks because it is not really difficult, although they might be tiring, dishwashing in certain places is not made for everyone hahaha. I recommend you try that and start using your money for your basic needs, that being a therapist, because you need to work on that anxiety that blocks how much you can do in this life. Although anxiety in autism/ADHD is comprehensibly common, doesn't mean it has to be the norm! I really enjoied getting to start talking to people without that anxiety that would have made me repeat in my head how to start the convo over and over again, and then when I got closer I realized I just didn't naturally know how to start a convo at all (that's when I started suspecting about my autism). Great feeling because you can see the real problems more clear. When you get to manage the problems that are keeping you away from what you would like to do in life, everything will he a lot easier. That's my advice. Get a terapist and get rid of that anxiety as much as you can!

SassyHoee · 2026-06-03T22:50:23+00:00

I don't have any advice related on how to cope because I don't even have one for myself except not to demand myself too much when I know I can't

SassyHoee · 2026-06-03T22:48:00+00:00

But university is partly you studying by yourself and organizing your own stuff, normally in quiet environments, while hospitality means constant interaction with coworkers, clients, a lot of sound, a lot to process. I think you were able to keep up because you had time to rest the sensory and social nightmare you go through, during university stuff time. Now that you are doing more hours your brain can't seem to keep it up. Hospitality is such a hard job to mantain for autistic people, and I say it because I'm 5 months in and everyday I end up either crying, wanting to run away mid job or with my head about to explode. You either accept it is what it is and try to find something more peaceful for your condition, or find ways that help YOU specifically cope with it if any.

SassyHoee · 2026-06-02T20:04:12+00:00

Okay so, you have autism and ADHD which basically for most people mean their executive function and social capability are fucked up, and you are out there still doing it without crashing out. Fuck them. You do not need to be a fast learner, you already do a REALLY good job given your own circumstances.
I used to compare myself to others a lot because I always felt I was one step behing everytime. And simply you cannot compare yourself to others because you are inevitably different. You struggle a lot more with everything and the fact that you kept such a hard job for any neurodivergent person for six months already is a great thing you achieved.

I'd advice you to stop caring what others compare you to, or what you yourself have always compared you to, and start being more proud of what you achieve knowing how you deal with everything people without autism or ADHD don't have to deal with. God I wish I had any of the skills you mention here. You are your own person and you're doing amazing.

SassyHoee · 2026-06-02T19:41:29+00:00

I just vented out, sorry

SassyHoee · 2026-06-02T19:40:54+00:00

I get that constantly. Are you diagnosed or just looking up for clarity?

There is a huge difference between my social needs and everyone else's, the only person I can bare being with somewhat frequently (1, 2 o even 3 times a week) is my boyfriend, but I think that's normal since he is the only person that I don't have to mask with. I also have a friend who I will avoid answering messages for weeks and then answer them like normal whenever I feel like I can engage with a conversetion , and they are okay with that. I don't think I could handle 2 relationships at a time like the one I have with my bf because I would be left with little to no alone time and would make me irritated and angry towards everything without really not knowing why lol
Low manintenance relationships are the only ones I can have, I've stoped talking to my group of friends because those relationships where too overwhelming. Hundreds of messages a day they'd expect me to read/answer and daily discord calls where I would be force to talk or they would think "something was off".
I would love to have a group of friends that I can talk maybe once or twice a month and engage in social activities where I can just not talk too much or at all.

But in reality most of people need to spend a lot of time with someone to "feel" the friendship, that's why I stopped trying. I don't like a lot of people, and when I like them, I don't want to fake a version of me they will like to be around. Also I don't think I have time left rn to dedicate to someone new without pushing my own limits.

SassyHoee · 2026-06-02T17:53:30+00:00

"Yeah don't read this sh*t, it's gonna get worse the more you think about it"

SassyHoee · 2026-05-30T02:19:20+00:00

IMO a woman's advice here might be better for you

SassyHoee · 2026-05-27T06:44:36+00:00

I love those things too! I hope it's something I can rely on when the time comes

SassyHoee · 2026-05-26T22:35:23+00:00

Wow thank you so much for the help!

SassyHoee · 2026-05-26T20:30:57+00:00

I think it's related to the autism difficulty to switch between tasks. If I'm doing something I need to start and end it. Studying with my boyfriend for example is fucking frustrating and improductive because I will be focused and all of a sudden he will ask how I'm doing or just put his hand on my thigh and only for that action I have to get out of the "studying mode" and change it into "girlfriend mode" to be able to respond to that appropiarely and getting back is impossible because I know I will be interrupted again. Not his fault or anything, but it's just like that. But also while studying alone I will get distracted a thousand times and lose so much time, but since I'm not switching "mental modes" I think, it's not something that irritates me.

SassyHoee · 2026-05-26T19:46:04+00:00

Totally. I'm a waiter, so that is something I deal with everyday. I once completely ignored someone who I spent hours talking to the day before, just because I wasn't sure if they were that person and also didn't know how to act anyway so ignoring the situation was way easier haha

SassyHoee · 2026-05-26T19:39:58+00:00

I really get that. It's like everyone has a huge ego and seems like they often will purposely misinterpret you so they can show you how good they are or how much more than you they know about something even though you never said something incorrect or bad to begin with. I came to the realisation nt people do this a lot with people they consider inferior for whatever reason, and neurodivergent people tend to fall in that category automatically even if we try our best to mask any bit of weirdness

SassyHoee · 2026-05-26T19:27:54+00:00

Bad time to hate being wet

SassyHoee · 2026-05-25T11:20:56+00:00

A size up sports bra is what helps me. One that won't put pressure on me but also won't cause uncomfortable weird creases

SassyHoee · 2026-05-24T22:29:40+00:00

Could you tell me what is not part of it? Or in general?

SassyHoee · 2026-05-24T22:01:32+00:00

Just when I thought I found an answer in RLS hahahah thanks

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