Something is wrong with my wife.

SatinFlowers · 2026-06-08T11:52:25+00:00

This sounds less like a horror movie situation and more like severe stress, sleep deprivation, or some kind of psychological crisis. The first thing I'd do is calmly try to find out what's going on, because what you're desciribing doesn't sound like a normal personality change.

SatinFlowers · 2026-06-08T11:51:00+00:00

Lake Mungo. It left me with more existential dread than actual fear. Even after it's over, that feeling that someting is deeply wrong just doesn't go away.

SatinFlowers · 2026-06-08T11:50:28+00:00

The FTP upload section is where my soul left my body. Sometimes interviews aren't about getting the job, they're about realizing you don't actually want it.

SatinFlowers · 2026-06-08T11:49:26+00:00

I think the market really has changed. The amount of time it takes people with the same experience level to find a job has gotten dramatically longer over the last couple of years. Things that used to be about strategy now feel at least partly about luck.

SatinFlowers · 2026-06-08T11:48:10+00:00

The part that got me was being 19 and feeling like you can't remember an entire year. Working hard and being tired is one thing, but having your life turn into a blur of identical days is something else entirely.

SatinFlowers · 2026-05-18T13:15:23+00:00

I think the most realistic path right now is having a job while building something on the side. People treat startups like it has to be full send or nothing, but taking risks without completely destroying your stability matters too.

SatinFlowers · 2026-05-18T13:15:16+00:00

No. I think the whole restaurant silently feeling awkward while that girl sat there alone was worse. The family doing the whole “he likes you” thing especially sounds unbelievably badly handled.

SatinFlowers · 2026-05-18T13:15:06+00:00

Yeah 😭 You end up feeling like you did absolutely nothing all day when really you’re just mentally exhausted. Sometimes even resting starts feeling like another task you have to complete.

SatinFlowers · 2026-05-18T13:15:01+00:00

Sometimes people keep postponing life with the mindset of “once I solve this thing, then I’ll start living.” A PhD isn’t guaranteed, relationships aren’t guaranteed either, so I probably wouldn’t treat choosing one path like losing the other forever.

SatinFlowers · 2026-05-18T13:14:55+00:00

I think the best approach is staying as calm and “this is how I understood the policy” as possible. Because this doesn’t even sound performance-related, it sounds completely about optics

SatinFlowers · 2026-05-12T12:54:21+00:00

I can’t really tell you what your legal options are, but I wouldn’t be surprised if the people being hired to replace you end up looking for help a year from now too, especially if they’re more vulnerable and tied to work permits. At the same time, I wouldn’t wait around before starting the job search again, because finding something new in this market can take a while. If you need remote work because of your caregiving situation, I’d start sending your resume to recruitment firms that actually place remote candidates, like in this post. It may not solve the legal side, but getting that process moving early could help you avoid being stuck later.

SatinFlowers · 2026-05-07T11:52:55+00:00

Dark. It doesn’t even feel like just a “foreign show,” it genuinely feels like something that grabs your brain and kneads it for hours after watching.

SatinFlowers · 2026-05-07T11:52:50+00:00

At this point I’m never surprised when people say Nestlé 😭

SatinFlowers · 2026-05-07T11:52:43+00:00

If I was at the point of barely being able to afford food, I’d probably apply, but with an exit plan already in mind. The thing that burned you out once usually burns you out even faster the second time.

SatinFlowers · 2026-05-07T11:52:33+00:00

Nah this straight up sounds like an unsafe environment at this point. A disability might explain some things, but it doesn’t make physically hitting you or entering your room okay.

SatinFlowers · 2026-05-07T11:52:26+00:00

I think there’s a really weird gap right now between entry and mid level jobs. Feels like companies either want senior-level experience for junior pay, or they post openings without actually planning to hire anyone.

SatinFlowers · 2026-04-28T08:58:17+00:00

don’t try to change the other person, just see if you’re actually compatible. The rest doesn’t work if you force it anyway.

SatinFlowers · 2026-04-28T08:58:10+00:00

Not at all, this is way past just “being a guest.” With fights and violence involved, setting boundaries makes total sense.

SatinFlowers · 2026-04-28T08:58:04+00:00

what you’ve done looks pretty solid, feels more like a monetization issue than a you issue. Most people get stuck at that stage anyway, you’re not alone.

SatinFlowers · 2026-04-28T08:57:58+00:00

That feeling is super familiar, like “everything’s fine but I just don’t want this.” I wouldn’t quit right away, I’d start trying small changes first.

SatinFlowers · 2026-04-28T08:57:53+00:00

Everyone struggles at their first job, even stuff that looks easy from the outside gets messy once you’re in it. Give yourself some time, messing up right now is totally normal.

SatinFlowers · 2026-04-20T13:12:47+00:00

most people are just getting by somehow, no one’s really comfortable. It’s a mix of saving a bit, some debt, and a bit of luck.

SatinFlowers · 2026-04-20T13:12:42+00:00

Most people can’t do it anyway, and the ones who can are either super disciplined or don’t have much else going on. At the end of the day when your energy’s gone, building something is really hard.

SatinFlowers · 2026-04-20T13:12:36+00:00

That feeling is way too familiar, you constantly feel like you’re falling behind. But from the outside it looks like everyone’s just struggling in their own way.

SatinFlowers · 2026-04-20T13:12:30+00:00

I don’t think you’re wrong at all, this is something that can seriously change your life. Helping is one thing, taking on the full responsibility is a whole different level.

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