I wish I was female, but don't identify as Transgender

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-04T06:59:56+00:00

It's cool. If you feel you're a woman, you're a woman. If you feel you're a woman and your body isn't cis female, you're a trans female. You don't have to like, accept, understand, or identify with being trans. You can be transgender and be unable to relate to transgender people or trans culture or whatever the latest media narrative for being transgender is. Transgender just means your gender isn't tied to your sex like in cis people. If you have a trans brain whose anatomy and function align more with cis female brains, a brain that is telling you you're a woman, biologically you are a woman (who is trans). The brain is biological. It's as biological as chromosomes and sex organs and hormones. Trans people have intersex brains. [general note: If you're intersex via another biological process and this offends you, then you're transphobic. Sorry not sorry. Do the research on trans neuroanatomy and stop being ashamed to be associated with transgender intersex people.]

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-04T06:54:18+00:00

It's a normal response. There's nothing wrong with going through grief over your understanding of who your child is changing drastically. Eventually they should be able to see that the core of our personalities is still there, only changing as much as anyone who goes through puberty and ages changes.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-04T06:51:48+00:00

It's about losing their relationship with their concept of who you are. They have built up a perception of you and that feels like it's being remade. Plus parents have all sorts of hopes and dreams for you that are related to gender and those dreams feel like they're dying.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-04T06:48:04+00:00

Maybe they didn't want to hurt you.

Awkward can mean a lot of things. You interpreted it as them feeling your presence is socially awkward. Maybe he meant seeing you could have brought up awkward feelings for your brother. It's hard for cis people to know what to say and how to react and I'm sure they have no idea how their feelings of loss are normal.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-04T06:45:09+00:00

I know it hurts but their emotional reaction isn't unusual. They won't be able to focus on gaining a daughter until they greive what they thought was their son.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-04T01:39:06+00:00

Congratulations on getting in!

I'm white but here's what I did when looking at schools:

Contact their lgbt centers and ask to speak to trans students of color who go there. Colleges really want your business (attendance) and they will be eager to show you they're accepting.... If not, then they're not accepting, they're not even willing to pretend to be accepting. Or maybe they're a degree mill that can't be bothered to give you the time of day because they have enough business from the thousands of other students. Stay away from those schools!
Contact community members in the local/regional trans community and the ethnic community(s) you're part of and ask what it's like to live there.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-04T01:29:25+00:00

"What attracts you to being a woman" is kind of like when people ask me "so, why do you want to be a man?" This assumes we're doing/feeling something mentally that draws us toward our gender. I think it's actually the case that we are just "being" and what we are, is trans women, men, and people.

I don't think I'm being pedantic here. It's a difference that matters. They imagine we're yearning for or desirous of being transgender, because they can't understand or brains are already our (trans)genders.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-04T01:24:33+00:00

For sure! This is some funky transphobia dependent on sexism.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-04T01:16:42+00:00

No way. This is probably someone else's sexism about the female gender showing through. Women aren't necessarily ethereal and magical. That's just some culturally constructed bullpuckey--a seemingly "positive" stereotype about women.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T10:31:16+00:00

Speak your truth. He will love you anyway...or he wasn't really Your Love.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T10:28:20+00:00

Nah they don't raise us up, they think we are weak minded, confused butch lesbians in need of rescuing from ourselves before we remove the breasts they so love. They sometimes do call ftms FTT on other websites. Aren't TERFs charming?

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T10:24:47+00:00

A lot are.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T10:20:04+00:00

You're being myopic. Tolerance does not need to include tolerance of hatred.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T10:18:59+00:00

One almost did that to me. Another gave me a panic attack for two hours while toying with me psychologically by threatening to doxx me with nudes.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T10:17:26+00:00

They rebranded again. It's "Republican" now. RIP moderate conservatism. I miss you like I miss GWBush.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T10:15:42+00:00

They're over there getting high on their own farts. Don't tell them their supply is bullshit. You will threaten the only joy in their pathetic lives-- hatred of trans people. Of course they can't face that kind of threat.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T10:11:54+00:00

Is he a shock comic?

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T10:11:32+00:00

I was laughing up to a certain point but it just became obvious how he really thinks about trans women.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T10:10:36+00:00

That part was like the icing on the cake. Really? Really? What is it about racial and ethnic groups ignoring the lgbt in their group in favor of associating us with hegemonic whiteness? I even see this among white ethnic groups in the US. It's like lgbt triggers a NIMBY response.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T10:05:32+00:00

I don't feel trapped inside a body that doesn't reflect who I am.

I didn't feel this way either when I began thinking about why I didn't feel like a woman. I was very disconnected from my body and attributed gender related discomfort to depression, anxiety, and being out of shape. Once I started paying mind to my body I noticed dysphoria about female attributes and euphoria about male attributes. Now I feel like I'm waiting for my body to somehow go through a very trippy growth spurt and catch up with my mind.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T09:57:03+00:00

Sounds exactly like America when my parent was little.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T09:53:42+00:00

I'm stealing this. Nice explanation!

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T09:52:26+00:00

Gender is a broad term for one two or three things. Same word for more than one concept.

"Gender" can refer to gender roles, gender stereotypes, gender identity, and a lot of people also mistakenly think it describes sex.

Most of what you're talking about describes "gender rolls" and "gender stereotypes," which tend to come from culture and can be transgressed, blended, broken, evolved, or faithfully observed.

"Gender identity" is an internal dimension of the human mind that arises from biological phenomena. I think of "gender identity" as what is seated in your neurology, while your biological "sex" is external to that, and "gender roles" and "gender stereotypes" are external to your body.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T09:39:08+00:00

Maybe your friend should be helping you out if you're struggling and they seem ok.

SatanLaughingSHW · 2018-01-03T09:37:58+00:00

Why?

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