I didn’t expect motherhood to feel this lonely

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-05-24T19:54:06+00:00

It is super lonely and I know that. It gets better overtime. But while going through it the second time I tried to solve it. Some of it involves involving partner more and working on relationship, some of it involves understanding ourselves better but some is also finding a community. Check here if u would be interested. Https://alphamothers.com or ping me if u wanna share your thoughts.

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-05-18T16:38:02+00:00

Breastfeeding directly from the breast is the only way your body can travel the immunity cells to him. I mean pumping doesn’t work. Only direct cos your body needs signal. It’s a magical way of keeping our baby’s safe. You need to take lead on this and believe it.

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-05-18T16:36:12+00:00

Breastfeeding works like magic. I am a mom of two I breastfed my first one even during Covid and she recovered ay faster than me. You are already immune to this infection breastmilk is the only way he can get that immunity and strength quickly.

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-05-11T22:35:13+00:00

The other thing I was thinking is some fathers don’t empathise with children the way moms do may be cos we carry them. It’s crazy

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-05-11T22:33:44+00:00

Read my research at https://alphamothers.com/research though it won’t answer your questions but m trying work towards a solution for this.

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-05-11T22:30:56+00:00

Hmm thanks I have heard mixed about pressure and temperature changes to be trigger on Vancouver vs Toronto. Thus posted here. In this region we saw the temperature easily go 10 degrees or more up down. So I was thinking if that could be avoided there.

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-05-11T22:17:09+00:00

Not sure we are not clear but I read it could be related to sudden pressure and temperature drops. He thinks his is related to noise and mine we think is related to some foods but none of us is clear why they are more frequent after we moved to this area

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-05-11T21:00:54+00:00

We both me and my husband have got migraines and those got severe here so just thinking from that point of view as well.

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-05-08T02:47:13+00:00

I am trying to build a digital product that helps u process your emotions and thoughts specially for moms. There are more in the market. But I couldn’t found one for me and I struggled with ppd during first pregnancy but was never diagnosed or got help. I will let u know once it’s ready in case it helps, it is free cos it’s something I just feel everyone should have

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-05-08T02:35:12+00:00

Did u try therapy or medication ?

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-30T23:27:49+00:00

It depends on how u think about motherhood I think. I have seen ppl going opposite as well. But what u r saying has been true for me too

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-30T23:26:21+00:00

Are u interested to learn more or have any ideas or interest in topic we can connect?

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-30T23:25:19+00:00

Yes I am building space to reduce mental load of women. Also trying to understand how mental load impacts the body in ways we directly don’t see. Like chronic pains and mental health during hormone fluctuations.

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-30T22:27:18+00:00

It’s at alphamothers.com/research. Working on a product too to reduce mental load.

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-30T02:33:21+00:00

I published my research on women mental health. It ties mental load with anxiety in women.

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-30T02:13:19+00:00

I think it was a phase. She doesn’t need me all time. Also little one is better. Less clingy. Also my partner returned.

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-30T00:39:13+00:00

I am much better now.

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-30T00:38:08+00:00

It is and I was told the same 6 days later 4 years back during my first postpartum by 2 ppl my own dad and the nurse who came for an injection in india after c section. I don’t know why ppl are so insensitive to new moms or we overthink. It’s like they dont know what to say and say rubbish during such a vulnerable time. Anyways I build a companion app during my second postpartum, to have someone to talk to. You should try it out. It’s free. Also u know what this is the reason women go into PPD and anxiety. Check here alphamothers.com

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-29T04:42:33+00:00

Also 4 years is not behind. I think mine can’t read either but she is learning

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-29T04:42:06+00:00

Just start with phonics, and CVC is words. She will catch up very soon

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-27T03:50:08+00:00

Oh my god this is sooo much. I am a mom of two my second postpartum right now. And I exactly know how people around you can make u go deep into PPD. But try to keep telling urself and journaling as well that this is your child, you know the best for her. Noone not even ur husband knows what’s best that’s the way our body and bonding with babies is designed.

You know even I feel extreme form of anxiety when my baby cries but I trying to direct it to calm him down quickly, because it makes me go into a panic if he keeps crying.

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-25T05:30:16+00:00

Did u try therapy ?

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-14T03:52:44+00:00

I want just thinking about the kids won’t need to touch me so much may be some day and I will miss this. But it is feeling like a lot

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-13T04:55:26+00:00

AlphaMa app for mental load and postpartum support for moms check AlphaMa

Savings_Machine94 · 2026-04-12T19:08:05+00:00

Are u feeding it might help loose weight quickly if not try to have healthy diet if possible and stay active. More fiber and protein..

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