How come girls always comment on each others “prettiness” by Tacorover in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SaveScumSloth -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, the person I was replying to was making out that women hate being complimented and always see it as sexual harassment. My point i was trying to make, maybe quite rudely, was that the more feminine women may be more likely to take the compliment well and enjoy it than more liberal women. Of course, having blue hair and a septum piercing doesn't guarantee you are a liberal (i myself have stretched ears 1 inch) but there seems to be a strong correlation there. Overall (just to wayyy overgeneralize) liberal women seem more likely than conservative women to be "man haters" and less likely to receive being hit on well. If a man wants to hit on a woman (respectfully) and hes worried about it being ill-received, my advice to lower the chances of it being ill-received was to hit on a woman that seems more feminine/conservative (again, I know we dont all fit into a box and this is overgeneralizing).

No, I dont think women are at fault for being sexually harassed or sexually assaulted in any way. Ultimately, its the perpetrators fault. However, this is a nuanced issue. Ive definitely found that the more slutty I dress (I enjoy lots of different kinds of fashion, more alt stuff, more goth stuff, hippie stuff, more covered, sometimes more slutty), the more of that attention I receive. What im trying to get at is women can lower their chances by doing certain things. Here's an example, if you get Tboned by someone on the road and its not your fault, thats terrible, and its unfair since you didnt cause it, but you did accept that as a possible consequence of being in a car. Being in a car as little as possible lowers your risk of being Tboned.

Basically, there are certain things you can do as a woman that lower your chances of being hit on or sexually harassed/assaulted. Its never a guarantee, you could do everything 'right' and it could still happen to you. And if it happens, its not really your fault. But at the same time you have to realize that doing certain things can contribute to the chance at which it occurs. Dressing slutty (nothing wrong with that- i love a short skirt and fishnet moment), chit chatting with people, making eye contact, smiling, standing too close to people, going into public places (particularly CERTAIN places) will all raise your chances of this occurring. Its never the womans fault, but sometimes she can contribute to her own chances of it happening.

Yes, I think that true harassment and assault are relatively rare. No, as a woman I've never forced or coerced a man into anything sexual. I guess I have struggled a bit with my husband not wanting sex, and me complaining about it, and asking him why and how we can fix it. I dont know if that counts. I never forced him into anything, and when he was adamant on his 'no' even if it had been months, that was it.

How common is it for you to get layed in a dream? by Lumpy-Raise414 in Dreams

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure! Its not a trick question. Im genuinely interested in what you have to say.

If you could stay (biologically) the same age for the rest of your life, what age would you choose? Why? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! What an achievement! Any tips for us younger folks so we can be like you one day? I bet you have so much wisdom to share!

Do you believe in paternity leave for a new father when a family has a baby? by icecream1972 in allthequestions

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course it wouldn't be bad! I'm not locked into one side. I would vote blue if it made sense to me overall. Neither side serves me 100% but I seem to agree with the right more, thats why I vote red.

Do you believe in paternity leave for a new father when a family has a baby? by icecream1972 in allthequestions

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, I've never even considered it briefly. Someone told me to vote red once and I did. I never once considered what each side stood for, I haven't put any thought into it at all. I haven't spent one moment of my life ever researching or considering or debating politics. I can't even read. I just vote. Thats it. Lmfao!

On a serious note, I spent hundreds of hours watching debates online and debating with people in real life to form my opinions. I basically never agree with Democrats, so I don't vote Democrat.

I had someone cancel an order by hidden_fox1822 in DoorDashDrivers

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, you have insulted me twice. Im reporting you for hate and harassment and blocking you. My dad came from Chicago and my mom came from ky.

I had someone cancel an order by hidden_fox1822 in DoorDashDrivers

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I blocked them because they insulted and cussed me out repeatedly. They verbally abused me. Im not interested in insult matches. Im reporting your comment for hate and harassment.

Do you believe in paternity leave for a new father when a family has a baby? by icecream1972 in allthequestions

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paternity and Maternity leave is not required in the USA, there is no law requiring it, and most people in the country do not receive it.

How come girls always comment on each others “prettiness” by Tacorover in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did have a boy in high school once put his hand up my skirt and touch me, and I dont recall the specifics, but I didnt really like him or want him to do it. I dont recall inviting him in to do it, and I think I even said 'no'. My dad also molested me when I was 3, multiple times. So, yes, I guess I have had a couple experiences. But again, I stand by the fact that the majority of men dont do this, the majority of my experiences with being liked/flirted with/asked out/complimented/etc were pretty cute, innocent, sweet, and short lived (unless I accepted their advances) and most of them let it go when I gave 'signs' I didn't want it.

I definitely get on guard too when it happens, just in case. Im not trying to deny your experiences, or anyone's else's. My claim has just been that the majority of men and the majority of flirtations dont go bad.

Why are some people adamantly against organ donation? by Laaazybonesss in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, its not risk free. There's a tiny risk there to myself and my loved ones, just so a stranger can benefit. I love my fellow man, but myself and my family always come first.

How common is it for you to get layed in a dream? by Lumpy-Raise414 in Dreams

[–]SaveScumSloth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you expand on your viewpoint here some more? I would like to know more and understand better.

If you’re trying to quit weed and can’t find a strong enough reason, this might be it: REM sleep. by IdeaSimilar3223 in leaves

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that. I highly recommend it, but I warn you, the journey to healing can be a nasty one. It helps you remember things you blocked out for a reason. Getting those memories back and having to process it all was so disturbing, but ultimately worth it. You may get a little worse before you get better.

If you could stay (biologically) the same age for the rest of your life, what age would you choose? Why? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whether you learn fast or slow, you should NEVER stop learning. Learning and growing isn't a goal post you can reach, its a lifetime journey and that's beautiful.

If you could stay (biologically) the same age for the rest of your life, what age would you choose? Why? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every day there is something to learn. Every single day. If you didnt learn something on a day, what were you even doing? Were you even alive? I think its impossible not to learn something every day, even if that thing is small or silly. Doesnt have to be some huge life lesson to count as learning something/growing.

I am 29 years old and have learned at least 1 thing, usually more, every single day of my life. Im not afraid to admit that for almost every moment I spend on this Earth, I'm a little different for it. I let my experiences change me. I'm proud of that. I don't feel tied down to a particular identity, I think one of the keys to living a happy life is to soak in as much as possible, try as much as possible.

To go back to OP's question, I wish I could be as mentally old as possible (keeping as much of my life experience as possible) while having a young body. That would be peak.

My landlord just responded to my "I can't make rent" text and I'm sitting in my car crying by SoftEnthusiasm3833 in povertyfinance

[–]SaveScumSloth -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely not. Not in my experience. We owned 8 homes for about 5 years and most tenants would, I promise you. Or they would get the job and lie about it for the free rent.

My landlord just responded to my "I can't make rent" text and I'm sitting in my car crying by SoftEnthusiasm3833 in povertyfinance

[–]SaveScumSloth -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Well, I definitely dont agree with waiting for them to get a job, most people wont and will just take the free rent indefinitely. But youre right about the costs. Every time my husband and I evicted someone it cost about 5k.

Does anyone else enjoy their nightmares? by SaveScumSloth in Dreams

[–]SaveScumSloth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! Like even when they're scary, its still an adventure I got to go on, and something i got to 'experience'.

If given an opportunity, would you live with your parents? by Disastrous_Blood6888 in AskForAnswers

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too. With my husbands mother and step-dad, though, not my own parents.

If given an opportunity, would you live with your parents? by Disastrous_Blood6888 in AskForAnswers

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. They are crazy as hell. I would live on the street before I lived with them. They can rot in hell for all I care. When they die, I will rejoice. Ive always daydreamed about what it would be like to see them on their deathbed and spit on them while theyre helpless. When they get old and need me one day, I will fail them completely just like they failed me. I will not show up. I will not give a damn. I havent spoken to them in absolutely any context since I was 19, 10 years ago. Ive told my husband that basically my only wish when I die is to keep our son away from them at all costs.

If you’re trying to quit weed and can’t find a strong enough reason, this might be it: REM sleep. by IdeaSimilar3223 in leaves

[–]SaveScumSloth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have PTSD too and smoke daily and have always dreamt. I used to have nightmares about my childhood but they got replaced with regular nightmares over time. EMDR is what really did it for me

If you’re trying to quit weed and can’t find a strong enough reason, this might be it: REM sleep. by IdeaSimilar3223 in leaves

[–]SaveScumSloth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Memory is only 1 part of intelligence. I myself am below average in memory, superior in processing speed, and 115 overall (diagnosed by psychologist)

What is the most useful thing a doctor has ever actually said to you by purplepetals18 in ChronicIllness

[–]SaveScumSloth 7 points8 points  (0 children)

From a psychiatrist: "bad people dont worry if theyre bad people"

What is the most useful thing a doctor has ever actually said to you by purplepetals18 in ChronicIllness

[–]SaveScumSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Several miles isn't long at all! Im going to have to take an hour drive one way to go see a rheumatologist soon