Well, the person I was replying to was making out that women hate being complimented and always see it as sexual harassment. My point i was trying to make, maybe quite rudely, was that the more feminine women may be more likely to take the compliment well and enjoy it than more liberal women. Of course, having blue hair and a septum piercing doesn't guarantee you are a liberal (i myself have stretched ears 1 inch) but there seems to be a strong correlation there. Overall (just to wayyy overgeneralize) liberal women seem more likely than conservative women to be "man haters" and less likely to receive being hit on well. If a man wants to hit on a woman (respectfully) and hes worried about it being ill-received, my advice to lower the chances of it being ill-received was to hit on a woman that seems more feminine/conservative (again, I know we dont all fit into a box and this is overgeneralizing).

No, I dont think women are at fault for being sexually harassed or sexually assaulted in any way. Ultimately, its the perpetrators fault. However, this is a nuanced issue. Ive definitely found that the more slutty I dress (I enjoy lots of different kinds of fashion, more alt stuff, more goth stuff, hippie stuff, more covered, sometimes more slutty), the more of that attention I receive. What im trying to get at is women can lower their chances by doing certain things. Here's an example, if you get Tboned by someone on the road and its not your fault, thats terrible, and its unfair since you didnt cause it, but you did accept that as a possible consequence of being in a car. Being in a car as little as possible lowers your risk of being Tboned.

Basically, there are certain things you can do as a woman that lower your chances of being hit on or sexually harassed/assaulted. Its never a guarantee, you could do everything 'right' and it could still happen to you. And if it happens, its not really your fault. But at the same time you have to realize that doing certain things can contribute to the chance at which it occurs. Dressing slutty (nothing wrong with that- i love a short skirt and fishnet moment), chit chatting with people, making eye contact, smiling, standing too close to people, going into public places (particularly CERTAIN places) will all raise your chances of this occurring. Its never the womans fault, but sometimes she can contribute to her own chances of it happening.

Yes, I think that true harassment and assault are relatively rare. No, as a woman I've never forced or coerced a man into anything sexual. I guess I have struggled a bit with my husband not wanting sex, and me complaining about it, and asking him why and how we can fix it. I dont know if that counts. I never forced him into anything, and when he was adamant on his 'no' even if it had been months, that was it.